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To find these loafers for men so so awful

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:42

Light hearted thread with a hint of real displeasure.

DH loves his black loafers with tassels. Wears them at the office everyday. I was secretly hoping I'd never see them again as they are on their last legs but today he bought a replacement pair on his way home.

I'm going to have to see them for another decade. I hate the tassels. I wouldn't mind plain black boring loafers.

AIBU to be planning ways to disappear them or plotting their untimely demise?

To find these loafers for men so so awful
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jeaux90 · 20/09/2024 11:07

It could be worse, he could have shoes with side buckles.

minipie · 20/09/2024 11:06

TheSuperbOwl · 20/09/2024 11:03

Maybe he could ring the changes with his grey, patent, slip-ons! That would look fab with his ironed jeans. 😁

I am guessing there are some deck shoes in the wardrobe too

To find these loafers for men so so awful
TheSuperbOwl · 20/09/2024 11:03

Maybe he could ring the changes with his grey, patent, slip-ons! That would look fab with his ironed jeans. 😁

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/09/2024 10:43

Could be worse. He could be wearing loafers with snaffles.

boulevardofbrokendreamss · 20/09/2024 10:40

They really are awful, but at least not as bad as a men's buckle shoe. They really make me feel sick.

MysteriousUsername · 20/09/2024 10:26

Shoes with tassels on are a big dealbreaker for me! I would have run away screaming on the first date. 😂

You have to LTB. Think of the influence he is going to have on your poor child. Leave, move many miles away and go NC.

If I were Prime Minister those abominations would be outlawed.

HelenaWaiting · 20/09/2024 10:17

Celticliving · 19/09/2024 23:11

Imagine the responses on here if it was the man trying to tell the woman what she couldn't wear.

I don't know where you've been, but men have been telling women what they can and can't wear for centuries. Even today, the fashion industry is dominated by men.

Tcateh · 20/09/2024 09:51

Op!

Your answers on this thread are making me laugh. I'm sorry I can't help more.

💐

minipie · 20/09/2024 09:45

Sounds like he dresses very much like my ILs and their friends. They are very Home Counties and in their 70s and 80s

I see a lot of golf and bridge on the horizon

Kelly51 · 20/09/2024 08:44

Jumbo cords? i'm amazed you have a toddler, his dress sense alone is enough to put you off.

ThirstyThursday · 20/09/2024 08:09

fao · 20/09/2024 00:02

No idea. There's loads and loads of partners

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@fao

Does he work for John Lewis?

foreverlikely · 20/09/2024 00:07

How would you even wear these? Wierd for a formal suit because of tassels. Won't work with a smart/casual look as they're too shiny? Trying to think of an outfit...

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fao · 20/09/2024 00:02

pjparty · 20/09/2024 00:01

Odd to match colleagues, and I agree with PP quite American style. Are all the partners men or do the women wear them too?

No idea. There's loads and loads of partners

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pjparty · 20/09/2024 00:01

Odd to match colleagues, and I agree with PP quite American style. Are all the partners men or do the women wear them too?

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fao · 20/09/2024 00:01

citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:44

Can you not lure him to Zegna for a suit and John Lobb for a pair of shoes? He'll feel like a new man.

Because I'm getting Brooks Brothers circa 1990 vibes right now, which is not a good thing

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I don't know what brooks brothers 1990 look like but I can have a good guess it's the Venn diagram bit of what DH likes but I don't. Like his jumbo corduroy house trousers.

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tillyandmilly · 19/09/2024 23:55

What’s wrong with them? Russell & Bromley do these and are brought back season after season so they must be popular?

citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:44

fao · 19/09/2024 23:42

Yes. He not one of those no socks with shoes men and wears trousers below the ankle. And never skinny or slim fit, always regular. Which is why these shoes feel even more inexcusable.

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Can you not lure him to Zegna for a suit and John Lobb for a pair of shoes? He'll feel like a new man.

Because I'm getting Brooks Brothers circa 1990 vibes right now, which is not a good thing

worrisomeasset · 19/09/2024 23:43

These were de rigeur in the 1980s, worn by gents who had a ‘tache, rolled up jacket sleeves and a mullet.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:42

LookingAtTheBox · 19/09/2024 23:40

Does he wear socks with them?

Yes. He not one of those no socks with shoes men and wears trousers below the ankle. And never skinny or slim fit, always regular. Which is why these shoes feel even more inexcusable.

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LookingAtTheBox · 19/09/2024 23:40

Does he wear socks with them?

Seadragonusgiganticusmaximus · 19/09/2024 23:38

fao · 19/09/2024 23:08

An American firm in London.

...I'm not in anything legal. Maybe he just made it up to get me to think that's part of the uniform and just accept it 🤔

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Not surprised to read that. In a formal work setting, I have only ever seen these worn by Americans. I think they look really weird with a suit.

Oxfords all the way for a Brit.

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fao · 19/09/2024 23:36

Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:32

They seem pretty jarring styles, as in not the same persons style

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To be clear, he never had a howling wolf hoodie.
But he was quite um influenced shall we say by things like The Three Musketeers or Robin Hood as a young man, and in his head he thought the shirts were "rugged, medieval white shirts" but actually they looked like women's blouses with balloon sleeves. They were dark times.

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Thistooshallpass24 · 19/09/2024 23:32

They seem pretty jarring styles, as in not the same persons style

Paisleydad · 19/09/2024 23:32

They get a nope from me.

Show him this thread.

Sew tassels onto all of his other clothing. Consider placing some like pasties on shirts, and jackets.

Thinking about it they get a double nope.

Shrimpi · 19/09/2024 23:31

My first reaction was they're horrendous they make me want to be sick.

But then... I pictured a group of good looking guys wearing sharp suits, and for some reason they've had the audacity to select these ridiculous old lady loafers to be their "uniform"... It's sort of cute, good for them. It reminds me of teenage boys in a good way and I think there's something charming about that at 40!