Friend picking on me on holiday and I snapped

Holidays with friends or extended family can be a pain - my ex-inlaws had friends sharing for the first week who were pleasant enough, but a different set for the second week who were a pain in the arse (room changes etc).
It ended up in arguments, ex & me falling out, family and friends falling out and then ganging up on me because i stood up to them - i was completely ignored on the return trip, suffice say I they're all "ex" now !

Not a friend, dear. A bitch. Get rid.

Your friend sounds like she's not so much your friend. Maybe she has her own stuff going on. You can find people who will treat you with more respect, I'm sure.

You must be home now @Poolsiders.
How did it end up? I wouldn’t blame you if you’ve gone NC

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Walk away... I had a "friend" like this. We went on holiday and I experienced a similar situation. I haven't spoken to her in 6 years now and I've not missed her one bit. That's not someone you want in your life.

Dear/Darling Child.

whats a dc?

Unpopular opinion perhaps. But I did pick my tooth the once, then found tooth picks, but I did do it it is a bad habit but im working on it.
People will be saying things espeically the judgmental people out there, you can ignore them. But the friends should be the ones who you can vouch for and have your back, not causing you the headache.

They should be able to be objective and you as well with them, if this person who says they're your friend is giving you more headache than they're adding value, (unless they're pushing you to do better then perhaps) it's worth reviewing your circle.

About the gaining weight, im trying to gain it and I do look better and feel better gaining some muscle, if you're ok being your size and you've not got there by coping with food like I have done in the past then ignore everyone, if you feel losing some (in a healthy way) may gain you that confidence to do more in life go for it.

Either way you snapped perhaps because you didn't know how else to react and didn't think a friend would belittle you, there's plenty of people out there on bumble, cut down your time with this friend and focus on yourself and new cricle, also maybe come back and review them in a month or so, but write down some things have affected you and just see if they give you the time to listen. If they do, they're worth maybe giving a second chance if they stop the picking on you. If they dont want to listen then put and to that friendship there and then.

You're right.It's the same accusation everytime someone is bullied and tries to report it. "What did YOU do to be bullied?" It's called victim blaming.

WHAT A NASTY COW. THATS NOT A FRIEND !!!!

What a cow she is

Don't beat your self up. We all would have snapped at that. In her defence holidays can bring the stress out in us all. Personally I don't holiday with friends for exactly this reason. Tell her she is being totally unreasonable and suggest she spends some time alone to think about her actions. It's your holiday so wear whatever makes you feel comfortable. It's none of her business, but please do try to enjoy your holiday. Good luck. X

Sorry if I've offended you. I do believe the 'friend' sounds horrible according to the account given. I was asking the OP if something else had happened so let's see.

If the OP had done something to annoy the friend then that issue should have been addressed BY THE FRIEND instead of her constant barrage of nastiness. And I don't pick up anything in the post to make me think OP is exaggerating or lying. Or don't you believe anyone's posts?

I didn't say that and you appear to be taking all of the comments the poster made as facts. So I am serious and just simply asked if there was something else that may have been part of this communication issue.

I believe youngsters call this "negging". She's trying to undermine your confidence with all these little digs because she feels crap about herself. Don't allow her insecure nastiness drag you down OP - and as others have said, have nothing more to do with her when you get back to Old Blighty.

Seriously ?? The friend videos her and posts it without her consent... says people are giving her the evil eye... makes ridiculous unnecessary comments about a napkin on a plate... makes nasty personal comments...... and god knows what else.... and you wonder what the OP may have done to deserve it ?? Get a grip !!! She blocks her and never speaks to her again.... THEN all will be resolved !!!

Just a thought. Nobody is perfect so it possible that you have done anything that might have upset her? If you still have any chats with her that might be a good time to ask. All might be be resolved then.

I had similar problems with a friend on holiday - constantly slating (my home) the North & northerners wouldn't stop 'advising' on the protracted sale of our business that was depressing me and generally putting down my life. Eventually I snapped and said very firmly "ffs just Shut Up!" before waking off. She looked totally shocked and was sweetness and light for the rest of the week. Win! 😀

Friends don’t constantly undermine and criticise.
i am assuming she is completely perfect (in her own head)
Tell her to keep her passive aggressive digs to herself or this toxic one sided friendship is over

The best person to ask woukd be her ex! They would know how her abusive character truly is.

Our family travelled to another country to meet up with friends.. Their idea.. One day I catered and cooked for the 2 families... Their turn came around and the dw declared the campsite shop was shut so they cancelled. No offer of another time. We discussed a day trip away from the campsite.. Got up to find they had already gone. We left the next day and set up on another site. The narrative to our work colleagues was very different on returning home.
Also was pregnant and had a dc 21 days of getting home full term. Never spoke to her since. Vowed never to go away with anyone again.

Holidays are precious time to re charge.

Without guilt I would tell her that you are finding yourself incompatible for a trip together so you prefer to continue on your own.
You might well meet another lone traveller and have the best time of your life after this split. It happened to me once.
I had a holiday with girls I didn't know, one was a model and was obviously feeling superior, she was judgemental, dirty, entitled, and then staring at me with that look.. She stated that her biggest problem was dating too many guys and not knowing what to choose.. and definitely she was ruining our time.
I decided to quit and had a wonderful time on my own.
Met other people including a guy and enjoyed myself.

Life is precious and you'd come back stressed regretting not quitting in time. She must have problems that it's not your job to fix and not on a holiday.

Absolutely this! Get in first, confide in a good friend on there, you could always send her the examples here and ask if she's ever been like that with them and how confused and upset you are.