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Friend picking on me on holiday and I snapped

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Poolsiders · 21/09/2024 14:04

Have been on holiday for four days with friend in Turkey and she hasn’t stopped making comments to me the whole time.

Ever since the airport, it’s been this sly little things and I don’t understand. I’ve just snapped at her and now she’s gone off saying I’m unreasonable and I don’t think I am.

Started with putting my case down, “you’ve got a lot of black in there are you here for a holiday or a funeral?” Then at the bar “why are you having that cocktail, why are you wearing that to go down to dinner, why why why” questions.

Constantly listening to stories about all her family members including great aunts, sisters lives stories but tried telling her about something I’m going through and got a “I’ve already heard this you typed it on the group chat” And then resumes to show me pics of her aunts dog :/

Sat on the sunbed, not feeling the most confident as I’ve gained weight recently but friend is bigger than I am. Never mention her weight ever to her. she keeps I think hinting people find me gross?

“That lady keeps looking over at you?” Me “oh is she, I don’t know why” “yeah she keeps giving you really dirty looks” I was like erm ok.

Then today at lunch, “that lady over there looked at you so disgustingly when you were eating that tomato with your hand” I did pick up a bit tiny that I couldn’t cut but usually manners are brilliant “she obviously thinks you’re disgusting”

I was like ok, then got up and wiped my hands and she said “are you seriously leaving that tissue you’ve wiped your hands on your dirty plate?” And I just snapped.

I actually don’t think that holidays with friends are for me. Had this once before when I was younger I think tensions run high when you’re away with someone.

my mum actually fell out with her best friend of 15 years on holiday and they never spoke again apparently it’s common to lose friends when holidaying!

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SauviGone · 21/09/2024 14:08

She’s probably like this with you a lot of the time, you’ve only just really noticed it as it’s so intense being with someone 24/7.

Tell her to fuck off, enjoy the rest of your holiday alone, and ditch her completely when you’re home.

YellowphantGrey · 21/09/2024 14:08

That sounds exhausting. Is she normally like it?

I'd have told her to fuck off by now. What did she do after you blew your lid?

Onlyonekenobe · 21/09/2024 14:06

I think it depends on the friends.

forgotmypassagain · 21/09/2024 14:06

YANBU!

tell her to fuck off