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Family member awarded enhanced pip - AIBU?

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Orangecrocs · 19/09/2024 15:42

My family member has just been awarded enhanced pip in both living and mobility components.
Shes told me that she’s twisted the truth during the assessment and told the assessor that she has lots of pain and can’t really walk at all, but she walks all the time as I see her out and about - we live in a hilly area. I know people who are in a wheelchair and struggle to get enhanced rate - so I really don’t understand how she’s managed this.
I know people will say mind your own business but she’s told me she’s actually lied to them.

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20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:34

Daltonbear1 · 19/09/2024 17:32

What the fuck are you on about so how do people buy food or pay their bills with bloody beans

A benefit debit card?

A benefit bank transfer?

The whole system needs changing.

I have a business bank account. Everything is accounted for.

Benefit claimants could have a benefit bank account and debit card and account for everything too.

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:33

All benefits need to be accounted for. Not curtailed necessarily just accounted for.

I have to account for my business spending and my tax why should benefit claimants not have to account for themselves and their spending.

Daltonbear1 · 19/09/2024 17:32

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:15

PIP needs to change to a non cash benefit.

UC also needs to change to be a mostly non cash benefit.

No need for cash in this day and age.

All benefits should be able to be audited and spending traceable.

All tax payers should be able to see how their contributions are being spent.

What the fuck are you on about so how do people buy food or pay their bills with bloody beans

OhmygodDont · 19/09/2024 17:30

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:29

I run a business. I have to justify all my spending and account for everything. I don’t see why benefit claimants can’t follow this model of accountability.

Once the government do that for every penny of tax they take individually maybe and not just a well £300 went to “benefits” exactly what.

x2boys · 19/09/2024 17:30

Hedjwitch · 19/09/2024 17:13

Frustrating. DH has heart failure( double by pass at Christmas) and reduced heart function. He cant walk very far before getting breathless and having to stop. He also has diabetic neuropathy and foot ulcers.
Was refused PiP.
We have appealed. They didnt contact any of his medical team at all for information!!

Did you not send evidence?

DejaTu · 19/09/2024 17:30

orangeleopard · 19/09/2024 17:27

My ex’s mum openly admits that she lies to pip (brags about it) and she gets high rate of both components. She claims her anxiety is so severe that she cannot leave her home and when she ran out of milk she had a breakdown - she literally laughed when retelling this made up facade. Her anxiety is apparently so bad that she needs a blue badge and high rate mobility and care but she travels to foreign countries constantly, she is at raves every single weekend. She has people in and out of her home and when she got into a Facebook argument, she drove 5 hours to their home to continue the argument - but apparently this woman’s anxiety is so bad she cannot leave her home.

I’m physically disabled with agonising pain daily, the only time I leave my home is for the school run - and even half of the time I have family members do that for me. I cry everyday as I don’t know what to do with myself as I cannot function due to the pain - even morphine doesn’t touch it. My entire life is messed up, I cannot even get out of bed properly let alone take my son to the park due to the pain, yet I cannot even get the top care. When I did have a carer, my council tried to make me pay £80 for only 3 hours A WEEK, which I couldn’t afford as a disabled single parent - so I have no one to help me clean my home, make my dinners, help me get to the pharmacy or hospital appointments, day to day help. Yet this is woman who admits she lies for top benefits, she gets someone to come clean her home top to bottom weekly (free of charge), a free taxi to and from each medical appointment, someone to come check in on her weekly and make sure she’s ‘ok’. I get no help at all, my entire life I have lived back and forward at hospitals. When I tried to end my life because of the pain a few years ago, I got discharged with no thought or care or routine appointments to make sure I was ok.

Genuine claimants and people in need don’t get the support they deserve, and for benefits they often have to go to trubunal and fight. We have to struggle alone. The liars among us get everything that we should have - it’s disgusting

Really sorry to hear this.

It is reprehensible.

