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Police welfare check on 1 year old due to.sons dad

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Leabee1234 · 20/09/2024 07:11

So I have a 1 year old son he just turned 1 last month. I had the police knocking on my door last night late for a welfare check.
Apparently last week my sons dad left him alone in the car for 10-15 minutes and a Tesco staff member called the police.
He told me that he left him for 30 seconds 1 metre away but he clearly lied as police said it was 10 minutes or 15 minutes.
The police asked about custody I advised he isn't on BC because of many other reasons in the past and they told me that I should stop contact as they are treating this as child neglect. They said its disgusting and anything could of happened which I agree with
I cried all night and not slept as I am SO angry when I trusted him
Even after he put me through hell pregnancy /postpartum cheating and leaving me for his ex
He is also going through court again for his older child as she is putting abuse claims in and he has another baby due with her in 3 weeks ! It's a huge mess!
However I put my feelings to the side and allowed contact for my sons sake
Me and him don't get on and have had many issues
He also is living at his dad's which isn't ideal or great to live in in a small box room and doesn't have a stable house yet
He said I am overreacting to what the police have told me! But promised he will never ever do it again and kept saying sorry
I now need to stop it all for my sons sake and think of his safety
I can't believe he did that when anything could of happened. I just know it will end up going throufh court eventually as he won't give up
Feeling so stressed. And so angry 😢

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Pandasnacks · 20/09/2024 07:24

The baby doesn't need to be unattended with him, it's not helpful to anymore. Stop contact and explain he's broken your trust and will need to go through a contact centre and start at the bottom if he wants contact again. He won't be arsed to go through proper channels, but atleast if he does you have the police report to make it supervised only.

CheshireDing · 20/09/2024 07:22

If he's not even on the birth certificate an me clearly an idiot why does your baby HAVE to see him ? Sounds like it would be more detrimental to the DC

Personally I would be stopping any contact (and if possible moving) so he couldn't locate me

OopsyDaisie · 20/09/2024 07:21

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 07:20

You have to stop contact, as you need to be seen to keep your dc safe.
If you let your DC go to him when the police have said it’s unsafe, you risk being judged as unsafe yourself.

Ask for the police report on the incident, or talk to social services. Make sure you are seen to be responsible.

This!

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 07:20

You have to stop contact, as you need to be seen to keep your dc safe.
If you let your DC go to him when the police have said it’s unsafe, you risk being judged as unsafe yourself.

Ask for the police report on the incident, or talk to social services. Make sure you are seen to be responsible.

soupfiend · 20/09/2024 07:19

You can move to supervised contact in a contact centre, they're not that costly, pay half each.

Then your son will still get to see his dad, and whatever you might think of him, children are entitled to a relationship with their parents as long as its safe for him and it would be if it was supervised and contained.

You're not overreacting to what he has done, although there are plenty of threads on here with robust debate about leaving children in cars when popping in for a bit of shopping. I wouldnt do it personally but some parents do, both mums and dads.

DoreenonTill8 · 20/09/2024 07:16

He is fucking stupid and an absolute risk to your child. Police report will be useful for court. Horrible for you and the baby.