I was talking to a friend about my stressful work and how I have a supportive male colleague who always helps me. For context- banking/London. We are peers and work on deals together, although we are in different departments. Over the years, we have developed a close and respectful relationship. If I ever need anything, he is there to help. He unloads to me, and I to him. He calls a lot for support and asks for my opinion on work, difficult work situations, and personal stuff. He’s not like this with others, but OK, he’s an introvert. My friend claims I am being ridiculous, allowing me to get into this situation. She said that since we are both married, it isn’t acceptable for him to call me/come to my desk that much. That this is an EA! I think she’s been unfair, and she doesn’t get it. We are work friends, and although he has always been a tad generous with his compliments about my work, nothing odd ever happened. I don’t see him like that, I see him as someone who’s a great source of support at work. Who’s unreasonable here?