To think this is abuse.

For the love of Christ. Please get rid of this piece of shit

^This. Don't put up with his controlling shit.

Your present job sounds ideal for you and something you enjoy doing...keep it! Your child is the responsibility of both parents so he's just going to have to suck it up and accept that's what you want to do.
Who is to say if you get this other job that he'll be demanding you give that up too.
I remember having to ask permission to have a shower or pop to the shop when mine were little as their dad didn't like watching them. That relationship didn't last long after I realised he wasn't being supportive. I was so used to doing almost everything on my own I didn't miss him being there.

Don't leave the job. Leave the controlling cunt.

Tell him you didn’t get the new job

Woah lady you need a light a fire inside and make this man’s life hell until he backs off.

Respectfully what the fuck are you doing?!

Does dh hate his job & is jealous that you love yours?
How does he envisage being able to get to work for 6 himself if you are working some nights?
What is it about 4-5 that makes him not want you to work then?

Don't leave your job.
Chuck this bastard.
Don't dig a hole for yourself.

100% this is abuse, and particularly nasty manipulative abuse at that. I think he wants to control and break you. He wants you in a job that will mean you see far less of your DD - and I'm guessing that seeing as you already do the lion's share of the wifework, you'll be a stressed-out shell by Christmas.

Plan A - Ideally you should leave him.

Plan B - Stand up to him and tell him you won't be leaving your job, so there's no point in him moaning about it.

Exactly.
He will pester you so much in your next job that you will leave work entirely. You are walking into a trap!!!!!! Stop please!!

This is a form of control. He is not an active parent and when you change your job, he'll find something else to control!

Fuck. That. Do not leave the job you love.
Ditch the twat. He's a terrible dad and a terrible partner. You really would be so much happier without him.

Oh god, OP, leave him. Keep the job you love, with good colleagues and EVERYTHING that fits around what you need it to. It seems the thing that doesn't fit is your DH. He will get you sacked or force you to leave the next job too. He has freely admitted he will never step up an parent.

I know you feel there is no way out right now. Maybe it would be better to wait a year or two (only you know), but start planning now. And DON'T quit your job. I know you don't want to put your child in childcare, but do that if he's refusing to look after her for the 1hr of your final working day. It will cost you in the short term, but it will be worth it in the long term.

Find out what benefits you would be entitled to if you split. Presumably you will need to pay nursery or aftercare fees too- is there funding for this?
Speak to a family law solicitor to find out where you stand.

Keep doing the job you love - if you do split, you need that bit of constancy in your life.

He is abusive and vile. He won’t want. 50:50 if he moans about looking DC now. In fact, keep a diary of all his complaints as this is evidence he doesn’t want to care for the DC and will help your case when you split.

Get a childminder or babysitter for the hour. Don’t leave your job, just please don’t.

He is not right in the head.

I'd bet money that he's jealous of your success. Start planning your exit. DON'T give up the job you love that you've worked so hard for. Give HIM up.

Don't leave your job! It's really rare to love your job. Stay there! Why would you want to.work weekends instead of until 5pm?! You'll hardly spend time with your child, because your partner is too lazy to care for her for an hour! Keep going with your job. It's perfectly normal to finish work at 5pm!

And I agree this is abuse. He’s setting you up to fail so you will leave the new job and be completely dependent on him and unable to leave. He hates that you have something you love and are independent, and fears that once DD is in full time school you won’t be trapped with him.

Keep the job and ditch the husband! It is abusive, he’s trying to remove you from your support network and make you vulnerable in a new environment and therefore reliant on him. Is he for real tho, doesn’t want to watch his kid between 4-5pm but will solo parent all weekend, overnight and bank hols? Yeah sounds reasonable, not! Could DD go to after school club 4-5pm and you collect after work?
That way he’s nothing to moan about!

Because it's one place he can't control her is my guess.

Please, please don’t change your job. A 9-5 job that you love is like gold dust, and so much easier to find childcare for when you leave him than a job that requires nights and weekends. Go to 8-4 with breakfast club if you have to for now, but please do start on a plan to leave him. You’ll be so much happier, and he’ll almost certainly want less contact than you fear given his dislike of looking after his own child for one hour in the afternoon!

Oh please. He is not wanting to do any childcare - he will literally be complaining about your new job in weeks and you’ll go round this cycle again
i would seriously tell him to either shut up or leave , stay in the job you love fgs.
I say this as someone who hates their job - it’s hard everyday to do something you don’t want to do.

Jeez.
1.put her in afterschool club till 5, will be much better than being nagged by this prick.
2.the new job is pretty much designed by him to fail as he wont look after her any of the extra time, you'll end up having to leave.
3.Leave him as soon as is safe and practical to do so, he is abusive nasty and bad for you and her.

Probably because OP enjoys it.

You do 6-9 on your own while he’s at work and he does 2-5 on his own while you’re at work it’s literally the exact same split how can he complain about that?! I would turn my phone off or block him 3-5 every day.

you like your job, you are keeping your job, it is not up for discussion any more and you will not be replying or enabling any future whinges about it. It is what it is and if he doesn’t like it he is welcome to leave.

you will never change his behaviour, you can only choose how you deal with/react to it. Why should you be agonising over something that is literally only his issue