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To feel a bit embarrassed my nearly four year old is in a class with two year olds!

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notaswimmer · 21/09/2024 08:13

I know I shouldn’t but …

We have been going swimming since ds was a baby. The final class before they are able to swim independently is aged from two to starting school.

DS can’t yet swim independently, not even a little bit. So he’s still in that class - but all the other children are aged two. Now we’ve gone back after summer the difference is quite marked.

its my issue I know

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 21/09/2024 08:17

Our swim school starts lessons age 4- I really don’t think it’s a worry a 3yr old hasn’t learned to swim yet.

Milkandacookie · 21/09/2024 08:17

I did sessions all through with my first and then realised it made little difference on the whole

Second - we did fun sessions and swam with ourselves but kept it as play. Around 5th birthday she had private 1-1 lessons to get to be able to swim a width which didn't take long. Honestly so much of the lessons until they can swim is the teacher taking one of them across at a time and the rest watching. This was the best money spent. Joined normal group lessons when she could swim widths and able to swim lengths by 6.5.

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notaswimmer · 21/09/2024 08:17

CheshireDing · 21/09/2024 08:15

He's been going to swimming lessons for nearly 4 years and can't swim independently ?

Is that correct , or maybe I have misunderstood

Yes, that’s correct and your post clearly implies that someone (me? them?) have done something seriously amiss or that ds is seriously behind?

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Zapx · 21/09/2024 08:17

At 4 children at the lessons near me are eligible for different classes, that are independent with a teacher instead of parent. Could you look to move him when he’s 4 or is there nothing else available?

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notaswimmer · 21/09/2024 08:16

I don’t think I am wound up. I just feel a little bit self conscious at having my almost school age child in the same class as toddlers and I know that’s my issue!

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Didimum · 21/09/2024 08:15

I just don’t think it’s worth getting wound up about this sort of thing. He’ll learn to swim in his own time. I didn’t learn to swim until I was an adult due to a medical issue. Don’t feel embarrassed for your child.

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notaswimmer · 21/09/2024 08:15

I think he’s a bit ambivalent - some of the things are starting to feel a bit babyish but I don’t think he minds that. I do feel like we’re stuck at the same level we have been for the past eighteen months which is a bit rubbish in some ways (not suggesting it’s anyone’s fault!)

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LegoHouse274 · 21/09/2024 08:15

Are you still in the water with him? Tbh personally I'd move him, a lot of 'regular' classes start from age 4 and some from age 3 which would mean he would be children his age or older and you wouldn't need to go in the pool with him anymore which makes it all so much quicker and easier too.

CheshireDing · 21/09/2024 08:15

He's been going to swimming lessons for nearly 4 years and can't swim independently ?

Is that correct , or maybe I have misunderstood

Zapx · 21/09/2024 08:14

Does he still enjoy it?

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