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Do I bathe my child enough?

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Mel2023 · 19/09/2024 23:26

How often do you bath your toddlers?

My DS is 2.5. We’ve always had a routine where we’ve bathed him twice during the week (usually Tues and Thurs) and once on the weekend (usually a Sunday). This is a full body and hair wash. That being said, in the summer it was a lot more often due to wearing sun cream most days, and if he comes home from nursery particularly mucky or has a messy tea time we’ll bath him regardless.

I’ve recently noticed he’s developed cradle cap again (he had it when he was a baby) and it’s quite bad. Everything I’ve looked into online says it’s not unusual for toddlers his age to have it, especially if they had it as a baby. I mentioned it to a family member and she’s said it’s because we don’t bath him enough and she’s always thought this? Do we not? AIBU to think that a bath 3 times a week plus extra if needed is ok?

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Zapx · 21/09/2024 07:02

BurntBroccoli · 21/09/2024 02:04

Do you think that humans throughout the millennia had baths and showers every single day? Did they survive?

It is not 'disgusting' and lazy. It is perfectly normal.

Your cleanliness obsession is the result of advertising since the 1950s to sell products (aka capitalism).

I've noticed on tv, especially Channel 5 that the cleaning adverts (for both body and house) are relentless.

Well a lot of them didn’t survive did they @BurntBroccoli, in the 1500s only 1 in 10 got to the age of 40. Not that I think it’s probably got a lot to do with washing but I’d not necessarily use that as an argument…!

Personally I bath the kids every day as they’re pretty active and get mucky BUT I don’t really use products at all as I don’t find I need them and I think it’s bad for skin. Re cradle cap I really don’t think that’s got much to do with washing through. I highly recommend baby oil! A bit on their head about half an hour before bath and I found it would just fall off with a gentle rub in the bath.

Flibflobflibflob · 21/09/2024 06:44

Mine gets a bath or shower everyday, but she’s always filthy and has stuff in her hair (goodness knows what). I really don’t think 3 times a week and when he’s dirty is bad tbh.

Sartre · 21/09/2024 06:11

Every other day so like you this works out as Sunday, Tuesday and Thursday. Obviously would wash between these days if necessary but they’re 4 and almost 6 now so they don’t tend to get that filthy.

PeloMom · 21/09/2024 04:27

Before 2 months old (as someone mentioned doctor advice for baby) we also didn’t bathe too often. Since then bath has been a part of the night time routine and is daily.

Copperoliverbear · 21/09/2024 04:22

Cradle cap is caused by overactive oil glands, maybe try washing the hair with cradle cap shampoo every night until it's gone but the just bath every night and wash the hair every other day.

TwoShades1 · 21/09/2024 04:15

Babies don’t need daily baths, but by 2.5 years old they are proper feral. I say that as a mum of fairly clean, well behaved, girly type. She still needed a daily bath or shower at this age. But I also can’t abide by any people that don’t shower/bath daily. I can smell it, it’s gross. 🤮

Copperoliverbear · 21/09/2024 04:13

Bathed every night

Lucy25 · 21/09/2024 02:05

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 20/09/2024 06:34

I’ve always given my son a full bath three times a week, and cleaned his face, hands, and bottom daily with warm water and cotton wool when he’s not getting a bath. This is plenty in my opinion. It’s not good for their skin to bathe them too often as it can dry it out.

This @LookingAtTheBox It’s not lazy or disgusting.

BurntBroccoli · 21/09/2024 02:04

LookingAtTheBox · 20/09/2024 06:12

@Scallopp i PERSONALLY find 3 nights a week for a 2.5 year old disgusting and tbh a bit lazy.

Do you think that humans throughout the millennia had baths and showers every single day? Did they survive?

It is not 'disgusting' and lazy. It is perfectly normal.

Your cleanliness obsession is the result of advertising since the 1950s to sell products (aka capitalism).

I've noticed on tv, especially Channel 5 that the cleaning adverts (for both body and house) are relentless.

