To think my friend stopped talking to me because I received a settlement from work?

She thinks you do not deserve the settlement as she thinks only chancers sue. You might be quite correct to have done so, but often ppl don’t, they just leave

”with an attitude like that young lady” - apparently OP should be sent to bed with no dinner 😂

She is not a nice friend.

Whether it’s because she is jealous, or for another reason. Whatever the reason is, the not telling you why is not nice.

I doubt your friendship will recover.

If my best friend got 40 k after being unfairly treated at work I would be thrilled for her.

Who says that’s OP’s general attitude, or are you projecting also? Why do you presume from that one post that it’s how OP talks to other people?

She’s lost face because she gave you rubbish advice and you proved her wrong. So now she’s embarrassed and made up something in her own head that blames you.

I think unless you come straight out and ask you'll never know the real reason, main thoughts seem to be it could be jealousy when it could infact be a totally different reason.

A different view...
Not knowing what happened at work or how long it took to resolve makes it difficult to have 100% knowledge of the incident, that's no one's business but your own, could your friend have had enough of hearing about it and just got fed up with it being a topic of conversation?

So she views herself as an older sister. You confided in her and she told you to take the settlement that you were offered. You negotiated for yourself and got more. Substantially more.

She may be letting her ego override your relationship. I simply think that she views herself as superior to you.

Bollocks.

Many years ago, when my parents died, as an only child I inherited all of their modest estate. It meant we were able to buy a car for the first time. I was shocked at the attitude of some of the people we knew then

I can relate to this post so much. Lost my mum young and my dad not long afterwards. Only child.

I also inherited, certainly not millions or anything but enough to help me quite a lot. It shocked me the nasty attitudes of some people - asking to borrow money, making snarky comments about how "lucky" I was when I was still grieving etc.

Meanwhile, their parents had been to their weddings, met their grandchildren etc. Something my own mum never got a chance to do which is the sadness of my life.

People's attitudes towards money is really vile sometimes. I dont talk about money ever now due to the nastiness/viciousness it brings out in people.

With an attitude like that I'm not surprised she's stopped talking to you - settlement or no settlement.

You didn't take her advice and you are financially much better off for it. I'm guessing that she feels undermined and a little jealous. Well done for sticking to your guns.

Sounds like this to me too

I think this is it. People are not always as nice as you think they are. Ask anyone who's had a serious illness - there are always some 'friends' who don't help in any way at all, sometimes others who avoid them.

I think its jealousy op. Would def keep a distance. I dont tell people much now as its not worth it!

Given your relationship, I think that she is miffed that you didn't take her advice to settle at £10,000 and the fact that you then were awarded 4 times as much means that you were right not to take her advice. She is used to being in the more experienced older sister role that always knows best. This has put her nose out of joint.

Op, are you not bound by non-disclosure clause?

I was going to say jealousy and/or a changed dynamic, and your later posts support this. She’s always been the “big sister”. Now you’ve shifted gears, you’ve taken charge of things, you’ve stood up for yourself (against her advice), you’ve got a good payment from it. Maybe she needs to be needed.

Usually the terms involve not even saying you've got a settlement in the first place. I don't agree with this, but all the ones I've been aware of in some way have made it absolutely clear you can't mention it exists, much less that you got forty thousand or whatever out of it.

You really do find out who your friends are in the good times. People love to be around others misfortune, because it makes them feel 'lucky' & elevates them. But only a real friend can be happy for your good fortune. I found this out when I unexpectedly came into money.

If she’s not a colleague then yes that’s weird that she’s acting funny about it given there’s no chance of it effecting her.

I don’t agree with PP suggestion that it’s NDA related either. Nobody in the real world thinks omg you shouldn’t be telling me this info that your random boss who I don’t know from adam has asked you not to repeat.

Is she perhaps in financial difficulty herself at the moment so struggling not to be a bit jealous? I’d hedge my bets on that or as others suggested, she’s enjoyed being the one with money, orrrrrr as she’s treated you in the past she’s annoyed that you haven’t yet returned the favour now she feels you are able.

I think it is envy. My BF married a very wealthy man and overnight she was dropped by a surprising number of our mutual friends. And was the subject of some really awful talk, and people who tried to milk her by expecting her to pay for everything.

Last year my older DS was awarded middle rate care DLA and lower rate mobility. I have told not a single soul because I know we will be the recipient of nastiness. Even though I doubt anyone would want their own child to have the significant difficulties mine has.

And have you offered or ever reciprocated?