At the back of our house, across the road is the grandma of a girl from my DD’s (6) school.
She comes to stay with her grandma midweek and Sundays. My Dd generally ends up upset after playing with her as this girl can say mean things and is quite bratty.
Dd still wants to play with her as she’s just very sociable, but if she goes round, her grandma often keeps her there for ages-eg when I WhatsApp or go round to get her, she’ll say ‘Oh but they just started playing such and such’ or ‘She can join us for lunch/dinmer, is that ok?’ She often gets my Dd gifts too. I appreciate it all and it’s kind, but also a bit much? Dd also has a pal two doors down who nips in and out and she goes there, mum very chilled, she gets on brilliantly with this boy etc and I much prefer this situation.
We often have this girl over for hours on a Sunday and there’s often rows and Dd getting upset. The last time she went over, this girl had been mean to her and she was so upset that night, I vowed to back away from it all.
So today, Dh has taken her out to meet friends at the playground, I’m trying to enjoy a rare afternoon to myself when I hear her shouting over the back fence, so I closed the patio. Next thing they’re driving to the front of the house, my dog started barking, I peeked around the curtain to see who it was and it’s them shouting out of the car for her 😫 I’m in my pjs, so I just backed away hoping they hadn’t seen me and they go to the end of the road, turn around and stop outside again calling out her name,
I know I should have got dressed and gone out to tell them she’s out, but it likely would have involved the grandma making arrangements to drop her granddaughter to us later and I just can’t be doing with it, I also find the grandma buying presents and dropping off happy meals and so on, quite odd? Is it, or am I just miserable?
When the kids come to play here, I provide snacks and drinks and sometimes offer bbq or dinner if they’re here at that time, but I don’t buy presents or go to get them drive thru Mcds, when the child isn’t even with us.
This girl is quite spoiled and mean and will say she’s more beautiful than Dd or has better toys etc, Dd hasn’t encountered that kind of talk yet and has no issues with her other friends, so she gets quite angry/upset by it,
Sorry, long post! The main point of my post was-I think they saw me peek out, what would you do?? Should I send a message saying, sorry Dd is out with her dad and I’m sick so couldn’t come out?