Intheoldendays · 19/09/2024 17:29

LadyKenya · 19/09/2024 17:18

And child benefit also? Thank goodness you have no bearing on how benefits are paid.

Yep, lets make people who are already is dire circumstances feel even shitter about themselves.

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:29

I run a business. I have to justify all my spending and account for everything. I don’t see why benefit claimants can’t follow this model of accountability.

x2boys · 19/09/2024 17:29

Orangecrocs · 19/09/2024 16:15

She hasn’t been asked for any clinical evidence from her doctor.

Sorry I don't this beleive
She wouldn't get PIP at the highest rates with no evidence
Anybody can put in a claim but you need evidence to back it up.

orangeleopard · 19/09/2024 17:27

My ex’s mum openly admits that she lies to pip (brags about it) and she gets high rate of both components. She claims her anxiety is so severe that she cannot leave her home and when she ran out of milk she had a breakdown - she literally laughed when retelling this made up facade. Her anxiety is apparently so bad that she needs a blue badge and high rate mobility and care but she travels to foreign countries constantly, she is at raves every single weekend. She has people in and out of her home and when she got into a Facebook argument, she drove 5 hours to their home to continue the argument - but apparently this woman’s anxiety is so bad she cannot leave her home.

I’m physically disabled with agonising pain daily, the only time I leave my home is for the school run - and even half of the time I have family members do that for me. I cry everyday as I don’t know what to do with myself as I cannot function due to the pain - even morphine doesn’t touch it. My entire life is messed up, I cannot even get out of bed properly let alone take my son to the park due to the pain, yet I cannot even get the top care. When I did have a carer, my council tried to make me pay £80 for only 3 hours A WEEK, which I couldn’t afford as a disabled single parent - so I have no one to help me clean my home, make my dinners, help me get to the pharmacy or hospital appointments, day to day help. Yet this is woman who admits she lies for top benefits, she gets someone to come clean her home top to bottom weekly (free of charge), a free taxi to and from each medical appointment, someone to come check in on her weekly and make sure she’s ‘ok’. I get no help at all, my entire life I have lived back and forward at hospitals. When I tried to end my life because of the pain a few years ago, I got discharged with no thought or care or routine appointments to make sure I was ok.

Genuine claimants and people in need don’t get the support they deserve, and for benefits they often have to go to trubunal and fight. We have to struggle alone. The liars among us get everything that we should have - it’s disgusting

gloriawasright · 19/09/2024 17:27

I'm out !
I should not have posted on this as I should have remembered how this all goes.
Know your place disabled member of society. Know your place .😡

HungryLittleCrocodile · 19/09/2024 17:26

Why is your 'family member' telling you the ins and outs of her PIP claim/PIP assessment? And why on earth is she telling you she bullshitted/ exaggerated/ lied to make sure she got an enhanced award? Confused

I have never known this in real life; people bragging about their disability awards to all and sundry, and blathering about how much they have bullshitted. Why would anyone do this? Knowing they are very likely dropping themselves in it, and throwing themselves under the bus, as someone could report them?

Only on Mumsnet does this happen. Very strange. 😕

As a pp said, it is VERY hard to get PIP, and will be almost impossible under false pretences. Why let this get in the way of a good chance to benefit bash though eh @Orangecrocs ?!! Hmm

Doingmybest12 · 19/09/2024 17:25

I think if you truly feel strongly about thus individual case then tell the relevant people. Talking on here won't do anything, she clearly thinks what she's done is fair enough.

OhmygodDont · 19/09/2024 17:25

TigerRag · 19/09/2024 17:15

That's fraud. it's how you are half the time

Well that’s what the places that help people fill in their pip forms say to do.

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:24

gloriawasright · 19/09/2024 17:21

I am clinging to the hope that you are just quoting the shite that is usually spouted around PIP. And not that you actually believe in what you have written .

