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To find these loafers for men so so awful

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:42

Light hearted thread with a hint of real displeasure.

DH loves his black loafers with tassels. Wears them at the office everyday. I was secretly hoping I'd never see them again as they are on their last legs but today he bought a replacement pair on his way home.

I'm going to have to see them for another decade. I hate the tassels. I wouldn't mind plain black boring loafers.

AIBU to be planning ways to disappear them or plotting their untimely demise?

To find these loafers for men so so awful
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fao · 20/09/2024 18:07

Wheelemin77 · 20/09/2024 17:19

I'm weirdly both with and against him here. I can't stand those type of loafers, but I am also a lover of classic shoe styles, of which this loafer is a variety of. My wife hates my love of classic Oxfords, but all I can see it the most beautiful and symmetrical shoe. She calls them old man shoes, but I can't think of a better shoe for a suit.

DH has TWO pairs of black Oxfords. He opts for the tasseled mess because they're a) more comfortable and b) the office uniform thing (I think)

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AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe · 20/09/2024 18:06

I like boots on a guy - docs, Chelsea boots. Trainers are better than shoes! I didn't really know anyone still wore a proper shoe tbh.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/09/2024 18:06

SquirrelSoShiny · 20/09/2024 17:32

I like those ones too! In fact DH wears them... but the tassels oh god no!

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I mean it’s the Oxfords I like, not the loafers. Oxfords are absolutely classic.

I prefer brogues for women than for men as it goes.

Superworm24 · 20/09/2024 18:04

DH has some, I actually love them and think he looks great. What footwear is suitable for a middle aged man to wear?

turbonerd · 20/09/2024 18:00

minipie · 20/09/2024 17:56

I know someone who still wears deck shoes, along with faded tattered rugby shirt and curtains. It’s like the 90s never left.

I suppose at least OP’s husband moved on, albeit skipping a few decades along the way.

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😂😂

Yep!!

OP, my sincerest commiserations. I dress like a bin bag, but those shoes + the jumbo cords on a guy still in his forties are definitely challenging.

minipie · 20/09/2024 17:56

turbonerd · 20/09/2024 17:49

Oh god I was laughing my head off at the betassled loafers, and then you bring in these!!

All the wannabe posh dudes had these in our yoof. Possibly including my DH 😂 now we are strictly sensible ecco !

Mind you, I spotted a fellow in the shop wearing deck shoes a few weeks ago. I think I accidently stared and came over as «interested». 🫣 I was just agog at the shoes.

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I know someone who still wears deck shoes, along with faded tattered rugby shirt and curtains. It’s like the 90s never left.

I suppose at least OP’s husband moved on, albeit skipping a few decades along the way.

turbonerd · 20/09/2024 17:53

NeverDropYourMooncup · 20/09/2024 10:43

Could be worse. He could be wearing loafers with snaffles.

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I googled that! 🤣🤣
To add, I’m happy that people wear what they like. I’m also happy to snigger uncontrollably at other people’s fashion choices, as I’m sure many do at mine 😄

turbonerd · 20/09/2024 17:49

minipie · 20/09/2024 11:06

I am guessing there are some deck shoes in the wardrobe too

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Oh god I was laughing my head off at the betassled loafers, and then you bring in these!!

All the wannabe posh dudes had these in our yoof. Possibly including my DH 😂 now we are strictly sensible ecco !

Mind you, I spotted a fellow in the shop wearing deck shoes a few weeks ago. I think I accidently stared and came over as «interested». 🫣 I was just agog at the shoes.

NunyaBeeswax · 20/09/2024 17:39

Slip on tasseled loafers remind me of every maths teacher I ever had.
Smooth bottom for sliding about the class rooms and getting a bit closer to the girls than the did with the boys..

Hmm... Seems your OH shoes have awoken a long distant traumatic memory.. so, I say, kill them with fire.. mistake then for a spider.. lighter fluid and a match.

🤪

Now classic brogues, they're a nice shoe.

My.last Ex worked in an office and for some reason he'd buy the pointiest shoes I'd ever seen. If I held him by his neck, I could have broken rocks I reckon.

SquirrelSoShiny · 20/09/2024 17:32

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/09/2024 17:30

I really like this style of shoe!!

