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To say that people in Sussex are awful?

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iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 15:23

Can't quite put my finger on what it is, but generally in Sussex when working or travelling there, whether in towns, coast or countryside, people do seem to have this awful, cold and arrogant demeanour about them that they are somehow something they aren't?

Just seem to look down their noses at anyone else and must say I don't think you see that as much even in London!

Must add as well, there do seem to be a rather large proportion of quite aggressive elderly ex-Londoners who almost come across as ex football hooligans?

AIBU or is there something I'm missing? anyone know anywhere else like this?🤔

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FishersGate · 20/09/2024 06:42

Hilarious I live in west sussex absolutely nothing wrong with people here. There are certain areas where people are considered 'posh' certain less attractive areas to live but that's like every other county in the county.

My garden backs onto the south downs and I can see the sea from thr top of it and drive to the beach in 10 mins. 1.20 from London on the train beautiful place to live.

Although people on holiday generally think we are posh on holiday due to southern accents

pilates · 20/09/2024 05:44

I agree @DragonGypsyDoris it’s bonkers

DragonGypsyDoris · 19/09/2024 23:14

iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 15:23

Can't quite put my finger on what it is, but generally in Sussex when working or travelling there, whether in towns, coast or countryside, people do seem to have this awful, cold and arrogant demeanour about them that they are somehow something they aren't?

Just seem to look down their noses at anyone else and must say I don't think you see that as much even in London!

Must add as well, there do seem to be a rather large proportion of quite aggressive elderly ex-Londoners who almost come across as ex football hooligans?

AIBU or is there something I'm missing? anyone know anywhere else like this?🤔

This is about as stupid as saying that one twelfth of the population has certain characteristics or attributes because of their star sign. Are you being goady just for shits and giggles?

Purplebunnie · 19/09/2024 23:08

SensibleJaneAndrews · 19/09/2024 22:48

Yes Buckinghamshire is famously cold and hard hearted as a county. We certainly would have struggled to manage your delightful Midlands combination of cheeriness and tuneful accent. It’s probably a good thing that we drove you out to take refuge in the amiable climes of Sussex.

I didn't say all of Buckinghamshire, it's a large county, just the bit I happened to be in. I don't condemn a whole place (unlike the OP) just because a bit is unfriendly

SensibleJaneAndrews · 19/09/2024 22:48

Purplebunnie · 19/09/2024 17:33

I moved down here via Buckinghamshire. I found people in the area of Bucks I lived to be very cold, (I come from the warm, friendly Midlands)

Moved down to Sussex and found my warm friendly people again

Yes Buckinghamshire is famously cold and hard hearted as a county. We certainly would have struggled to manage your delightful Midlands combination of cheeriness and tuneful accent. It’s probably a good thing that we drove you out to take refuge in the amiable climes of Sussex.

VestaTilley · 19/09/2024 22:29

YABVU. My DF is from there and he’s absolutely lovely. His family go back there centuries. My late DGM was Sussex woman, and loved the Downs all her life. One of the best women I’ve ever known and I miss her dreadfully.

You, OP, are ignorant and rude.

ThatGreatMember · 19/09/2024 22:26

iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 15:40

Where I'm from doesn't matter! Not from there, and although there is an unfriendly 'snooty south' stereotype in the UK, a lot of people there seem very unfriendly or have a very 'fake friendly' demeanour

Maybe you’re not very likeable?

AboutVattime · 19/09/2024 22:14

You've just been to the wrong places . ! My village is lush and filled with all the wonderful community minded, kind generous people missing from the other parts of sussex you have been to. !

We get each others shopping as we are miles from a town, take each other to medical appointments, feed each others pets if late home .. spend a huge amount of our spare time running activities to benefit our village.

My only complaint is that we are not as racially diverse as I would like to. My kids are Eurasian.. but that's as far as it goes . We have no black families although we have a single black man who comes to ride on the farm .. so perhaps a start - if black families feel the countryside isn't for them .

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 19/09/2024 22:01

LardoBurrows
O come on now you seem a bit over qualified!

Havingtoomuchfun · 19/09/2024 21:09

My issue with my part of East Sussex is all the annoying people who've moved into my town from London and elsewhere.

Why buy a 2 bed in greater London, when, for the same money, you can purchase a 4 bed AND a 1 bed rental by the sea?

Can't stand the gentrification that's been taking place.

bozzabollix · 19/09/2024 19:53

I went to Rye last weekend and spoke to most of the people in a small cafe. They must’ve been ok with me as I only come from neighbouring Kent. They did all have lap dogs though, that was noted.

bubblesun · 19/09/2024 19:45

I agree. I'm actually a manc, I moved to a village in West Sussex/mid Sussex

I've gone from the most friendliest school mums to being treated like I'm invisible.
I introduced myself on the WhatsApp group to get "Lol, see you around"

Atleast when I drive into Brighton it's friendly enough

Rather move back to the part of London I spent my twenties in.

