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Neighbour kicked my door down/broke in

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Sparklfairy · 22/09/2024 20:51

AIBU to expect the police to arrest/remove him...?

I live alone in a flat in a block of 4. I have met this neighbour just once, and introduced myself. A few weeks ago he knocked on my door, not threateningly, but persistently - consistent knocking for 3-4 minutes... at 1.30am. I was awake as I WFH but nights, and just ignored it.

He went away, and there's been nothing since. Until yesterday at 6-something in the morning. Again, I was working but the flat was in total silence. No tv or any noise that would disturb him, I was literally just sitting on my bed.

Suddenly I heard a bang and froze. I was confused and didn't know what it was and was trying to work out where it was coming from. 3 or 4 further bangs and my front door burst open and he was stood there, swaying, glassy eyed.

I screamed. It's a studio, tiny flat, like one of those micro flats that you see advertised but yes, this is my life and I had no escape, no room to hide in, not even a bathroom with a lock on the door (as there is no lock, and the bathroom is opposite the front door).

I screamed at him, he said I was 'in' his head, fucking with his head (when I've done absolutely nothing), and when he tried to step towards me I screamed again and he suddenly 'clicked', became lucid and said ok and left. I was shaking.

My other neighbour (upstairs, but next door to him), texted me saying he heard screaming, and let me take refuge in his flat. Before I did, I obviously called 999. The police seemed non committal, that someone would come out at some point. 36 hours later I've had no visit.

But here is the kicker. When hiding in my neighbours flat, my friend/neighbour had the bright idea of just knocking on his door and talking to crazy tenant. He has recorded the conversation where crazy tenant admits I did nothing wrong but I just 'remind him' of someone and that's why he broke my door down

I rang 101 with the crime ref to update. The lady was so helpful and checked with her supervisor as she was astonished no one had come out to me yet. She reassured me that someone would attend and it had been miscategorised/recategorised now.

It's now nearly 9pm on Sunday and STILL nothing. I can't go home. The lock has been 'fixed' but obviously Crazy Tenant has proven that he can break it whenever he likes. I live alone. I have stressed every single detail which should have escalated this, but nothing is being done. I have chased with the letting agent but basically they're saying I have to wait until Monday for any action to be done. And even then, they were non committal as to WHAT would happen.

So I'm stuck, and cannot go home, and my rent is due today. I have no idea what to do.

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OverthinkingOlive · 22/09/2024 21:05

This is absolutely disgraceful!! I can't believe you are being let down like this. I really hope you get full support as of tomorrow. I'd be raising fresh hell over this!

forgotmypassagain · 22/09/2024 21:05

OP this is awful.

please call 999 and report as an emergency as the threat still very much exists

NigelHarmansNewWife · 22/09/2024 21:02

I'm not surprised you don't want to go back. What a terrifying experience. The neighbour clearly has issues. I don't know what to suggest - women's services at the council? The police need to step up.

Lorelaigilmore88 · 22/09/2024 21:02

This is awful. You need.to call 999 again and say you need someone out now. And yes i say call 999 and not 101 because the threat is still there. Did you in anyway minimise what happened on the initial call? Because they usually have a scale to allocate jobs but a stranger breaking into your home whilst you are in it would be classed as urgent.

NavyTiger · 22/09/2024 21:01

Absolutely disgraceful that the police didnt attend straight away

AttachmentFTW · 22/09/2024 21:01

Hi, I don't mean to alarm you but your neighbour sounds like he could be quite mentally ill. I work it mental health, it sounds like he may have some sort of delusional belief about you. It may be that he takes drugs (you mentioned glassy eyed) and that has brought it on but he sounds really not in his right mind. I don't know where you live, can you call 111, select the mental health option and speak to them? Or can you Google your local Mental Health Crisis Team and speak to them. They will probably also get the police involved but hopefully can escalate things. Keep you safe and get him the help he needs.

Pomegranatecarnage · 22/09/2024 21:00

This is outrageous. I don’t know what to suggest other than phoning again and going down to the letting agents first thing in the morning. Maybe contact your MP? It’s neglect. You can’t go back, it’s unsafe.

JohnofWessex · 22/09/2024 20:59

Who do you rent the flat from?

I would be on to the landlord asap especially if they are also next doors landlord.

Do they have an out of hours emergency number?

MountUnpleasant · 22/09/2024 20:56

This is terrifying. I don't know what you should do, but I wanted to say I hope the police come and take him away tonight. It sounds like he might need medicating? So sorry you're experiencing this.

RhiWrites · 22/09/2024 20:55

I’m so sorry this is happening to you. I can’t think of anything to advise but didn’t want to read and run.

Maybe it would help to turn this into a letter and send it to the Police Commissioner?