Genuinely confused - kid + internet posting

It doesn’t sound like it’s an illegal or indecent picture. The police would not be involved in this. The school have followed it up as it’s a form of bullying.

The other parents should have apologised for their son’s actions instead of the old well she posted it first so it’s fair game. They are really not teaching their son any valuable life lesson there.

It really is time for children to be banned from social media. All of that time wasted by teachers having to deal with this kind of crap.

Just because a girl posts a picture of herself in a bikini doesn't mean she wants a bunch of silly boys copying it and sharing it around.

She's allowed to post a pic of herself on her own social media without assuming creepy idiots are going to copy it.

Make sure your son knows what he's done is totally wrong.

He wont be in trouble with the police. The girl's parents really need to lock down their own child's profile and evaluate whether bikini photos should even be online if they find them "explicit". The police wont even entertain the mother.

I would start by deleting Snapchat and socials - he is far too young for this. Then have some chats with him about online safety.

Nothing's going to come from the police. Posting a picture of a child in a bikini isn't illegal (though is unkind).

Snapchat is imo the worst social media option you could have chosen. It's all based on images, and historical content disappears. It's the worst option for grooming. Tbh it sounds as if your ds lacks the maturity for social media, if he doesn't understand the impact of posting a photo of a scantily clad peer. If it had been a topless photo, he could be facing legal action.

agree with "friends parents"

ok screen shooting and spreading other peoples photos are not acceptable

you done your bit apologising but technically your sons has done no wrong
its was the other child and as parents are not taking responsibility that's not your fault

Putting aside the debate about Snapchat, why are you "terrified" of the police? That seems quite an extreme reaction.

Your son hasn't committed a crime. He didn't post the picture on his account. His "friends" have admitted (in front of parents and the school) that they posted the picture. So why would you think he'd be in trouble?

But why do you allow Snapchat which is extremely problematic?

The best advice you've had is to delete Snapchat. As the other parents said she put the photo out there. There are other ways they can meet up

But he's been dragged in to bullying and other parents are threatening you with the police because of snapchat.

As your son is vulnerable, having Snapchat is a terrible idea because the messages disappear so your son is at risk of being in a tricky situation where he can’t prove his innocence.

You can use other apps to see location. Are the other 2 boys allowed to share their location or do they only have it on when meeting your son? Does your son have his Snapmap location on too? It’s not good safety sense to have it on. Your son may only have 3 contacts but somebody who knows your son might look up his friends’ location to find him.

He doesn't need Snapchat to walk with his friends.
They get picked on but they're also using snapchat to bully/upset this girl? Snapchat definitely encourages/amplifies this sort of behaviour.

You can't base your parenting decisions on what other parents allow. I have a 14 year old who doesn't have snapchat, tiktok, facebook etc I don't give a monkeys what anyone else allows.

How did it get viewed by many if he only has two friends on Snapchat?

They need to find other methods of meeting up to walk to school rather than relying on Snapchat.

The "don't post pictures online you don't want people to see/share" is good advice, but adults who copy "friends" pictures and then share them on other forums etc are still twits for doing it.
What complicates it is that these are all children involved. In which case the attitude of the other adults "she shouldn't post risqué pictures if she didn't want them shared" is really shitty because they are talking about a child.
Thei cchildren are also minors-and it's really poor parenting on their part not to set a better example.
And the other parents who were seemingly happy to let their own child post pictures they describe as illegal.
I don't think the police are likely to be something to worry about, but if possible I would guide your son towards different friends. Because even if they aren't so bad now (just foolish) their parents mean they are likely to get into further trouble and I wouldn't want my son involved with them. I know it's really hard though, especially when you worry about them having any friends.

Think logically.

If the picture is publicly available from the girl's FB account, either she herself is sharing an illegal image in the first place or the image is not illegal.

But you need to remove Snapchat. It is not a good app for someone who doesn't easily understand social media boundaries.