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Original poster

To think this is abuse.

290 replies

Downandout21 · 21/09/2024 07:22

I love my job and I've always been good at it. Good contacted hours I've worked hard towards to fit around DD meaning no additional childcare, also good pay and I love my team.

DH always moans about it. I don't finished until 5 and by 4 he is moaning that I should be finished and my works stupid, won't look after DD as says I should be finished work and really puts me under pressure. Now my performance is declining.

I spoke to DH about this numerous times and he states he hates my job and he hopes I grt sacked so I have to apply for a new one.

I've eventually caved and have an interview for a new job today. Will mean having to work every other weekend, over Christmas and some nights. DH says we all have to make sacrifices.

I'm gutted, I worked really hard to get to where I am now and really do love my job.

OP posts:
HotPotato123 · 21/09/2024 07:27

Keep your job and change your ‘d’h. He sounds awful.

DustyLee123 · 21/09/2024 07:27

YABVU to leave a job that you like and suits you hours wise.

Neveranynamesleft · 21/09/2024 07:27

You already know the answer.
Ignore him and stick to doing what you want to do. Is he always this controlling ?

Choosingmiddleschool · 21/09/2024 07:27

What hours does DH work? I would be looking at children before giving up a job I enjoyed. I especially wouldn’t be going for a job where you have to work weekends with a marriage on the rocks with a man who moans about childcare.

Londonrach1 · 21/09/2024 07:27

Keep the job you love. How on earth is he going to cops looking after your joint child on weekends, Christmas day etc. Take it child is both of yours.

SheFellThroughTheIce · 21/09/2024 07:27

Don't leave your job! Working til 5pm is very normal, being pressured out of a job you love by your husband is not.

Original poster
Downandout21 · 21/09/2024 07:26

Well I asked hi hiw he would manage bed routine when I'm at work on weekends and he said he's not doing it and she will just have fun on the days she's with him

OP posts:
Santasbigredbobblehat · 21/09/2024 07:26

Don’t leave your job.

Sirzy · 21/09/2024 07:26

Keep the job. Ditch the husband.

DustyLee123 · 21/09/2024 07:26

Stick with your old job, it will be easier when you kick his arse out the door.

AngelicInnocent · 21/09/2024 07:25

Is he going to look after DD on weekends and st Xmas? I bet not. Personally, I would stick where you are happy and remember that if you end up as a single parent, it is easier to find after school care than weekend care.

Happii · 21/09/2024 07:25

Keep the current job, leave this loser. Honestly if he makes a fuss about working until 5 he will do the same when he has to pull his weight when you're working Christmas etc.

EVHead · 21/09/2024 07:25

Fuck that. Do the job you love. Is he a partner to you, or are you “Mum”, so you have to do everything domestic and childcare related?

DustyLee123 · 21/09/2024 07:24

So you’re doing what you’re husband wants you to do?
And how is he going to enjoy those weekends etc? Sounds like he doesn’t want you doing any job.

bigageap · 21/09/2024 07:24

so He isn’t willing to watch your child for an hour but is going to be sole carer on weekends, nights & Christmas?