Why? This is reasonable to me. I believe labour have shown their intentions clearly. Radical reform will happen. Cash is no longer needed in this society.

DejaTu · 19/09/2024 17:24

Correction, yes the clearance rate.

Apologies Dalton.

gloriawasright · 19/09/2024 17:21

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:15

PIP needs to change to a non cash benefit.

UC also needs to change to be a mostly non cash benefit.

No need for cash in this day and age.

All benefits should be able to be audited and spending traceable.

All tax payers should be able to see how their contributions are being spent.

I am clinging to the hope that you are just quoting the shite that is usually spouted around PIP. And not that you actually believe in what you have written .

TigerRag · 19/09/2024 17:21

Sparklywhiteteeth · 19/09/2024 17:17

This is very very unlikely to be true. It’s overwhelmingly likely to be you she’s lying to and she doesn’t wish you to know details of her condition. Which could be other conditions undisclosed to you inc mental health.

I cam see why she doesn’t want to tell you though.

Exactly. I've said before that some people will lie about their disabilities - as in they won't tell people the extent of it or what they really have. I mean no one's exactly going to say they shit themselves

PandoraSox · 19/09/2024 17:20

Daltonbear1 · 19/09/2024 17:03

Where did you get that info from because previously there has been a lot of mandatory considerations that after quite a long time waiting and court they got passed so it’s not easy for everyone

@DejaTu is wrong. That is not the award or "pass" rate, but the clearance rate, which relates to the DWP's processing of claims. I have posted the award rates on my previous post.

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:20

TigerRag · 19/09/2024 17:18

How do I pay my mum with vouchers? It'd cost far more for social services to give me a carer

And how much would this waste?

Bank transfer? Is your Mum your employee? I am not necessarily talking about vouchers just not a system that allows cash to be taken and no accountability for how it is spent.

Kitkat1523 · 19/09/2024 17:20

Hedjwitch · 19/09/2024 17:13

Frustrating. DH has heart failure( double by pass at Christmas) and reduced heart function. He cant walk very far before getting breathless and having to stop. He also has diabetic neuropathy and foot ulcers.
Was refused PiP.
We have appealed. They didnt contact any of his medical team at all for information!!

No they rarely do….the onus is on you to provide this….so moving forward make sure you have copies of all clinic letters from every speciality involved ( eg OT , dieticians , Diabetes team) as well as the principal speciality team , in this case cardiology…..request copies of your partners gp records and provide a repeat prescriotpion …good luck

DejaTu · 19/09/2024 17:19

If your relative is telling you the truth - it’s fraud in black and white.

Some might be OK with it, but I and many others would not.

It all comes down to values I suppose.

gloriawasright · 19/09/2024 17:18

PandoraSox · 19/09/2024 16:22

Oh good. Another disability benefits bashing thread.

Don't you just love them? The ignorance around PIP is huge.
It's almost as if some disabilities are invisible.and should be disclosed to any old random who has an opinion.
For the uneducated out there....disabled does not always have to be physical.
And while I am at it, the disabled do not get a free car. Blue badges are not just for physical disabilities.
Nobody but the claimant themselves knows how their disability affects them.
You cannot diagnose someone just by knowing them .
Jeez,when will this kind of thread ever stop !

babore · 19/09/2024 17:18

I claim pip. I had to write down all my diagnoses. Lengthy forms, reports from my physiotherapist, occupational therapist,neurologist, gp and I STILL needed an assessment before I was awarded.

You're making this crap up and I'm sick to death of these benefits bashing threads.

LadyKenya · 19/09/2024 17:18

20yearrenovation · 19/09/2024 17:15

PIP needs to change to a non cash benefit.

UC also needs to change to be a mostly non cash benefit.

No need for cash in this day and age.

All benefits should be able to be audited and spending traceable.

All tax payers should be able to see how their contributions are being spent.

And child benefit also? Thank goodness you have no bearing on how benefits are paid.