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Why have a 'gender reveal' party if you clearly want a specificly a boy or girl?

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Healingsfall · 22/09/2024 16:48

Couple I know who's baby is due in January had a "reveal" if boy or girl this weekend. He found out at the scan and planned a reveal for his partner and family/friends.

The last few months she has been saying they think it's a boy, he (her partner) would love a boy etc and they are excited to find out what they're having.

They filmed the reveal and posted it on Instagram, and he looks despondent from the outset, and as they pull the confetti tube things and it pops with pink confetti you can see the disappointment on both faces whilst trying to mask disappointment and act happy. If anyone is a Sex and the City fan it's like watching miranda pull the "excited " face when saying it's a boy!

Clearly, all the people in said video thought it was going to be a boy because their reactions as the pink confetti is displayed wasn't a complete reaction of joy, more surprise, and delayed congratulations. It was really weird.

I found out if boy or girl at the birth of both my children and remember being completely thrilled each time. I can't imagine reacting so deflated at the sight of pink or blue confetti having built everyone up what we thought they might be?

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Blanchemange · 22/09/2024 17:17

I saw a reveal on instagram or facebook where the dad actually had a tantrum because the confetti came out of the balloon pink…

GiveinKim · 22/09/2024 17:16

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Zanatdy · 22/09/2024 17:15

Healingsfall · 22/09/2024 17:14

I'm a big lover of finding out at the birth. Otherwise it would feel like opening your Christmas presents before Christmas day. You go 9 months of growing your baby and it's a big thrilling happy moment when you find out the sex after the long (in my case) drudgery of going through child birth.

I remember telling my mum after I'd given birth that she had a granddaughter and the excitement she must have felt to go out and buy some really cute pink baby clothes that day to bring to the hospital. Same a couple of years later with my ds.

my mum had the excitement on the day. As did all friends waiting to know the gender for 9 months, but I had found out at 20wks but kept it a secret

Zanatdy · 22/09/2024 17:15

I wanted a girl after 2 boys and absolutely no way I’d have found out publically.

Healingsfall · 22/09/2024 17:14

I'm a big lover of finding out at the birth. Otherwise it would feel like opening your Christmas presents before Christmas day. You go 9 months of growing your baby and it's a big thrilling happy moment when you find out the sex after the long (in my case) drudgery of going through child birth.

I remember telling my mum after I'd given birth that she had a granddaughter and the excitement she must have felt to go out and buy some really cute pink baby clothes that day to bring to the hospital. Same a couple of years later with my ds.

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bringincrazyback · 22/09/2024 17:11

Healingsfall · 22/09/2024 16:59

It seems to be a thing now along with baby showers as a normal occasion when having a baby.

Unfortunately. The whole thing just feels grabby and attention seek-y to me.

NPET · 22/09/2024 17:10

Circumferences · 22/09/2024 16:50

All I can say is why on earth does anyone have a gender reveal anyway
Literally, who else cares what sex your baby is. No one. That's who.

The first part of your post I'd totally agree with.
But the second - well it may matter to some people.

NowyouhaveDunnett · 22/09/2024 17:05

Whole thing is ridiculous

Waitingfordoggo · 22/09/2024 17:05

I hate all this nonsense. I’ve seen so many on social media where one or both of the parents is clearly disappointed. Or those awful ones where things go wrong with the fireworks/explosions and they start a fire or someone gets hurt. Hideousness.

I didn’t find out till birth as it didn’t matter to me. I do understand some circumstances where people find out during pregnancy, but putting on a party to ‘announce’ it to everyone else is just a really weird idea to me. ‘Hey everyone, it turns out our unborn baby has this type of reproductive system!’ Erm. Ok!

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angellinaballerina7 · 22/09/2024 17:02

First and foremost, I find the event in general tacky. But you’re completely right - It is so awkward when people do this. If you’re so certain anyway, you don’t need a reveal. And if you’ve got a preference, you need to be a first rate actor because everyone who’s come out at your request to this non-event does not deserve to be put in a position where they’re having to pretend they’re happy when you’ve ruined it for everyone.

Healingsfall · 22/09/2024 16:59

It seems to be a thing now along with baby showers as a normal occasion when having a baby.

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KeyboardMash · 22/09/2024 16:59

The nonsense of the gender reveal party isn't really the issue here. I'm not sure you should be having a baby if you are going to be so sorely disappointed if it turns out to be one of the two things it's equally likely to be....

Boomer55 · 22/09/2024 16:57

I don’t understand gender reveal parties anyway. Other than the parents, who cares? 🤷‍♀️

Circumferences · 22/09/2024 16:50

All I can say is why on earth does anyone have a gender reveal anyway
Literally, who else cares what sex your baby is. No one. That's who.