To think this is abuse.

LTB

Seriously

How is he managing to moan at you for the last hour?! Are you working from home??

If you are, look at changing that either by going into the office, or using a work space every day or every afternoon.

If you're not working from home just ignore his calls and messages until you leave work.

Do NOT change jobs op.

far older mum posting……I would seriously consider keeping the job you have. If he is being an absolute flake over looking after your DD for an hour during weekdays he will be an even bigger flake for weekends, nights and Christmas. I can see you being told after a few weeks that the new job is not working out for him either and look your neglecting your DD…..based on your posts his example is very poor and not good enough to make me think you have a balanced shared and caring partnership.

Please consider that it is far easier to organise any additionally needed childcare Monday to Friday during the day hours. Nights, weekends and Christmas is only doable with a very supportive partner and a very good back up support network. it often costs far more too.

You don’t need to leave your job but you do need to leave your husband. What a selfish prick he is. I’m so angry for you OP.

Okay, say you will consider changing your hours from 8.00am to 4.00pm as a compromise, BUT only if HE pays for it.
See how that little suggestion goes down.

Don't change your job - it sounds like if you do your husband will be moaning even more and neglecting your daughter more.

You shouldn't have to, but put her in afterschool club, and then ask yourself the question "What is the point of your husband?" and think about getting rid of him.

Fucking hell op. This is insane. Please do not leave a job you love and are good at for this spiteful, jealous turd of a man.

This

But less flippantly, does he work? If not he should definitely be looking after her. Long term don't stay with a man who doesn't support you but look into options to give you more flexibility as a working mother/working single mother. What after-school club options, childminder options etc do you have? If husband is at home with your daughter for that last hour, could you be working from an office or co working space so he can't disrupt the last hour of your day?

If you do want to stay with him I second that idea of trying to do 8-4 instead

Just put her in the breakfast club for now keep your job and consider your options

Keep your job, quit your husband.

God he's so selfish.

So you won’t leave because you don’t think he can look after your daughter but the new job will do exactly that

I think breakfast club which is fine and start looking at how to leave

This is abuse. What is he adding to your life? Don’t give up a job you love. You’ll regret it massively. He’ll leave you anyway perhaps and then you’ll be stuck without your job and your supportive colleagues. Ditch him not the job.

There are many forms of abuse

Violence
Financial
Coercive control

It's not only a drunken lout punching you. They all need addressing

'HE hates your job??' he's not the one doing it the controlling fuckhead.
Why, BC you are leaving at 5 instead of 4?
It's clearly not that. Could it be he resents your happiness, independence, work friends/relationships? Unless it's because you work for an arms dealer or a shop selling fags, booze and vapes to seven year olds? Has he a moral objection to you choosing to work somewhere you enjoy?
You need to stick with your job and get him in the bin.
Yes, it is abusive.

If your daughter came to you when she is an adult and said her partner/husband/wife was saying these things and treating her this way - what would you advise her?

Is this because you are working at home?

I know that you shouldn't have to, but I would work 8-4 so that you can stay in the job you love.

Annoying yes but hardly abuse…seems demeaning to compare that with some poor woman( usually a woman) getting her nose broken by some drunken arse.

Do not take the new job.

He has already said he will not be doing any parenting when you are working weekends, evenings and Christmas, so you will have to take up all that slack.

I would consider the 8-4 option with breakfast club, but why can't you stand up to him and just tell him to fucking shut up stop telling you what to do?

So you have the perfect job that fits really well with childcare arrangements and you love it. Your problem is your partner.

also his comment ‘we all have to make sacrifices’ whilst not sacrificing an hour of his day for his child . Jesus wept.

Good grief if he’s not going to care for DD on those weekends and holidays that confirms 100% you can’t change jobs! Your poor child and poor you. That does seem very abusive, manipulative and controlling of him and I doubt it’ll get better if you leave the job you love - which should suit him really well with what it offers!

YABU not to leave this arsehole.
Do not give up your job. Switch your phone off, do not respond to any comments about your job to him.