Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To say that people in Sussex are awful?

262 replies

iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 15:23

Can't quite put my finger on what it is, but generally in Sussex when working or travelling there, whether in towns, coast or countryside, people do seem to have this awful, cold and arrogant demeanour about them that they are somehow something they aren't?

Just seem to look down their noses at anyone else and must say I don't think you see that as much even in London!

Must add as well, there do seem to be a rather large proportion of quite aggressive elderly ex-Londoners who almost come across as ex football hooligans?

AIBU or is there something I'm missing? anyone know anywhere else like this?🤔

OP posts:
Doggymummar · 19/09/2024 16:07

I'm in mid Sussex, the one everyone forgets about and yes we are just awful.

belindawolves · 19/09/2024 16:07

@Richard1985 😂

Dahlietta · 19/09/2024 16:07

Are you a Mancunian getting your revenge for the other thread?!
I have lived in both Manchester and Sussex. I didn’t realise how unfortunate I am until today!

belindawolves · 19/09/2024 16:06

@MasterBeth I'm pleased to say that after 10 years of moving from West Sussex, I now pronounce school differently Grin

oakleaffy · 19/09/2024 16:06

GiveMeSpanakopita · 19/09/2024 15:29

There's an old saying of my dad's that I think may be pertinent here:

"If you met one arsehole today, very well, you met an arsehole. If you meet arseholes all day every day....then you need to consider the possibility that you, in fact, are the arsehole."

Yes definitely so!
Generally people are friendly -London less so {I'm a Londoner} but for sure I know someone and every house~share they have there are serious problems.

I'm beginning to wonder if it's them 🫣

Putting · 19/09/2024 16:05

iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 16:03

People need to have spend a good amount of time there to understand it - Rude, snooty, stuck-up, are all very good ways to describe the majority. They almost come across socially awkward because of it!😂

'unjustified arrogance' for a lot of reasons is how I could describe them

I’ve been here over a decade and haven’t noticed anything amiss.

Surrey and Cheshire, on the other hand…

MasterBeth · 19/09/2024 16:04

Have you heard how they pronounce school... "skkuule"?! Yuk

Richard1985 · 19/09/2024 16:04

ExquisiteEmelda · 19/09/2024 15:25

Yes, you are correct. Everyone in Sussex is exactly the same, one hive mind if you will.

Hove mind?

Runningupthecurtains · 19/09/2024 16:04

We came down from London nearly 20 years ago. The people are such arses that despite knowing the people moving in were coming down from London we were greeted by a bottle of champagne on the doorstep from one set of neighbours, home baked cake from another neighbour and a message from another neighbour to say to give her a knock as she had popped a casserole in the slow cooker for us so we could have something to eat without have to cook/ find a local takeaway etc. this is the level of dreadful around here. Totally utterly nice, how terrible!

lightsandtunnels · 19/09/2024 16:03

This thread is hilarious.
I'm on the borders of West Sussex, in Hampshire and we are all very snooty here too. I moved here from SW London to get a big house so I'm the worst type obviously. I also used to live in the Midlands - way too far from the sea for my liking - that's what I didn't like about it and it wasn't snooty enough either.

Original poster
iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 16:03

People need to have spend a good amount of time there to understand it - Rude, snooty, stuck-up, are all very good ways to describe the majority. They almost come across socially awkward because of it!😂

'unjustified arrogance' for a lot of reasons is how I could describe them

OP posts:
Dolliesdisasterousdayout · 19/09/2024 16:02

I’ve never been but sounds like my kind of place!

Arlanymor · 19/09/2024 16:02

iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 16:01

Where did I make a divide. I mentioned an area I also knew well where I found people much friendlier 🤔

Show quote history

You seem to think you know everywhere well. [insert patronising pondering emoji that everyone hates]

AllGrownUp1465 · 19/09/2024 16:02

Arlanymor · 19/09/2024 15:57

I think most people object to generalisations and no… I am from the other side of the bridge and still think it’s bloody rude and ignorant to broad brush with nobby stereotypes. You were born in one place and grew up around terrible people it appears - sucks for you but it’s not the whole place. And frankly attitudes such as yours fuel the whole north/south divide bollocks as well.

Show quote history

Oops seem to have hit a nerve. I have lived in a lot of places in the uk, north and south though. Definitely a thing in East Sussex with rude people

belindawolves · 19/09/2024 16:02

@Arlanymor very close to Horsham, perhaps one could call it adjacent.

SilverPearl · 19/09/2024 16:02

It’s the twittens & pond puddings that make us cold & arrogant.

belindawolves · 19/09/2024 16:01

@SecondFavouriteDinosaur I was before I moved away from there 10 years ago aged 18. I didn't think that I was at the time but after moving away, I realised I was much friendlier than when I was there and the people where I grew up were very unfriendly and rude.

Arlanymor · 19/09/2024 16:01

Pressthespacebar · 19/09/2024 15:57

I moved to Sussex from the midlands and absolutely love it here, been here twenty years now.

probably helps that I’m from the midlands wnd anywhere’s nice compared to there 😬

We like your airport! Cardiff airport was totally built in the wrong place!

Original poster
iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 16:01

Arlanymor · 19/09/2024 15:58

Oh a north and south divider? Gotcha. Go into politics, your attitude helps stoke imaginary rivalries.

Show quote history

Where did I make a divide. I mentioned an area I also knew well where I found people much friendlier 🤔

OP posts:
Arlanymor · 19/09/2024 16:00

belindawolves · 19/09/2024 15:59

@Arlanymor West Sussex, specific place has actually been mentioned in this thread although I'm not confirming which one.

I probably mentioned it. I lived in Horsham for a decade.

Original poster
iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 16:00

Pressthespacebar · 19/09/2024 15:57

I moved to Sussex from the midlands and absolutely love it here, been here twenty years now.

probably helps that I’m from the midlands wnd anywhere’s nice compared to there 😬

What don't you like about the midlands?

OP posts:
belindawolves · 19/09/2024 15:59

@Arlanymor West Sussex, specific place has actually been mentioned in this thread although I'm not confirming which one.

Original poster
iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 15:59

AllGrownUp1465 · 19/09/2024 15:44

I was born and grew up in East Sussex, and have lived all over the country

Sadly I agree, it’s very snooty and rude!

Rude is a good way to describe it! People either looking through you like you're invisible or virtually giving themselves whiplash looking away if you dare to make eye contact with them (to name but a few examples!)😂

OP posts:
Chipsintheair · 19/09/2024 15:59

There was a social cleansing programme by the last government, which forcibly moved large numbers of poorer families out of London to southeast towns. That, combined with "austerity" cuts, as had a negative effect on lots of the southeast, as it put pressure on services.

Some of Sussex is pirate land. There's even a pirate day here. Is that what you're thinking of, OP?

Shodan · 19/09/2024 15:58

tobee · 19/09/2024 15:54

Oh it's Sussex this month is it? Usually it's Surrey. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Pfft.

Sussex is an amateur.