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He goes away, I can’t

262 replies

Aspire5253 · 22/09/2024 16:28

DH has been away to Europe without me twice this year. Once with a family member and once to stay with friends. When I was younger I used to visit Canada regularly. I know people there but they are not close friends. I considered going again, alone, as a kind of last hurrah, and relive a few old memories. (I’m 61 but fit).DH says No way and half jokingly that if I went he would change the locks. Basically there is no way I can go. We have plenty of money so the only issue is me going without him. Am I wrong to be annoyed at this attitude.

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midgetastic · 22/09/2024 16:33

Change the lockdown yourself then

rainbowstardrops · 22/09/2024 16:33

I'd tell him to fuck off to be honest. What's good for the goose, is good for the gander.
He doesn't ask your permission, so why do you need to ask his?

Compash · 22/09/2024 16:33

What reason - sorry, 'reason' - does he give for this? Or is it a bullshit one like 'worrying about your safety'? 🤔

thistimelastweek · 22/09/2024 16:32

Regardless of his reasons, how can he actually stop you going?

(And don't make it a last hurrah, make it a first hurrah. )

EverybodyLTB · 22/09/2024 16:32

You’re 61 for goodness sake. Don’t let this sink cost of a man take any more of your life. Divorce and live your life!

MokkaLotta · 22/09/2024 16:31

Goose. Gander. Sauce.
Goodbye DH. YOLO.

MyOtherCarisAVauxhallZafira · 22/09/2024 16:31

What did he say when you said, I'm not joking I want to go and you've been away twice without me this year, so what's the issue?

Fifthtimelucky · 22/09/2024 16:31

Have you asked him why he thinks it's ok for him to go away without you but not ok for you to go away without him?

ThorndonCream · 22/09/2024 16:30

I'm curious why you're still married to him.

JustTalkToThem · 22/09/2024 16:30

When youve talked to him about it seriously, what’s his reasons?

Canonlythinkofthisone · 22/09/2024 16:30

Interested to hear from whoever thinks YABU...

LEAVE THE BASTARD. Jeez. Go, travel, enjoy

Undercoverstory · 22/09/2024 16:30

You know you're.not wrong.

I'm curious to know why he believes it's OK for him but not for you?