'i would die for my kids' ..but would people really?!

Racist bollocks.

I can give some insight into the abuse story you mention. it’s really hard being on the outside of an abusive relationship, if you push too far you push them towards their abuser. You need to get the balance so they confide, trust and know you’ll always be there. Thats all you can do. Any more and they won’t confide, they won’t feel supported. Just judged. They will keep things a secret and won’t turn to you when things are bad. Abusers isolate their targets so eventually there will be fewer and fewer people to turn to, until leaving seems impossible.

They can only leave when the lightbulb has switched and they are ready to go. From the sounds of it, the parents offered an ear, a safe place to stay and support. Thats all they could do. It’s a shitty situation for all

I’ve never said this phrase but yes, I would. I would give my life if it meant either of my children would be kept safe. I can’t comprehend how a parent couldn’t feel this way

I would die for my kids without question - if it was me or them actually going to die I’d want it to be me without a second thought.

That isn’t the same as being willing to do absolutely anything for them. If it turned out they were evil serial killers I wouldn’t cover it up for example. In your examples I would have watched the kids for a cancer scan and I would take a beating if it stopped my daughter having to take it, but I wouldn’t go to prison so she could avoid a beating (assuming no permanent injury and she was an adult, she’s currently three so it’s different), going to prison I would be willing to do but not having a criminal record, very difficult to live the rest of your life like that, I’d lose my job.

So effectively I’d endure something bad to prevent my child having to endure it, but I wouldn’t take something much worse so she could avoid something unpleasant.

Most people will never be put to the test so yes, it's a nonsense statement really, just meaningless posturing because of that. It's the same as swearing on your children's lives...

That said, I don't doubt that most parents would do anything they could for their children but the 'die for them' is just baseless.

You obviously just know some selfish arseholes, op.

i think most parents would instinctively put their own lives in danger to save their dc from physical harm.

However, psychologically not so much.
Two people I know of who have moved men in really quickly after a split from a partner. No fucks given for the poor dc who have a strange man living with them because mums loved up. Disgraceful imo.

I think it’s a much stronger feeling when the children are actually children. Many people will put themselves in serious harm’s way to save/protect a baby or toddler they don’t even know, but possibly wouldn’t for a teenager or adult. Although that’s more an emergency/accident situation than the examples which are more nuanced and less immediate

Fucking stupid comment.

In answer to you OP. Those people sound unhinged, although I'd like more information about the situation. Everyone I am friends with who has young kids would die for their children. I know this not because they say it, but because I see everyday now much work they put into parenting and how much they love their children. I obviously would die for my children. My mum would, too. I know this because she has always put me first and helped me whenever I needed it, even if I pushed her away.

I had this discussion the other day with a friend. Her husband had kidney failure, and she is a match for him. He has kidney failure due to poor lifestyle choices and hasn’t really made any changes so she said she is reluctant to donate. Plus prior to his diagnosis she was planning to leave him.

thinking about it, I would not donate a kidney to anyone other than my children, or possibly my 2 sisters. The surgery is risky - plus risks of living a life with one kidney. I would only be willing to take that risk for my kids.

So you speak for all English people, do you? and the rest of the UK - Wales, Ireland, Scotland.

Who are you to do this?

No one can say for sure until they actually encounter that situation. Most people would want to in theory.

I think people who say that they'd die for their kids or do anything for them probably wouldn't. The ones who get on with it without the grand gestures/words are more likely to.
It probably makes them feel better, like they've 'banked' a 'get out of jail card' to let them off not doing anything, if that makes sense.

Me too; the urge to protect is as strong as ever and the worries don’t lessen but change over time. That’s my experience anyway.

I've actually thought about this question a lot. I have three very little kids and not to blow my own trumpet, but I think me dying would be one of or possibly the worst thing that could happen to them. So if I died to save one of them, I'd be really fucking over the other two. If I had time to think over this decision it would be a real fucker - but then I just don't know that I could bear for my child to die if I could stop it in any way.

If I had to die to save all three of their lives, no question I would die. I'm not going to die so that they can spend an extra 5 minutes at the park, or have sweets for dinner though. So I think you've got to remember when people say this, it's in the context of "to save their life" and that doesn't mean that you'll do anything for them in any context. Your examples are dreadful though.

See,my mums the opposite. Our 5 year old dog has an issue with his spine. Vets have suggested a CT scan, £1800. We’re waiting to see if the insurance will cover it (it’s not needed desperately otherwise I’d sell a kidney, it’s more to confirm what they think they already know)y mum has offered to pay if need be. ❤️
I’m 53 and my sister is 50 but my mum still turns into a raging mad woman if anyone upsets us.

And what is that idiotic remark based on?

Before kids I would have said no, I’d never give my life up for someone else. Now I have 2 children, I’d die in a heartbeat for them.

It’s funny because I’ve been thinking the exact same thing for a long time and completely agree with you. How can you prepared to die for your child but not prepared to feed them well or deal with the effort of putting in place and enforcing boundaries?

I would quite literally die for my child as she is the embodiment of my heart and love. I also know that my own mother would die for me without a second’s thought and I’m a grown 38 year old woman.

I would add that another internal thought I often have is that I reckon most mothers would die for their children but most fathers would instead kill for their children.

The same.

If my child was in a domestic violence situation I would do everything in my power to keep them safe and remove them from harm. I'm so sorry your friend went through this.

I hope she is safe now and that your other friend is recovering from cancer.

I would die for my kids, I think would struggle to find a reason live if my two kids died and left me behind.

Hmm. When I needed a brain scan and was put on the two week list, my mum wanted me to have a private scan rather than wait. I couldn't afford it, she could have afforded it but didn't offer.

Not sure if she's ever said she'd die for me though.

There's a expression, something like: every man wants to kill a dragon for you, but no man wants to wash the dishes for you.

Maybe something similar can be applied to some parents. Devoted parents probably don't go round saying that sort of thing though. Actions speak louder than words!

Not in the UK. English people do not have that kind of love“

What?!

I would without hesitation. Children, grandchild and possibly husband too. (I say possibly because I’d have to evaluate who was more useful, he or I.)

Not in the UK. English people do not have that kind of love

Sorry! I would donate organs for my niece and nephew even if it risked my life. I would push them out of the way of traffic and out myself in danger. I would jump into water if they were in trouble.

i think most people would risk their life or face certain death to protect a child they love.