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Do you care what your Partner does for a Living?

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Aquarius1234 · 20/09/2024 22:01

Do you or would you care what your partner / boyfriend/ girlfriend does for a living?

I don't and I'm in late 30s. I probably was judgemental in 20s. For no reason, just false assumption, like thinking trades people earnt low money, which isn't true.

Another example, someone might be embarrassed if their boyfriend was a bin man or bus driver.

Once you have the initial conversation s out the way, I don't think it matters at all.
It's not like your going to work with them.
(If you are that's another conversation)

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Ifoughthefight · 20/09/2024 22:21

Due to specific characteristics and interests I have, he had to be intellectual and like music. He is both. His job description reflects this and I am not sure he could have a different job to the one he has

I am absolutely proud of him and is not about the money. I studied international law, now do something which is different

What counts for me is do a man understand me and gets me, just the way I am. No judgement, no false pressure, no nothing. He does. Good that he pays the bills also and good that I can pick up few other financial extras

soundsys · 20/09/2024 22:21

hamstersarse · 20/09/2024 22:13

I find non achieving men quite unattractive

brutal but true

Yeah this tbh!

Doesn't mean they have to be high-flying/high-paid but they do have to have something of a plan and a decent work ethic (as I do!)

FknOmniShambles · 20/09/2024 22:21

No. I just want him to be happy in it and talk to me about it with interest and care.

cadburyegg · 20/09/2024 22:20

Yes, I wouldn't date somebody who is earning significantly less than me.

The actual profession doesn't hugely matter to me but I'm looking for someone with a good work ethic and some intelligence.

I'm a single parent and frankly I don't want to have to support another adult financially.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 20/09/2024 22:19

To an extent yes. I want them to be equal in the partnership

Themapisupsidedown · 20/09/2024 22:18

hamstersarse · 20/09/2024 22:13

I find non achieving men quite unattractive

brutal but true

Do only work achievements count though?

Mandylovescandy · 20/09/2024 22:18

Definitely care though not so much from a what do other people think perspective but job requirements like if they worked away a lot (a friend's DP had several month long deployment when DC were tiny) or rubbish shift pattern/limited holiday.

TwinklyAmberOrca · 20/09/2024 22:17

Job/money isn't important. Couldn't care less.

A good work ethic though is absolutely important.

Couldn't stand to be with someone who didn't want to contribute to society.

hamstersarse · 20/09/2024 22:13

I find non achieving men quite unattractive

brutal but true

FilthyforFirth · 20/09/2024 22:12

I want to not care, but yes I do to be honest.

Jennyathemall · 20/09/2024 22:12

No, DH is an international hitman and it doesn’t bother me. Tbf the moneys good and he assures me they were all bad people.

Themapisupsidedown · 20/09/2024 22:11

I just want him to be happy in his job, I don’t care what that job is.

torturedpoet13 · 20/09/2024 22:09

No i don't care and never have. Dh was a retail assistant like me when I met him but now he's a deputy manager of a different store. Never bothered me though!

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