Friend picking on me on holiday and I snapped

This. OP please wander off and do your own thing for the rest of the holiday.

This was me and a friend in Turkey (actually she ruined every holiday we went on). She obvs did it to hid her insecurities but even though I knew that it did not help! She had died so I no longer have to look for excuses not to go with her anymore! I prefer to be on my own but she would not be happy on her own!

Yes I agree with moving hotels. She sounds awful.

Read a book? Tell her to bloody stop videoing you.

I'd not spend a minute longer around such a negative toxic person.

All meals going forward alone. Bin her off OP.

Judgmental people like this are the worst people to hang around. They sap you of every joy of life, make you start to question everything about yourself and make you want to crawl under a stone and come out again.

Basically OP you're on holiday with a bully.

I'd cut all contact.

She sounds awful. I would be dropping her like a hot potato.

This!

1. Delete the videos of her from the phone.
2. Ask her to repeat every time she makes a snarky comment
3. Block her the second you land.

It’s not you…..

It’s not that holidays with friends aren’t for you, OP. It’s holidays with this particular ‘’friend’’ that aren’t for you, she’s very obviously insecure and trying to compete with you. She’s a bitch. Tell her to fuck off and that you know what she’s doing. I bet she shuts up. Then drop her when you get home!

Yeah...she deserves that tbh

What a cow, she's no friend OP. If it were me I'd sneakily take a quick video of her and post it to the group chat in retaliation.

God she sounds a right bloody cow. Good for you to call her out on it.

Drift apart op

You’ve made me realise holidaying by myself isn’t as bad as I thought.
Any trips you can go on last few days? Book one and just say at last minute I’m off to xxx, see you later. Or grab a bus/taxi to somewhere?

Holidaying with friends can be painful and she certainly sounds a pain.

I overheard a passive aggressive comment between friends myself on holiday this year from 2 women lying on sun loungers in front of us.

Friend 1 (obese) " how tall are you?"
Friend 2 (slim) - gives an answer
Friend 1 "wow - you should weigh more than you do at your height. You're too skinny"
Friend 2 - silent (probably gobsmacked)

Perhaps she feels awkward with silences, especially as the two of you are not close . I'll admit to doing the retelling of stories I've already mentioned on WhatsApp as there's a difference between a two line update and the full story .

Perhaps you could start listening to music or reading a bit more when you are both alone together (or at least pretending to) or head out on a few trips or something . Whatever you can do to make this holiday more bearable really .

And yes there's a big difference between meeting someone for coffee for a couple of hours, and going away with them. Especially if sharing a room. If you're considering a similar trip in future with another friend I would go for a weekend and separate rooms in the first instance .

Persistently projecting her insecurities on you. Yawn. There’s so many of these people around. No time for them personally. I wouldn’t be keeping in touch.

What did you actually say when you 'snapped' and what was her reaction?

She's sounds more like your enemy than your friend and the filming of you and sharing it is outrageous!

Going solo is so much easier, I can do people watch and not have to get involved with conversation - bliss

Videoing you without your permission and putting it on the group chat is out of order. What did you say to her? Hope it was ' fuck off and leave me alone' Download an audio book and stick some headphones in, ignore her for the rest of the holiday and change your seat on the flight home if you can. She doesn't seem like a close friend so just tell the group chat that she was a bitch and ruined your holiday. If the others saw the video and thought it was not nice, they would probably understand.

Just read your second post about videoing you in unflattering situations and then sending them to others, for this alone I would ditch the friend. She is out for herself only and doesn't care about your feelings, just to get some attention for herself. I have had 'friendships' like this in the past, and thats were they stayed in the past. Do you remember how you came to be friends, did you have a shared interest or work together or something.

I am sorry you are having this as a holiday is presumably something you have worked hard to afford and spent a while looking forward to.

Turn it back on her ask her if she’s feeling ok because she isn’t being nice. Right now she doesn’t sound like a friend. I backed away from a friendship like this. It was questioning not conversation. Possibly jealousy. I decided they were her issues not mine and backed away.

“You don't really know a person until you live with him, travel with him or do business with him”

― Omar ibn al khattab

In case, DEFINITELY surreptitiously film her next time she's being mean! I bet the group chat would love the update.

She is not a friend, she is an insecure bully who is using you to make herself feel better. Not that it is any excuse. Decide now the friendship is over, enjoy your holiday free of her and if she asks why things cooled, just tell her it was the way she was to you on holiday,

Going away on holiday frequently helps you see who your real friends are - this one isn't a friend.

Borrow her phone and delete the videos of you, also off whatsapp. Take an unflattering video of her, send it to her privately, and threaten to put it on the whatsapp group if she takes any more of you.

Wear headphones and smile and nod a lot while listening to your music or a podcast, and drop her off your friendship group when you get home.