I am planning a wedding. I just want something low key as this is my second wedding.
The day before the wedding, we are having bridal party stay in the venue and plan to all have dinner. My DP wants to invite his mum to this dinner and said it would be nice for her to join us. Fair enough.
For the day after the wedding, he also said we should have a dinner with family before parting ways. I told him absolutely not, that I will likely be socially exhausted and will just want to soak in the events from the wedding and part ways with everyone after breakfast.
Apparently "his mum wouldnt like that". Basically I told him, I dont really care if his mum wouldnt like it. He seems to be fearful that declining this will cause some sort of fight.
AIBU for putting my foot down and saying no to this? My first wedding, I did a lot of things I didnt really like as I thought it was expected, and this time, I really want to do things my own way and feel comfortable.
I know from getting married the first time that the day after is exhausting and you just want some downtime together rather than having yet another day and dinner spent with family. I also have a very low social battery and drain quite easily after an event, so I may get pretty irritated.