Need some advice so would appreciate some guidance as co parenting is... Hard!
Eldest child is 6, she's been suffering with a water infection for quite some time. At the same time she is struggling with constipation which has resulted in accidents and school saying they can't cope with it (understandably!). I told her dad I would seek support and was given antibiotics and a disimpaction regime which we have had to do before. I've taken time off work to do this.
Dad is saying that I need to tell him before I make medical decisions for the three kids. I told him my plan, sought medical advice, then followed up those messages with what the plan was. I started the meds with our daughter. I didn't hear back for two days now he says I am out of order.
Dad chooses to not go to most hospital appointments despite being fully informed. We go back to court over the kids in November. We do not have a good coparenting relationship, all communication is over an app. Doubting myself now as I'm trying to put boundaries in place. We have a court order at the moment which says I should keep him fully informed of medical info, he has the kids 4 hours a week.
So...
AIBU: Do I need take the kid to the doctors, be given medicine to support and then have dad confirm that it is okay to go ahead?
IANBU: Or do I seek medical advice, inform him in writing and then give the meds as instructed by the medical professionals?