I have a boyfriend we don’t yet live together together for a number of years. Moving in and marriage is discussed and on the cards but no rush from either side. Each have kids and shared parenting with our exes. All of that is fine.
We have been on 2 big family holidays abroad over the years we have been together (popular European holiday destinations child centred holidays) and I’ve arranged weekends away in the UK as a couple a few times, usually one night stay in a hotel or Airbnb in the countryside.
We get time alone as a couple regularly but boyfriend has a pet, so we have to factor this in. When we go away as a family his parents have the pet. As a couple all of our activities revolve around our kids, wider family and pet.
Before we met boyfriend was well travelled, his parents took them all away to different places all over the world a lot up until adulthood. He has even lived abroad for a while. My parents only ever took us to one same place in the U.K. to visit our grandparents every year. He travelled a lot with his ex before kids and they have been to loads of places.
My ex and I went once to Spain to a holiday resort before we were child free and then I have been a single mum for a long time so all I could afford was caravan holidays in the U.K. My ex has taken our kids abroad lots of times as he is able to afford it.
I am getting into my 40’s now and I have not travelled very much even my own DC have seen more of the world than I have. Boyfriend was invited to go away out of the U.K. with friends twice this year and he has gone away and I’ve been left with the pet (I did offer that’s on me).
I do not have anyone else to go away to travel with, none of my friends want to do adult trips as they go with their husbands or kids. I don’t want to do boozy drinking trips just see new things and live life. I keep asking BF to come away with me but then there always seems to be a reason why we don’t go, money, time, kids, work and also he isn’t really fussed he has travelled loads and been to most of the places I would like to see. I can take my kids away for a weekend city break but it’s not the same as travelling with an adult I want an adult trip, and my kids don’t really want to do that type of thing. Yeah I know I could go alone too but that makes me feel worse.
He knows it means a lot to me and we talk about it but nothing is ever booked. I’m home alone all weekend, I’ve tried planning stuff with friends they are all busy so just me pet sitting while he is in a beautiful city I am dying to visit.
I don’t know why this annoys me so much but when we talk about holidays and I would love to go to Italy, he will suggest we save up for years and go on a massive trip to like, fucking New Zealand instead.
Maybe I want to scream* in the Sistine Chapel in my 40’s, not on the set of LOTR when I am 70.
*joke I would never
I am just feeling sorry for myself I am BU ok thanks for reading 😁