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To find these loafers for men so so awful

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fao · 19/09/2024 22:42

Light hearted thread with a hint of real displeasure.

DH loves his black loafers with tassels. Wears them at the office everyday. I was secretly hoping I'd never see them again as they are on their last legs but today he bought a replacement pair on his way home.

I'm going to have to see them for another decade. I hate the tassels. I wouldn't mind plain black boring loafers.

AIBU to be planning ways to disappear them or plotting their untimely demise?

To find these loafers for men so so awful
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OneTC · 21/09/2024 15:56

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 17:23

DH has these waiting for his current shoes to wear through.

I’m bewildered at his ability to source such fugliness.

A truly novel take on the piss catcher

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fao · 20/09/2024 23:16

I showed DH the thread. He was amused and surprised and didn't realise how offensive I had found the shoes. He said it was more of a comfort thing really. He didn't quite say what the next step was but I am quietly positive.

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saltinesandcoffeecups · 20/09/2024 22:13

Whelp the good news is that the ladies aren’t throwing themselves at him wearing those. 🤣

And thank for the unlocked memory of my dad in 1980 wearing those along with creased and pleated brown trousers

AngelicKaty · 20/09/2024 21:59

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 17:23

DH has these waiting for his current shoes to wear through.

I’m bewildered at his ability to source such fugliness.

Oh Jesus, they're VILE! 😬 Suddenly the tasselled loafers seem like a thing of beauty! 😂

TossedSaladandSE · 20/09/2024 21:53

I could not ever shag a man who wore those

Not even back in the 80's

TossedSaladandSE · 20/09/2024 21:53

I remember these from the 80's

3LittlePiggs · 20/09/2024 21:52

I had a burgundy pair of those for school in 1983.

Out of interest I looked on the tube today to see if could spot any. There was one lady with a pair with tassels so long they almost reached the end of the shoes. Also 4 men in blue suits who seemed likely candidates but they all had brown loafers on.

AngelicKaty · 20/09/2024 21:33

fao · 19/09/2024 22:42

Light hearted thread with a hint of real displeasure.

DH loves his black loafers with tassels. Wears them at the office everyday. I was secretly hoping I'd never see them again as they are on their last legs but today he bought a replacement pair on his way home.

I'm going to have to see them for another decade. I hate the tassels. I wouldn't mind plain black boring loafers.

AIBU to be planning ways to disappear them or plotting their untimely demise?

I didn't mind these when my husband wore them FORTY years ago! 😂 Have they come back into fashion?

Shortnotice · 20/09/2024 21:26

Yeah they are awful, they look like women's shoes, if a guy showed up on a date wearing them, I would be totally put off.

BIossomtoes · 20/09/2024 21:20

citylightsbehind · 19/09/2024 23:44

Can you not lure him to Zegna for a suit and John Lobb for a pair of shoes? He'll feel like a new man.

Because I'm getting Brooks Brothers circa 1990 vibes right now, which is not a good thing

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Don’t send him to Lobb, he could end up with these.

https://www.johnlobb.com/en_gb/mens-shoes/delano-ii#selection.color=Black%20Oxford%20Calf

TheMarzipanDildo · 20/09/2024 21:16

mrswhiplington · 19/09/2024 22:52

I was watching an episode of Frasier from 1994 the other day and they were making fun of his shoes with tassles. 😅

I watched that recently too. The one where Niles has very expensive tasseled shoes and he’s not sure about them.

BeatsAntique · 20/09/2024 21:12

Absolutely not. I couldn’t find a man who wore those attractive, and then you added quarter zips to the list of his fashion violations! Quarter zips give me Jeremy Clarkson/Dad vibes and it’s grim.

With a suit, it must be Oxfords. But I’m judgy AF about men’s style choices when it comes to finding them attractive.

The only acceptable footwear: Chelsea, non-pointy western, or lace up boots, riggers, Oxfords, Converse, suede flat style Puma/Adidas, Jordans. Flip flops or sandals or slides ONLY on or close to a beach or pool and never with socks. Wellies when needed.

Pasty shoes, long pointy loafers, shiny shoes unless with a DJ or military dress uniform, Timberlands, white 1990s style Paul McCartney trainers or any athletic shoe in a neon colour - all in the bin. Crocs should never be worn by anyone, unless they're actively wading across a river.

RobertaFirmino · 20/09/2024 21:12

RandomUsernameHere · 20/09/2024 17:28

Those ones are awful but tasseled loafers in general can look really good.

How? On a bonfire?

Gensola · 20/09/2024 20:47

I like them but I’m an academic so my judgement is probably skewed by seeing hundreds of these a day at work 😅

Aroastdinnerisnotahumanright · 20/09/2024 20:46

This thread reminds me of a 50-60 year old guy I saw the other day on a Brompton bike wearing Chelsea boots, sweaty betty-style leggings and a shirt and tie. I know it was on his commute but still.

HeliotropePJs · 20/09/2024 19:45

I think it depends on the person in them. They're not my favourite type of shoe, but some people could pull off the look. An attractive, confident man with a sense of humour and a friendly personality will look good in just about anything, imo.

greengreyblue · 20/09/2024 19:43

I think they’re stylish on the right man with the right outfit.

SweatySpaghetti · 20/09/2024 19:43

I quite like them 🤷‍♀️

Onlyonekenobe · 20/09/2024 19:42

The shirt underneath a rugby shirt proves it: this is a classic case of arrested sartorial development dating back to c.1994.

I don't think there's a cure for this. I'm so sorry for you.

SensibleSigma · 20/09/2024 19:05

@GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing that was the closest photo. Sadly DHs are creamish smooth leather and look very, erm, suited to a much older gentleman. They are genuinely awful.

starfishmummy · 20/09/2024 18:44

Please tell me he doesn't wear white socks with them

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 20/09/2024 18:15

It must be a law firm thing for men to be no good at fashion.

The senior law firm partner at one office would wear rugby shirts, me and the other PA backed out of the room laughing - this was on mufti days though. Another lawyer also male wore an outfit so bad on mufti days that we were all rolling about the office sniggering and told him it was bad.

These were men who weren’t bad looking and reasonably tall and slim so no excuses.

BoldAmberDuck · 20/09/2024 18:09

They’re hideous but I guess if he only wears them to work it’s ok

PickAChew · 20/09/2024 18:09

I had some like that. In the 80s! They were every bit as hard and uncomfortable as those look.

BarkLife · 20/09/2024 18:07

My friends and I swore off any man who wore shoes (at uni, end of the '90s). Only trainers allowed.

Your DH's choice of footwear is icktastic, OP. I would have run for the hills at the first sighting of a tassel.