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To think kitten heels are now acceptable?

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eyesofocean · 20/09/2024 22:35

So I used to wear the high heels and now I live in trainers and boots.

But I see kitten heels a lot now and some lovely ones in Zara.

OP posts:
OnYourTogs · 21/09/2024 11:08

Threetrees745 · 21/09/2024 03:05

Love how all the posters are giving the faux confusion trying to ask what the poster means by acceptable, knowing fine well that for about 25 years absolutely no one except your granny was wearing a kitten heel 🤣

You all KNOW what the OP means, why is everyone being a dick about it?

Because they want to indicate that they think fashion is stupid I guess

seeminglyranch · 21/09/2024 11:07

Threetrees745 · 21/09/2024 03:05

Love how all the posters are giving the faux confusion trying to ask what the poster means by acceptable, knowing fine well that for about 25 years absolutely no one except your granny was wearing a kitten heel 🤣

You all KNOW what the OP means, why is everyone being a dick about it?

To be fair OP is coming back with pretty odd comments. Kitten heels were fashionable in the 60s and the 90s at the very least but OP is adamant they weren’t acceptable ever before. 🙄

New2thisshizzle · 21/09/2024 11:05

You can really care about fashion but not be particularly into trends though. They are not the same.

Threetrees745 · 21/09/2024 11:05

All the posters that came here to jump on the OP and say they don't care about fashion etc are giving severe pick me girl energy.

Some people enjoy and care about fashion and being on trend. Your not superior and more enlightened if you don't.

New2thisshizzle · 21/09/2024 11:04

I think the issue about knowing what is on trend is that the shops are full of clothes and footwear that the fashionistas insist are dated.

well tbf once the trend has hit the mainstream shops it may be classed as outdated by the fashionistas.

Shops will always sell what sells because not everything is led by trends. Skinnies are actually back as they were on the catwalks & the whole 00s but will take time to filter though.

1033NWCAL069 · 21/09/2024 10:55

GoldenSunflowers · 21/09/2024 09:56

Come on, everyone. Don’t be disingenuous. We don’t wear big daisy floral patterns in orange and brown because 1) they’re dated 2) it’s not a dress-up-back-to-the 60s party. I’m sure a gorgeous young woman would be able to pull it off and look stylish, but most of us would stay clear. It’s ok to ask what’s in if you don’t want to give it more headspace than buying a pair of shoes because you need them.

Is op also being disingenuous though? She's seen them in shops that sell fashionable clothes and accessories, logically they must be currently in fashion. Google might have confirmed this or the s&b board rather than here.

RampantIvy · 21/09/2024 10:44

I think the issue about knowing what is on trend is that the shops are full of clothes and footwear that the fashionistas insist are dated.

For example the shops are full of skinny jeans (and wide leg) so, unless you read fashion blogs/magazies etc, you won't automatically think that skinnies are dated because they are available everywhere.

MaggieBsBoat · 21/09/2024 10:43

I used to work with a woman in kitten heels in the early 00s and I always thought to myself how bloody gorgeous she looked in them. Her legs looked longer (without the daftness of high heels) and they looked dainty under her very cool suit.
I decided then that I’d rather look like her any day than worry about what the fashion police like OP are saying.

please send me some links for beautiful kitten heels, I’m going to treat myself to some!

goestheweasel · 21/09/2024 10:43

@eyesofocean are you from Liverpool by any chance? Grin

Threetrees745 · 21/09/2024 10:42

Bjorkdidit · 21/09/2024 08:48

Because maybe the OP should think for herself instead of needing validation from others who may have different tastes?

If you like something, and it's not inappropriate, eg on a boat where they'll damage the deck and you're more likely to fall over, then wear them. Does it really matter if other people don't like them.

I went out in a city for the first time in a while yesterday and what struck me was how just about everyone was dressed the same* whether it suited them or not.

*short tight top, wide leg jeans that at any other time in history would have led to bullying as were half mast and horrible trainers

Ok couple of things,

  1. Where has the boat analogy came from?
  1. Why be so literal about it. Maybe the OP could have said unfashionable instead of inappropriate but you KNEW what she meant. You and other posters just want to feel superior
New2thisshizzle · 21/09/2024 10:41

Happy to have a lot more MJ/ballet options back in the shops though.

