Do you care what your Partner does for a Living?

There are some jobs I would consider unattractive - armed forces or anything I think of as unethical. Other than that I don’t care as long as he’s happy.

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I could never date someone who worked in HR.

This.

Are you a SAHM? It must be hard to manage childcare otherwise though if there’s lots of sudden trips abroad.

It's more this than the odd snobbery of the first comment.

I wouldn't have wanted to start a family with someone who's job or career took precedence over me and out potential children. If you choose to have children then being an equal partner isn't only about who earns what but about voth being around for the children. For that reason I wouldn't have chosen anyone who had to travel constantly (or rather who chose to stay in a role requiring that - most people can change job unless they've signed up to a decades long military contract).

I'd rather a genuine co-parent who is man enough to plan his work around doing 50% of child related responsibility than someone misogynistic enough to expect me to sacrifice my career or with an ego so big and fragile he "couldn't" do a family friendly job.

Also not really up for arms dealers, the pp's international hitman 😉, drug dealers, anyone in the sex industry... Not really keen on anyone who makes money by making rich people richer and poor people poorer if I'm honest either.

So yes, but apparently not in the way the opening post assumes.

I don't care at all, though I do care how they feel. I was with someone for a long time who had an objectively "good" job but hated it. It drove me absolutely mad because I was the one, day in day out, who dealt with the grump about a job they hated. We spend so so long at work that unhappiness there impacts at home. They were entirely unwilling to do a single thing to change this because of their own feelings towards having a "good" job. Which just led to further unhappiness.

So while I'd never think a single thing about what someone did, I do believe I base "judgement" around how they deal with hating what they do.

Someone in an outwardly amazing job, who hates it and says "I'm going to go be something else" is, in my opinion brilliant. No matter what "something else" may be.

The job isn't important but a certain level of passion and motivation for it is. I find people who carry on in a job they hate, moaning about it and making no effort to improve their situation really draining and unattractive.

I’ve got to be honest, it’s more about what he earns than what he does. I supported a cocklodger for a good while and I definitely put solvent and stable near the top of the list of qualities I was looking for when I was looking for someone new.

I wouldn’t want him to hate what he does for a good wage though, that’s miserable.

I think things like life coach, door-to-door knife salesman, facebook juice seller, videogame streamer, self published author etc. are bad when the partner is convinced they've got a legitimate career. They can't actually pay the bills with it, but are convinced if they really go for it they can make it...

Sounds good and he probably has flexible hours.

Same for me. I am attracted to intelligence and ambition (among other things like kindness etc) and 'generally speaking' you're more like to get this with certain professions than others.

I don’t care so much what they do (as long as it’s legal and doesn’t negatively impact my family life). But I need someone who commits to a job. When the going gets tough will they drag themselves out of bed and get to work? Will they quit their job because someone pissed them off? I need stability in my life. My I don’t have any job snobbery and find it funny when I see people look down on my husband because he’s a tradesman; he’s out-earned me for most of our twenty years together.

Hmm. When dating, I cared that they were driven and had a work ethic, with a career ahead of them. I wanted to be with someone who was in some way related to my field of work, because I'd briefly dated people who just had no interest, and it felt rubbish. It's a passion as well as a career for me. So, as snobby as it might sound, they needed to be intellectual and academic/creative. I had future plans and didn't want to be with someone who wasn't interested in coming on an "adventure" with me (and me with them!).

So I suppose I was a bit fussy really. DH whirled in and ticked all the boxes.

I genuinely don’t understand why you’d be embarrassed for your partner to be a bin man or bus driver. Why are those embarrassing jobs? They’re always going to be needed, steady work, possible flexible shifts and contributing to society.

I’d be embarrassed if my partner was a politician with unpleasant views, but imo the jobs you’ve cited are decent honest jobs so I don’t get it!

It definitely matters for me. As does salary/salary potential. Wouldn't be embarrassed to date a bin man or a trade. Would love that. However I can't say that profession doesn't matter.

When I was on the look-out for husband number 2, I genuinely didn't care what they did for a living or how much they earned, I just wanted to find somebody who wasn't an arse.

Not what they do so much as what they earn.

I'm not picking struggle and I'm not supporting a man.

If we get married and he falls ill or disabled we'll figure it out, but I'm not starting at broke. I've experienced struggling on my own and don't feel the need to experience it accompanied.

As long as he’s happy and contributing financially I don’t care.

I respect you for accepting shorties. All the tiktok girlie's don't go under 6'5.

Fair point! 😂

I care that someone has enough get up and go to get the job they want. I also care that I’m supported enough financially to take maternity leave to look after all 3 children.
i wouldn’t have married someone that I didn’t see potential in (we were young and both on lowish salaries at the time). I would not want to be with someone that don’t have enough drive to try and achieve their ambitions.
If he were desperate to try something new, I would support him through it, even if it wasn’t as well paid, but there would have to be some give in family dynamics for him to support kids/home more.
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I want him to wake up happy to go to said job, have job satisfaction while he's there, and come home happy he's done a good job. I don't care what that job is, I just care he's happy in it.

Logistically I care that, between us, the bills are paid but I'd happily cut my cloth if his heart was in a lower paying position than his current role