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To find these loafers for men so so awful

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:42

Light hearted thread with a hint of real displeasure.

DH loves his black loafers with tassels. Wears them at the office everyday. I was secretly hoping I'd never see them again as they are on their last legs but today he bought a replacement pair on his way home.

I'm going to have to see them for another decade. I hate the tassels. I wouldn't mind plain black boring loafers.

AIBU to be planning ways to disappear them or plotting their untimely demise?

To find these loafers for men so so awful
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fao · 19/09/2024 23:31

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:29

Could be worse, it could be one of those fleeces with a howling wolf or some such scene 🐺🌛

If only you knew what stuff accidentally ended up in charity shops from his wardrobe

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OneTC · 19/09/2024 23:30

At least they're not boat shoes

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:29

Could be worse, it could be one of those fleeces with a howling wolf or some such scene 🐺🌛

Soonenough · 19/09/2024 23:28

Gosh . He's not from the East Coast of the States is he ? Say in a Boston Preppy way ? Any monograms on his belongings? Tempted to say that you need to run away but on the other hand he may need earning a big whack so just dismiss it as his way of fitting in.

FranceIsWhereItsAt · 19/09/2024 23:28

I think if I were you, I'd take them back and change them for a pair of shoes in a style that you do like, OP. Then when he complains, 'fess up, and tell him that you've never liked that style of shoe, but have put up with it because you love him, however, the thought of another 10 or 20 years of it, will have you heading straight for the divorce courts!

For me, they're a reminder of my skinhead boyfriend back in the early 70's!!!

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:24

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:24

They also do ladies, you could match?

😭

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Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:24

They also do ladies, you could match?

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:23

ThirstyThursday · 19/09/2024 23:20

He needs to commute in a different pair & keep these pristine in the office!

bit late to tell him now after years of him wearing similar

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It is my own goddamn fault.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:23

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:21

These , they will last forever. The quality is amazing

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Oh god they're so fucking ugly.

I have a toddler. I haven't sworn in so long. These shoes make me want to swear so much.

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ThirstyThursday · 19/09/2024 23:22

Celticliving · 19/09/2024 23:11

Imagine the responses on here if it was the man trying to tell the woman what she couldn't wear.

🥱😴😴😴

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:21

These , they will last forever. The quality is amazing

To find these loafers for men so so awful
ThirstyThursday · 19/09/2024 23:20

fao · 19/09/2024 22:48

He is late 40s (but old beyond his years). Apparently it's a "thing" where the partners at the law firm wear them (I know how wanky that sounds). I feel so gutted. I am tempted to tell him really as given they're still in the box they could be returned.

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He needs to commute in a different pair & keep these pristine in the office!

bit late to tell him now after years of him wearing similar

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:20

I feel so depressed.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:19

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:18

Are they proper weejuns?

I had to Google that. I don't know. They're from Russell and Bromley if that helps?

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Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:18

Are they proper weejuns?

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:16

So curious about how the posters who said they like the shoes dress. I wonder if their dress sense is similar to DH's...

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citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:16

If it makes you feel better @fao, we have a second house and my husband prides himself on not needing to bring any clothes when we go because he has a full wardrobe there... of clothes he's had since university.

Evilartsgrad · 19/09/2024 23:15

Look harmless to me.

MorrisZapp · 19/09/2024 23:14

I loathe tassels on loafers.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:13

Teanbiscuits33 · 19/09/2024 23:10

I’ve noticed these a lot on men recently. I don’t like them either. I know it’s looked down upon these days to espouse gender stereotypes but they look like the sort of shoes my 60+ female teachers wore at school in the early 00s! They definitely give off old lady vibes!

(@citylightsbehindsorry I don't know why but it won't let me delete your name from the post)

He's been wearing them for at least a decade @Teanbiscuits33 💔

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citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:13

I'm having lunch with a few former colleagues next week. Definitely going to scope out the footwear!

citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:12

fao · 19/09/2024 23:08

An American firm in London.

...I'm not in anything legal. Maybe he just made it up to get me to think that's part of the uniform and just accept it 🤔

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That's so weird. My DH is a partner at one of those (and I used to be until I decided I'd had enough) and no one wears those. Around the office the men mostly seem to wear suede sneakers.

Blondiney · 19/09/2024 23:11

Is divorce an option?

TheGreatIndoors · 19/09/2024 23:11

Young Sheldon wears them

Celticliving · 19/09/2024 23:11

Imagine the responses on here if it was the man trying to tell the woman what she couldn't wear.