Why have a 'gender reveal' party if you clearly want a specificly a boy or girl?

The only thing more naff than a gender reveal party is a baby shower.

But you really shouldn't do it if there is any chance you are going to experience gender disappointment.

A gender (or more correctly, sex) reveal party is one of our more nauseating u.s imports.

That, and obvious strong sex preference. People should just be quietly happy about having a healthy baby.

Can’t bear gender reveals. Think they are tacky and grabby (and also what happens if some goes wrong with the pregnancy and you have all that stuff).

I found out my daughter’s sex at birth. It was the most wonderful surprise and everyone was so excited to hear about her birth because they didn’t know in advance. Even a nurse stuck around after her shift to find out.

Also "funny" videos where they reveal the babu's gender is girl and the little boy throws a tantrum and the dads all like "you and me both buddy" kind off thing. What a lovely video for the daughter to look back on (small children being weird about little sisters is fine. The dad needs to grow up)

That's cute

(Not you op) why on earth would they put it online?? Why would they do it in the first place. It's trashy

Utter trash

My husband misunderstood and was totally confused about the nature/timing of gender reveal parties.
He thought, bless him, they took place after the baby was born. So like everyone gathered round the house of the new parents whilst the baby was held aloft, like Simba.
I almost wish it so.

think it would be more like knowing Christmas is happening but not being allowed to buy presents for it until after.

Like so many other things, this idea needs to fuck off back to America and stay there.

@Sunnyperiods Here’s one where a gender reveal led to a forest fire that destroyed five homes and killed a firefighter. (The couple were charged with manslaughter)

amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2021/jul/21/couple-gender-reveal-party-wildfire-charged

i absolutely detest them. Who do people want them? What is their point?

I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant and we've only started telling people in the last week or so as we wanted to wait for our 20 week scan before sharing our happy news. We opted to find out the baby's sex as we wanted to be able to start referring to them as 'he' or 'she' between us. When we started to tell close family and friends they sometimes asked if we knew what we were having yet and, when told we were expecting a girl the response was universally "how lovely". I expect they'd have offered the identical response had we said we were having a boy. While close family members may be interested in knowing if you're having a boy or a girl, it should make absolutely no difference to the way they react to the news. It would be psychotic if they were to express disappointment about the sex of somebody else's baby!
I think gender reveal parties are very odd, though each to their own, but I do feel sorry for the guests at this particular party who were put in the awkward position of figuring out how to act when faced with two obviously disappointed expectant parents, it must have been a most uncomfortable experience for all attendees.

If you google gender reveal gone wrong/gender reveal death etc you’ll find loads of news articles but here’s one with a few different ones listed https://www.todaysparent.com/blogs/trending/gender-reveal-parties-that-ended-in-tragedy/

Also a couple I remember reading about

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-56159731.amp

and

amp.theguardian.com/us-news/2019/oct/29/homemade-pipe-bomb-caused-accidental-death-at-gender-reveal-party

Really?? How?? 😲

I'm not sure you should be having a baby if you are going to be so sorely disappointed if it turns out to be one of the two things it's equally likely to be....

Totally. Morons. If you can’t deal with getting a child of the “wrong” sex, how on earth are you going to cope with a child which has different opinions or ambitions from you.

See also these ridiculous people who insist on having more and more children until they get one of the “right” sex.

And no one is saying or implying that.

Some reveals go way too far with people damaging property, ending up in criminal trouble, being fined and even killing people! They started off ok with the white cake and you cut it and see if it’s blue or pink but some people have really escalated them!

I thought I wanted a girl with my first as I'd just finished nannying for a girl who was scrumptious. I realised I needed to prepare myself for a boy and whenever I imagined my baby in their cot it was actually a boy. I had a boy.

When I was expecting my second I thought another boy would be great as I'd know what I was doing but if I had a girl, shopping! I had a girl.

With my third there was an issue at the scan so I made a snap decision to find out. I was thrilled to be having another boy.

I feel like I got what I wanted every time but of course, I'd have been happy whatever I had and three boys would have been awesome.

As for the comment that no one cares what anyone else has, if I'm speaking to an expectant mum I always say don't tell me but do you know what you are having? I like to wait for the surprise of the birth announcement.

I think gender reveals are a bit odd anyway. If it’s just for fun and the parents don’t really mind it’s ok, but I still wouldn’t have one myself. We found out the sex of our baby really early on before we even announced the pregnancy, but just because we were curious and wanted to be able to say him or her when discussing the baby. We didn’t make a big thing of it. I actually kept forgetting to tell people we knew. People would ask me what I was hoping for and I would respond with “I’ve known I’m having a boy for ages, did I not tell you?”. I don’t know why people get so worked up about gender. I was just excited to be having a baby.

My thoughts exactly.

It does make me lol a bit when people claim it is like opening your presents before Christmas Day. I knew ds was a boy, it didn’t mean I just put him in the corner and forgot about him when I had him!

So true. Snd they seem tacky to me.