To think this is abuse.

Op
try looking at turn2us
they are a charity that will help you understand what benefits you would be entitled to so at least you can start to understand financing if / when you leave.

re: and he will want contact with her
you would be surprised…
id give no access based on inability to meet her needs and concerns for her safety and let him take you to court.
the reality is he doesn’t want an hour 5 days a week.
Even IF he can be bothered to take you to court and even if the court awards him more time he is so unlikely to take it up or use it.
you can see this with his son…

there will be excuses and soon he won’t show up because <insert crap reason>
you see it alllll the time on here

If you change your job, your child will be in a household with 2 unhappy parents (cos he won't change), don't do that to your child.

I wish we could name & shame these people, terrible, terrible.

Good luck OP, you know he's wrong, hope you make the right decision.

Sweetheart, he's going to moan at you with your new job too, he'll do it whatever job you do because he's a wankpuffin.
So you may as well stay where you're happy - and earning well, so you can save to get away from him.
Because get away from him you most certainly need to do.

I do understand, it's never easy, for now though please don't leave your current job if you enjoy it- don't miss out on Christmas etc for his man who will still moan and be useless even if you change jobs.

I understand that leaving right now isn’t an option but maybe consider looking for local support and beginning to put together a route out for you both. From what you are saying it sounds like things aren’t going to improve.

but whatever you do keep the job you enjoy

If you don't think she's safe in his care, all the more reason not to take a new job that would mean working every other weekend.

Stay in your current job and if you have to, organise childcare - breakfast or after school club.

The government provides a lot of help for single mothers. You’d get help with rent and help with childcare plus top up to your salary, check out entitled to website and there’s a calculator you could put some dummy figures in. I see women say a lot there’s no where to go but there is. I have no family nearby but left and rented and managed well financially as the support is quite generous in my opinion. If your daughter isn’t safe in his presence then you could involve social services. No child will thank you for staying in an unhappy relationship which leads to an unhappy home. I’m 50 in a couple of years but often think back to my parents very unhappy relationship and how this has scarred me and affected relationships I’ve had. There’s a way out.

No, you’re not being unreasonable OP, it is abuse.
It'll highly likely get worse, especially if you cave in to his ridiculous demands.
Keep the job you love, if he doesn’t want to look after DD then he needs to F off.

So you do 3 hours of childcare while he's at work but he can't do 3 hours of childcare while you're at work?

He will do exactly the same when you're in your new job OP, then he'll be pressuring you to change again....and again....and again. He sounds like a complete waste of space.

If he refuses to parent his own DD after 4pm then, given what you've said, I'd be going for the breakfast club option and just change your hours (though you shouldn't have to). It will have far less impact on her than your husband disrupting her bedtimes every other weekend.

Leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him leave him now

Do NOT give your job up and take this new one. He will 100% kick off after the first weekend he is responsible for his child and your life will not have improved at all - you will still be stuck with a prick of a husband but also be in a job you don't like.

Keep the job you love and start seriously considering getting rid of this twat instead.

I’d be ditching the husband not the job. Why is it automatically your job to look after your child? If you want to stay in the marriage (and I seriously think you should reconsider this) then pay for childcare. Surely that’s better than this atmosphere or changing jobs.

Don’t leave your job, leave your husband!
Seriously though, he’s being extremely unreasonable. Most jobs don’t allow you to just knock off at 4pm! You don’t even have a commute - most people would be available much later than you are, after finishing at 5pm (or later!) then travelling home.

“Won’t look after DD” - is she not his child too? Why is it only your responsibility to look after her?

Tell him in no uncertain terms that you’re not leaving your job. Ban him from coming to your work space so that he can’t moan at you and make you feel under pressure. Tell him that if this continues then you will be seriously rethinking the relationship as you want to be with someone supportive and he’s being the opposite.

Keep your job. Suggest he has fun with your daughter for one hour five times a week rather than ever other weekend. It'll work out about the same hours.

Try to remember, he's not going to get any more reasonable or loving when you leave your job.

You're going to be left with having to go to work and not being sure if your dc are being properly looked after.

Stay in your job, look for childcare and ltb.

What reason does he have for hating your job??!!! How does it affect him.what your job is? Can you work outside the home so he has to care for your DD?

but then you risk having a job you hate and still having the moaning to contend with.

You are allowed to be happy.

I feel for you OP, this is a difficult one. It’s very easy to say leave him and I absolutely agree in theory but how does that look for your DD? What age is she? Would he want custody and would he be capable of actually caring for her on his days? I’d be really concerned about that. Don’t quit your job though, he can moan all he likes, tune it out.

No it isn't. It isn't easier because he'll be the same with that one too.

Why does he think the new one will be better?

Keep the job, lose the husband.

Keep the job and ditch your absolute dickhead of a husband.

He is telling you he doesn’t want to parent, it will only be worse if you take the new job.
Im assuming that childcare and household chores fall to you to do.
You need to consider your relationship. Is this what you want? Someone who can’t support you to do something that you’ve worked hard at and enjoy.

Better to put her in breakfast club than lose your weekends and Christmas - not that you have to do either, you should stick with the job and hours that suit you and ditch the awful husband. But if working 8-4 would make it easier for you in the meantime, just put her in breakfast club while you work out what to do about him and his abusive behaviour. Whatever you do, don't give up this job.