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To find these loafers for men so so awful

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:42

Light hearted thread with a hint of real displeasure.

DH loves his black loafers with tassels. Wears them at the office everyday. I was secretly hoping I'd never see them again as they are on their last legs but today he bought a replacement pair on his way home.

I'm going to have to see them for another decade. I hate the tassels. I wouldn't mind plain black boring loafers.

AIBU to be planning ways to disappear them or plotting their untimely demise?

To find these loafers for men so so awful
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Teanbiscuits33 · 19/09/2024 23:10

I’ve noticed these a lot on men recently. I don’t like them either. I know it’s looked down upon these days to espouse gender stereotypes but they look like the sort of shoes my 60+ female teachers wore at school in the early 00s! They definitely give off old lady vibes!

HelenaWaiting · 19/09/2024 23:09

LTB.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:08

citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:07

Are you in the UK? I haven't seen a London law firm partner in shoes like that pretty much ever

An American firm in London.

...I'm not in anything legal. Maybe he just made it up to get me to think that's part of the uniform and just accept it 🤔

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PutOnYourRedShoesAndLetsDance · 19/09/2024 23:07

Boys at school wore these age 15/16 but this was the 70s...gosh didn't know they were still around.
I know brogues are timeless.. but not tassle loafers .

citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:07

Are you in the UK? I haven't seen a London law firm partner in shoes like that pretty much ever

Illegally18 · 19/09/2024 23:06

itsmylife7 · 19/09/2024 22:46

I love this style of shoe ....sorry 👞

me too.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:06

They remind me of David Dickinson.

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Neveranynamesleft · 19/09/2024 23:05

They could be a contender for first prize in the current 'Wanky things you're guilty of ' thread 😀

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:04

offyoujollywelltrot · 19/09/2024 23:03

The 80s want their shoes back. 😵‍💫

And he does like the 80s.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:04

conniefromaccounts · 19/09/2024 23:03

Is his name Kevin and does he have a tash?

If my DH had turned up to our first date in those it would've been the last!

😭😭😭 you know when we were dating and he first wore them, I thought given everything else is good, I will let these pass and deal with it later.

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offyoujollywelltrot · 19/09/2024 23:03

The 80s want their shoes back. 😵‍💫

conniefromaccounts · 19/09/2024 23:03

Is his name Kevin and does he have a tash?

If my DH had turned up to our first date in those it would've been the last!

RosieCockle · 19/09/2024 23:02

Burn them

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:02

minipie · 19/09/2024 23:00

Does he iron his jeans?

Lol it's the kind of thing I can imagine my siblings would think DH might do.

I am not loving how well everyone is matching DH as a person just from a photo of a pair of (ugly ugly ugly) shoes.

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minipie · 19/09/2024 23:00

Does he iron his jeans?

isrhisall · 19/09/2024 22:59

Oh gosh! They're very dated...
they were all the rage when all the posh boarding school boys wore them!

MrsApplepants · 19/09/2024 22:59

I’d swiftly cut the tassels off. Then they’d be semi ok I think

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:58

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/09/2024 22:52

I can't really picture them on a man's feet though. How does he style them?

Suits and quarter-zips. The entire outfit is normal except for the ruddy shoes.

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:55

Onlyonekenobe · 19/09/2024 22:52

My instinct was exactly the same as the first reply!

Does he wear red trousers at the weekend? Own a tweed jacket? Wear Hermes ties with little animals on them?

If the answer to any of these is yes, I think there’s no hope. Sorry OP.

And he is guilty of some of these..

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/09/2024 22:55

Oak89 · 19/09/2024 22:53

Oh they're really awful. I'm laughing at the thought of my husband in those Grin

In fact my Nan used to wear something similar .

Actually I think I used to have a very similar pair from Dubarry as my school shoes circa 1985.

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:54

mrswhiplington · 19/09/2024 22:52

I was watching an episode of Frasier from 1994 the other day and they were making fun of his shoes with tassles. 😅

He does like Frasier...

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herecomesthesunyes · 19/09/2024 22:53

Onlyonekenobe · 19/09/2024 22:52

My instinct was exactly the same as the first reply!

Does he wear red trousers at the weekend? Own a tweed jacket? Wear Hermes ties with little animals on them?

If the answer to any of these is yes, I think there’s no hope. Sorry OP.

Haha, you beat me to it with the red trousers 😂

AzureSheep · 19/09/2024 22:53

LTB

Oak89 · 19/09/2024 22:53

Oh they're really awful. I'm laughing at the thought of my husband in those Grin

In fact my Nan used to wear something similar .

TheYearOfSmallThings · 19/09/2024 22:52

I can't really picture them on a man's feet though. How does he style them?