Amybelle88 · 21/09/2024 01:46

Every night without fail - they're always dirty and need it. Same for us, I couldn't get into bed if I haven't had a bath or a shower.

Whatjemimadid · 21/09/2024 01:43

3 times a week is fine unless they've had a very hot active day or muddy work. Don't listen to the naysayers who don't even realise kids that age barely sweat! The fact they don't sweat much is linked to their inability to regulate temperature and why we fuss about bedroom temperature etc. Flannel wash every day. Too much washing is bad for skin and hair. Poor kids.

OriginalUsername2 · 21/09/2024 00:54

If you google it all the advice is 2-3 times a week but keep their hands and genitals clean.

Hesxboon · 21/09/2024 00:14

My dd has a bath every night, she has a drop of dettol in it a few times a week

Ayechinnyreckon · 20/09/2024 20:14

3 times a week is plenty. Especially as you do it more when needed. My 8 yo is very sweaty so gets a quick shower daily, but my 5yo is bathed every few days, roughly 3 times a week.

NatMoz · 20/09/2024 19:07

MSLRT · 20/09/2024 08:21

Not enough for a two year old in my opinion. They should be bathed at least every other day.

Good job your opinion counts for shit when it concerns my daughter😄.

Every other day is far too much in my opinion. Drying her skin out unnecessarily resulting in the skin conditions i have just isn't worth the risk.

Bemusedandconfusedagain · 20/09/2024 18:03

Various medical professionals have said 2 to 3 times a week to me as my child has very mild eczema. They say more often is unnecessary and can disrupt the skin's microbiome.

Ameliasvocalfry · 20/09/2024 17:56

Fidgety31 · 20/09/2024 00:07

Every night ! Kids get dirty !
I wasn’t bathed every day as child and I remember feeling dirty at school .

I was the same, I was only bathed once a week and it really wasn't enough, I was often very uncomfortable.
My children all had daily baths and it was such a nice relaxing playtime just before bed.

Franticbutterfly · 20/09/2024 16:56

I always bathed mine every day and I couldn't think of anything worse than having a nappy on and not being totally clean at least once a day. I encourage them now to shower every day (as I do) now there are older, but that is a bit of a battle.

Posithor · 20/09/2024 16:50

Flannel every day and baths twice a week for my two. My daughter got a patch of cradle cap around the same age - aveeno shampoo cleared it up. She's 5 now and it's not come back 😊

Dweetfidilove · 20/09/2024 14:58

How often do you bath your toddlers?

Twice daily has always been the norm from the moment I brought her home.

Nodlikeyouwerelistening · 20/09/2024 14:38

Every other day is fine when young and much better for sensitive skin. When they approach puberty then yes, showering every day as they start to stink at that age.
Not bathing everyday doesn’t mean not washing everyday. I’d think it’s better to teach children to wash their hands regularly throughout the day than just to bathe everyday.

Peonies12 · 20/09/2024 14:17

3 times is plenty. It's proven that excessive washing can cause skin issues especially if using products

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 20/09/2024 13:51

BettyBardMacDonald · 20/09/2024 12:15

In the time it takes to wash at the sink, why not just jump in the shower for 3 minutes?

Rinsing out a poo-stained flannel in the basin where people clean their teeth sounds rather grim.

Why? Where do you wash your hands after changing a baby's nappy?

BettyBardMacDonald · 20/09/2024 12:15

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 20/09/2024 11:18

I think 3 times a week is perfect especially in autumn and winter. My dry skin disappeared completely since I started only bathing every other day. Also better for the environment. Flannel wash face, armpits and bottom/bits every day at sink. Obviously if they get very dirty add in an extra bath.

In the time it takes to wash at the sink, why not just jump in the shower for 3 minutes?

Rinsing out a poo-stained flannel in the basin where people clean their teeth sounds rather grim.

80smonster · 20/09/2024 12:12

DD 7 bathes every day. Kids get mucky, plus it’s good to check on anything that looks amiss, like cradle cap. Try Aveeno shampoos/body wash if he has cradle cap. Turned out our DD didn’t have it, but was having a reaction to supermarket kids products.