Do you care what your Partner does for a Living?

Yes, it would matter to me. In terms of finding a suitable life partner, I'd want someone with a good work ethic and with earning potential.

It's the natural instinct of hunter gatherer, a man that can provide, while I raise the children, type thing. A man working part or even full-time in a minimum wage job, isn't going to be able to provide for our family.

I'm attracted to men with a good career, doesn't have to be a high-flyer, not at all, but a decent job nonetheless.

I wouldn't be attracted to a man earning min wage (for life).

My husband and I both earned in the same bracket when we met, then I earned more than him just before I stopped working to have our first child. He now earns 4 times what he earned when we first met. He provides for our family whilst I look after and educate our children. I do have some income which goes mainly towards our retirement. All that said, once our mortgage is paid off, if my husband lost his job and ended up in a min wage job, I'd be fine with that as without the mortgage, as long as we lived frugally, we could survive on that.

Well sure. I wouldn’t date an actor. Or a life coach (good call upthread person) an estate agent, a pyramid seller, a professional footballer, a police officer, a gynaecologist or a hairdresser.
Im not too bothered what they earn though, as long as they’re not in tons of debt. I’ve always earned my own money so I’m never going to be dependent on their earnings.

My sister has a lovely partner but he has a job that means he does not earn much and there is no career progression.
Now they have a toddler she has to work full time in a managerial position whilst he works 3 x 12 hr shifts a week. He also can't cope as well with their toddler as she can so she feels she has to be in charge of the house eg organising repairs etc, the toddler and has the pressure of working full time when in an ideal world they would both be able to only work 3 days because she feels like she is missing out a lot with time with their toddler. She has said that she is starting to feel resentful.

Sales, estate agents and bankers would be at the top of the no go list.

I am sure there are lovely ones out there, Sales and estate agents are based on personal experience and bankers are based on rumours/news reports so very baseless.

I would probably say politicians as well, but I would like an expense account and at times I can be shallow

@Aquarius1234
you can date whoever you like, if they don’t do it for you for any reason, don’t date them. Attraction is a funny thing, you cant choose it.
Say what you like about bin men, one of our bin men jumps over hedges to get the bins done quicker, and I do look at him with appreciation.

DP lost his job at the start of covid and then did anything and everything to get money and some of those were shit jobs.

I have no problem with anything he wanted to do

But if I was dating I would rule certain jobs out, based on my perception of the personality you would have if you did those type of jobs.

Yes it matters to me.

Yes, I have. We got together very young, both from very poor backgrounds, the first in either of our families to stay in education past 15, so we supported one another.

I often wonder if the people who say they care have actually achieved what they wanted in life too.

For me it's work ethic and stability. It would be great if they earn around the same or work as a similar level of responsibility but more importantly they are kind.

I like someone to have ambition, a desire to earn well (not talking millions here but enough for a comfortable life) and a strong work ethic. I don't care what they do but they do but need to be somewhat ambitious with it.

I couldn’t care less what dh does for a living, as long as he earns money and works hard.

Dh has worked in the same place since he was 16.

Same here, too.

Yes. Had a lovely boyfriend when I was 16 but really struggled to get over the fact that he worked as an undertaker. Had to end things when physicality was on the horizon. Couldn’t get beyond it.

I care about certain aspects. I want him to work to his best ability. I want his job to be reasonably ethical.

Of course MN care about profession, you can't have the commoners mixing with the upper class you know.

I do care, to be honest. I prefer to be with a man who is more or less on my level in terms of intelligence, values, ambition, etc, and while I'm not particularly high-flying, I want someone who is motivated to earn a decent living, within his abilities. On the other hand, I wouldn't want a man who was snobbish about the importance of his job or would rather spend every moment working instead of having a more balanced life.

His job isn't the most important thing, but I would find it unattractive if a man was too easily satisfied with a job that didn't provide well for his family when he could exert himself a bit more and be a better earner. It's more about the practicalities of earning potential than a high-status title, for me.

I once dated a very lazy man who had a very low skilled job and took every possible opportunity to dodge his responsibilities at work. It used to irritate me beyond endurance. Such a turn off.

Dh earns significantly less than me but is hard working and intelligent and productive. It's not the money that's the issue it's the work ethic.

Me too!

I have always said I respect anyone’s job provided that they have one (or are currently unemployed through redundancy and actively looking for work/in full time studies/retired/caring for a very sick or very disabled relative - think I have covered all acceptable exceptions)

Yes this. Someone who is really good at what they do and cares about it.

I would not completely mind what it is but there are some things I would find off putting. Advertising or politics. I like people to be straightforward!

Don't think I would be looking again if things went wrong with DH though so it's hypothetical.

There are some professions I just blanket wouldn’t get involved with. It would have to be an exceptional circumstance to change the way I feel about that. Military, police, any of the armed forces, any profession which meant staying away from home for long or frequent periods or working late hours.

I do care about pay, but I care about pay for myself too. Pay wouldn’t necessarily be a dealbreaker like the above would however.