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I like those ones too! In fact DH wears them... but the tassels oh god no!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/09/2024 17:30

Wheelemin77 · 20/09/2024 17:19

I'm weirdly both with and against him here. I can't stand those type of loafers, but I am also a lover of classic shoe styles, of which this loafer is a variety of. My wife hates my love of classic Oxfords, but all I can see it the most beautiful and symmetrical shoe. She calls them old man shoes, but I can't think of a better shoe for a suit.

I really like this style of shoe!!

RandomUsernameHere · 20/09/2024 17:28

Those ones are awful but tasseled loafers in general can look really good.

Ohnobackagain · 20/09/2024 17:27

@fao
I’m with @AiryFairyLights - first instinct, cut them off and feign ignorance. Even better if there is a way to make it happen when not at home (eg when he is at the gym arrange a little shoe re-work) 🫣😬

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/09/2024 17:27

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 17:23

DH has these waiting for his current shoes to wear through.

I’m bewildered at his ability to source such fugliness.

These are quite nice because they are very unashamedly fugly, iyswim. They’re mean to be fugly.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 20/09/2024 17:26

Yes I really hate them!

Definitely expect to see them worn with red trousers, possibly plus tweed jacket or similar.

Also they seem to be favoured by men whose feet are very small but the man is overweight.

Cherrysoup · 20/09/2024 17:25

With a block heel, I’d be quite happy. For me! Could he be persuaded to wear decent brogues?

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 17:23

DH has these waiting for his current shoes to wear through.

I’m bewildered at his ability to source such fugliness.

To find these loafers for men so so awful
Mintgum · 20/09/2024 17:22

God no burn them and bury the ash.
They remind me of a pair of school shoes my mother got me and i had to go to school in them.
I was bullied for weeks with my man shoes.

Wheelemin77 · 20/09/2024 17:19

I'm weirdly both with and against him here. I can't stand those type of loafers, but I am also a lover of classic shoe styles, of which this loafer is a variety of. My wife hates my love of classic Oxfords, but all I can see it the most beautiful and symmetrical shoe. She calls them old man shoes, but I can't think of a better shoe for a suit.

To find these loafers for men so so awful
AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe · 20/09/2024 17:10

Just googled 'wtf is a snaffle' and woah. Just woah there.

Although I kinda like the sound of the consultant who dresses like shit 😂 Graphic tees are not so bad in my book.

SquirrelSoShiny · 20/09/2024 17:10

My fanjo snapped shut at the sight of those shoes. And yet you have a toddler. My question is: how?

DouglasBader · 20/09/2024 17:07

As others have said, cut off the tassles.

Tell him it is purely a safety precaution, as you have heard about someone who lost a leg when a shoe tassle got caught up in the mechanism of an escalator.

AlwaysKindaKnewYoudBeTheDeathOfMe · 20/09/2024 17:05

Christ, they're some unsexy footwear.

Tassels????

Just no to tassels in every single possible instance.

He needs told 😂

Lollingalong · 20/09/2024 17:03

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 16:47

@Lollingalong and @fao we have similar menfolk.

I’ve tried to talk to mine about only buying in a limited range of colour, or having sets of clothes that he wears together.

But no. He seems to raid the bowels of hohos wardrobe for the shabbiest, most shapeless or tight clothes he can find, in an array of colours.

Anything decent is kept firmly in its packet until it’s at least a few decades out of style.

Absolutely relate. They must have attended the same fashion college.

Lollingalong · 20/09/2024 17:02

fao · 20/09/2024 14:36

Ohhh gosh I can so relate to this. Sometimes I am so gob smacked by the combination of clothes he puts together. Beggars belief. I think surely with these combination of clothes that it can't go that wrong... Lately he's been wearing formal shirts UNDER rugby shirts, a couple of buttons of of the rugby shirt will be open so you can see a shirt underneath. Or the hideous shoes with navy chinos and brown socks. It hurts so much.

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I feel like he gets some points for effort though?! Even if the result is an eyesore, I get the sense that there is some sort of mood board or theme underpinning these strong looks? Mine just looks like he escaped from a tumble dryer, and would think nothing of popping on his work shoes with some gym kit and trying (and obviously failing) to take me out for lunch. You know it’s bad when this shirt/rugby shirt combo seems aspirational…