Thepeopleversuswork · 19/09/2024 19:42

GiveMeSpanakopita · 19/09/2024 15:29

There's an old saying of my dad's that I think may be pertinent here:

"If you met one arsehole today, very well, you met an arsehole. If you meet arseholes all day every day....then you need to consider the possibility that you, in fact, are the arsehole."

Nailed it.

MrsWinkly · 19/09/2024 19:19

Crispyturtle · 19/09/2024 19:05

I went to uni with a really fit bloke from Sussex, 20 years on I’m still gutted I never snogged him. He was really nice too, so YABU.

Fair do's - I like your reasoning 😁

Pressthespacebar · 19/09/2024 19:06

iambeyonddone · 19/09/2024 16:00

What don't you like about the midlands?

everything, there is nothing at all that I like about the West Midlands. Hence why I haven’t ever been back 😂

Crispyturtle · 19/09/2024 19:05

I went to uni with a really fit bloke from Sussex, 20 years on I’m still gutted I never snogged him. He was really nice too, so YABU.

Waitingfordoggo · 19/09/2024 19:01

Garlicnaan · 19/09/2024 18:22

In Cambridge, Oxford, Bristol and Edinburgh there are many fewer Brexity pensioners I believe.

That makes sense- but those are all cities so can’t really be compared to Sussex as a whole. As pointed out earlier, Brighton- which is the biggest city in Sussex as a whole- voted overwhelmingly in favour of Remain. Rural areas near those cities you mentioned would likely have had fewer remainers.

Reugny · 19/09/2024 18:45

Garlicnaan · 19/09/2024 18:22

In Cambridge, Oxford, Bristol and Edinburgh there are many fewer Brexity pensioners I believe.

There are universities in Sussex as well.

One of them used to have lots of protestors back in the day.

jacksonlambsregulardisorder · 19/09/2024 18:44

anxioussister · 19/09/2024 18:04

Just adding my own Sussex-dwelling voice to the choir - I, too, am dreadful.

It is oft remarked that I have an unusually haughty demeanour for a former football hooligan (I prefer ‘dormant’ to ‘former’ - I may yet rise to hool again, haven’t ruled it out)

How can someone with so many union-jack tattoos look down their nose so aggressively? It’s a craft I will never cease refining. My Magnum opus.

Happy to answer any further questions you might have on behalf of every single resident of both East and West Sussex.

Oh Captain, my Captain.

We are all uniformly dreadful in my part of Sussex, but I always put it in part down to our proximity to Kent. (I'd hate for any Kentish Maids or Maids of Kent to feel left out of this).

LardoBurrows · 19/09/2024 18:41

Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit · 19/09/2024 17:00

LardoBurrows
You are excellent at sustained sarcasm! Are you a fellow teacher by any chance.

@Notgoodatpoetrybutgreatatlit
I'm afraid not, I wasn't bright enough to become a teacher.

They/You do a fantastic job.

Garlicnaan · 19/09/2024 18:22

Waitingfordoggo · 19/09/2024 17:06

I wonder which bit you’re in @whatistheworld. There are definitely a few Brexity pensioners about but I assume they exist everywhere since Brexit voters were in the majority! I know hardly any religious people here though (and those I do know are elderly, which- again- is probably the pattern nationally).

In Cambridge, Oxford, Bristol and Edinburgh there are many fewer Brexity pensioners I believe.

Goldenbear · 19/09/2024 18:21

Arlanymor · 19/09/2024 18:03

No they didn’t - I just checked - unless deleted?

I know Horsham I went to school there. Yes it is rampant blue. Semi attractive, it’s hardly a national park.

You seemed to lump in Lewes with West Sussex and then barely finished your post… so, yeah, weird.

Edited

You're right actually I mixed the OP up with another poster.

I just assumed somewhere like Horsham as I equate snootiness with a conservative and middle England outlook. I only stated that it is attractive as I didn't want to offend, I don't think it is anywhere close to 'National Park' levels of beauty.

I thought the OP referred to Sussex so this is why I referred to Lewes I was trying to think of places that people may perceive as stuck up. I didn't say West Sussex, I named two West Sussex places and then one East Sussex but it isn't weird as it is about snootiness perceptions which I thought the OP was suggesting.

Reugny · 19/09/2024 18:08

Geekylover · 19/09/2024 18:06

I’m from sussex so I must be awful,🙄🙄

For some reason I saw your post and started singing "Parklife".

Even though everyone from Sussex is snooty according to the OPs.

Skipsurvey · 19/09/2024 18:08

i lived in east sussex and in the 1980s/90s there were definately sussex accents in the local village pubs

Geekylover · 19/09/2024 18:06

I’m from sussex so I must be awful,🙄🙄

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