New2thisshizzle · 21/09/2024 10:40

Well they are back on trend which makes them acceptable to some people. I don’t love them so won’t wear them just because they are in fashion.

bostonchamps · 21/09/2024 10:38

Theimpossiblegirl · 20/09/2024 22:53

Pop yourself over to style and beauty. You'll get better comments.

Even S&B is full of doe-eyed faux-naivety now though Halo

RampantIvy · 21/09/2024 10:36

Growlybear83 · 21/09/2024 10:30

@RampantIvy And people like me who don't have the slightest interest in whether they look stylish, but want to wear what they know suits them and what they feel good wearing. 😆

I think wearing what suits you and makes you feel good comes under being stylish, but I agree with you.

5475878237NC · 21/09/2024 10:33

Threetrees745 · 21/09/2024 03:05

Love how all the posters are giving the faux confusion trying to ask what the poster means by acceptable, knowing fine well that for about 25 years absolutely no one except your granny was wearing a kitten heel 🤣

You all KNOW what the OP means, why is everyone being a dick about it?

That's simply not true. Every time I have been to a wedding the last 20 years multiple women of all ages have been in kitten heels.

Why so ageist?

Growlybear83 · 21/09/2024 10:30

@RampantIvy And people like me who don't have the slightest interest in whether they look stylish, but want to wear what they know suits them and what they feel good wearing. 😆

RampantIvy · 21/09/2024 10:23

Threads like these are always split into two groups:

  1. The fashion police
  2. Posters who want to look stylish, but want to wer what suits them and what is comfortable and suits their lifestyle
NQOCDarling · 21/09/2024 10:17

eyesofocean · 21/09/2024 09:45

Let me hold your hand whilst I say this as it may come as a shock …

Kitten heels haven’t been fashionable since the 00s.

Is that you Anna?
If not, please note that nobody has appointed you the arbiter of taste.

FatOaf · 21/09/2024 10:14

Kitten heels haven’t been fashionable since the 00s.

(a) Says who?

(b) So what?

Growlybear83 · 21/09/2024 10:00

I would wear (and do wear regularly) big daisy floral patterns, but in pink and purple rather than orange and brown, because they are not colours that suit me. I wear what I like, not what I'm told to like. I've got to my mid sixties without being influenced by what is supposedly fashionable and will remain that way until I draw my last breath.

Dwappy · 21/09/2024 09:58

GoldenSunflowers · 21/09/2024 09:56

Come on, everyone. Don’t be disingenuous. We don’t wear big daisy floral patterns in orange and brown because 1) they’re dated 2) it’s not a dress-up-back-to-the 60s party. I’m sure a gorgeous young woman would be able to pull it off and look stylish, but most of us would stay clear. It’s ok to ask what’s in if you don’t want to give it more headspace than buying a pair of shoes because you need them.

But how often do people really look at what people are wearing on their feet?
Wearing a bright orange floral dress would be much more noticeable than whether someone is wearing heels that are half an inch or 5 inches surely?

GoldenSunflowers · 21/09/2024 09:56

Come on, everyone. Don’t be disingenuous. We don’t wear big daisy floral patterns in orange and brown because 1) they’re dated 2) it’s not a dress-up-back-to-the 60s party. I’m sure a gorgeous young woman would be able to pull it off and look stylish, but most of us would stay clear. It’s ok to ask what’s in if you don’t want to give it more headspace than buying a pair of shoes because you need them.

Dwappy · 21/09/2024 09:53

I've never been able to wear high heels. I just cannot walk in them without lots of pain. I was "lucky" that I was young and bothered by what was in fashion in the late 90s early 00s so kitten heels were easy to find.
I'm so glad that I'm in my 40s now and couldn't give a rats arse what's in fashion. If I want to wear kitten heels I would. (I don't though these days. I'd rather just wear trainers or flat shoes)

What are people who cannot wear high heels meant to do though if/when kitten heels are "not in fashion"? Wear flat shoes? Or just never leave the house because what they can wear isn't acceptable?

Growlybear83 · 21/09/2024 09:47

Who decides whether something is supposedly fashionable? And why on earth does it matter? Surely people wear what they like, what is comfortable, and what they know suits them? I don't think I've ever known anyone in real life who is shallow enough to give a toss about whether something is fashionable or not.

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