Man in 40s says one of the things he looks for is someone who likes kissing

Yep. And I just think they’re the type who expect to ram their tongue down your throat on the first date regardless of how it goes

Personally I shudder when men put on their OLD profile they love kissing and cuddling or that they’re tactile.

Surely most people like to kiss and hug when the time is right but to specifically mention It comes across that they want to grope and paw you on demand.

Just to add: I said it further up (along with others) but now I've thought about it, in the male mind this is code for sex. Because, unlike us women, they never want just kissing, do they? They almost always get hard and want sex. So that's likely what he means, I believe.

Can I just say I'm so done with dating apps and the weird behaviour/statements they seem to trigger? I know, I know- it can happen in real life, too.

Me too, and biting 😳
although I must say, only DH 😂
so not a random bloke although if I didn’t have DH this would still be something I could get on board with enjoying from another source I suppose!

He's just being too forward too quickly and it's obvious he's just dying to have sex.

If you really like him otherwise then just manage his expectations, otherwise move on swiftly.

Sorry I posted twice, no idea how I did that, be great if we had a delete button!

Is this in OLD? I've seen it before, it's so they can then complain if you don't want to kiss, hug or have sex with them. No-one has to write 'I like kissing, hugging or having sex', it's more unusual to not like these things although it can be a matter of preference. People who say this also say Ideal Woman = kind. They don't really want someone kind,they want someone who doesn't make them do 50% of the chores and is critical if they don't. It's all an OLD code and I avoid men who 'like kissing' like the plague. Ikky before you have even started!

Is this in OLD? I've seen it before, it's so they can then complain if you don't want to kiss, hug or have sex with them. No-one has to write 'I like kissing, hugging or having sex', it's more unusual to not like these things although it can be a matter of preference. People who say this also say Ideal Woman = kind. They don't really want someone kind,they want someone who doesn't make them do 50% of the chores and is critical if they don't. It's all an OLD code and I avoid men who 'like kissing' like the plague. Ikky before you have even started!

It's code for 'do you like shagging?' He's testing you out. These conversations shouldn't be had by text ,they'd give me the ick too.

I like kissing. I really like a bloke with a bit of stubble kissing my neck. Not sure I’d message someone to say that. If he’s given you the ick though move on to the next one , you never get over the ick imo.

I’m really intrigued by the fact some people don’t like kissing. Nosily, because I wonder how they do sex without passionate snogging?!

For those of you who don’t like kissing but your OH’s do, I imagine they might put something like this on a dating profile if they were ever single again 🤷‍♀️.

I like kissing, but the ‘quality’ (ie is it my style too?) of kissing is so varied. It’s like shoes, if they fit properly you couldn’t imagine life without them, if they don’t then you’ll dislike them intensely.

Tbf that was the impression I got from the OP however given the update that you were actually discussing likes in a person/relationship I think it's more reasonable that he said it

I take it you'd rather be with someone who didn't want to be too close to you. I quite like that my OH still likes to ķiss and cuddle.

Maybe he is a bad/sloppy kisser and previous partners didn’t like his kisses. Urgh, guess there’s only one way to find out 😉

Is it just very clumsy code for "liking sex"? 🤔

Glad I’m not the only one 🤣

Would be a no from me.

I don't mind kissing but prefer other things like vampire kisses on the neck.

The thought of someone putting this as a perquisite would not offend me but I would politely decline.

He is flirting, wants to check if you would be interested in a relationship.
If what you want is a friendship, then stop messaging him, just do not reply. Or say, not for me, thank you.
As approaches go, I give him an 7/ 10.

I think it sounds odd to us because he makes it sound like waterskiing or stamp collecting - a hobby or pastime in itself. I love kissing my DH, but that’s because I want to kiss him - nor because I just love snogging in general. There’s a a sort of weird detachment in it, like it doesn’t matter which warm body is around on which he can do this thing he likes.

I'm not a kisser. I know I'm in the minority . This would be a deal breaker for me and I couldn't have a relationship with someone that it held great importance too.

(Tongues are gross, keep your food flecked tooth licking pink big fat pink slug in your own mouth and out of mine. ).

Feels reasonable to me - I have dated people who really didn't like kissing and found it made us incompatible.

Agree its a bit much for a pre meet convo, kind of laying down an expectation of a kiss.
Also.... with OLD imagine the person you are chatting to is talking to multiple people at the same time. The thought of a guy saying this to multiple women feels so ick.