To think this is abuse.

This is crazy. Don't leave your job. What an evil little man.

This. In spades. It’s controlling, nothing more. Leave.

Keep the job, leave the DH.

Don't leave your job. I understand and she's at a tricky age. So just plan for leaving. Start seeing how it would work, the opportunities in the next year or so at work, getting the feelers out of getting your own accommodation. Do entitled.to calculator and see about finances on your own. Start planning. You will be glad you did if it gets to a point you have to go suddenly.

He will have a problem any job you do..I had the same issue and had a call to get home mid shift. He will always make it difficult and stressful. Hazarding a guess here..but does he make everything your fault and do subtle digs at you constantly? If so it chips away over time even if you think your rising above it and it impacts every part of your life x

Oh and to add, 5pm is a great finish time. I rarely shut my laptop before 6.30pm. Husband doesn't complain and sorts the kids, gets the dinner on even though he's worked all day too (and is the highest earner). That's normal and is what a marriage should be about - love and support both ways. I can't imagine being with someone willing to kill my career, knowing it would make me unhappy.

Sorry OP it sounds really stressful x

But it’s not going to stop, he’ll just moan when you have a new job which you don’t like and you’ll be even more unhappy. Don’t you see that?
What work does he do?
Do not leave your job! Ignore his texts for the last hour of the day.

OP - he doesn't just dislike this job, he'll dislike any job you have. Currently it's only an hour that presumably you could get after school club for (or move to 7-4 with breakfast club). Currently you have an easy option. If you move to the weekend job you will have NO options and I would place money on him making your life difficult do you leave your job and are then in a very vulnerable position - right where he wants you.

Please listen to posters on here. Your DD would be better (and safer by the sounds of it) in club for a short time. A good test would be to sort the childcare and then see what he says - again I'll bet it'll be something else to grind you down 😟

Come on OP, how many people can say they have a job that they absolutely love.
Please don't do this. The new job isn't going to make anything better.

Do you have a workspace where you can lock him out or can you use earplugs?

Time to find your anger and tell him you have had enough of listening to his whining.

If you wont leave put your daughter into breakfast club.

Dont have another child with an abusive man and work on ways to kick him out.

This doesn't make sense. He is moaning about having to look after the kids for small amounts of time in your current, very flexible job but won't be moaning about caring for them every other weekend, at night time and over Christmas?

This is just about him preventing you from doing a job that you love. He will start moaning again when you start your new job. He is not looking after his children properly and it will be worse for them if you get the new job as he will be neglecting them more often.

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This.

Getting this job seems easy now but will bring a whole load of new problems that your husband will quickly find.

It is very concerning how unsupportive he is of your role. Please don't leave the job and consider leaving him.

The other job would be worse for your child when you're wording later / weekends / Christmas

I don't think it's the job you need to leave, it's him! He's being completely unreasonable, and cutting his nose off to spite his face, as the new job's hours seem far worse!

OP, this is about control. Him controlling you. Believe me, he won't want to do the weekends etc if he can't cope with an hour he will start harassing you about the new job.

Stay with the job you have.

Start planning to leave.
Good advice in here about ensuing you know what benefits you might be entitled to, start putting some money aside.

As a lone parent I can tell you life is a lot easier without a useless, controlling man in it.

It makes me so sad thinking that you and your DD might continue to live your life with this man and I don't even know you.

Use breakfast club, use whatever you can to be able to remain in your job that makes you happy, you are going to need it more than you realise if you are going to continue going home to him.

Please do consider leaving. There is a lot of help out there for a single mother with a young child and it might not be as bad as you think. Yeah it will be tough, yes there will be a financial hit, maybe you will need to change your lifestyle, live somewhere you don't like much for a while and it will take time to get your life back together but...what is the cost of staying, for both of you?

What would happen if you was very firm with him that you love your job, you're staying in your job, you will be working until your finish time of 5pm and that you will not listen or respond to him any further about the matter?

Oh dear. Don't get a new job, keep the one you love, you're going to need it. Your work will never please him; when you're finally chained to the sink you'll be a lazy stay at home mum who doesn't clean enough, cook enough nor look after children properly. And I pay for everything! You're so entitled. Do not surrender your autonomy to this man. No man, no matter how wonderful he appears to be, is worth the loss of self esteem and disappointment that will follow. Talk to Women's Aid.

I'd definitely stick at the current job. Could you consider moving to 8-4? I know you don't want breakfast club for you DD but that would put your performance back on track at work and in a more secure position to look at what changes you want in your relationship?

Keep the job you love / pay for childcare and plan to leave your husband. Don’t whatever you do take the other job - be much harder to cope with out of hours care as a single parent.

I am sorry to say that your husband sounds like an absolute asshole.
Don't change jobs. It will only get worse if you do. Imagine his behaviour around him and your child during weekends and holidays.
Life is so, so short. Leave him, he will be happier by himself after all without your job to worry about. And you will be happier without being dragged down by someone like him more importantly. Couples do not normally behave like this towards each other. Teamwork is everything when you have children. The only team he is on is his own and you deserve better

Your husband is thick. What would he do if you started moaning when he is leaving the house before 6 that it is too early and he needs to get his daughter up and dressed before he goes to work or get a job that allows him to to that? I know it’s easy to say you should leave but he really does sound like an idiot. Does he have any redeeming features?

Stay in the job where they know you and you have a good track record. Have you been there more than 2 years?

Sounds like he wants you in a new job so that he can make life very very difficult and you end up with no job at all - they'd get rid of you because you'd be continually asking not to do weekends etc because he'll be refusing to do anything at home.

Move your hours to 8-4 for the now until you’re child is older.

Also make a plan to leave this manchild

Keep the job, leave the husband