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5th birthday party in half term

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mamaaa2bee · 19/09/2024 10:36

Hi

I'm thinking of throwing my DD a party for her 5th birthday. She's attended a few of her nursery friends and is now asking for one too.

She has just started Reception so hasn't made much friends yet. I was thinking to invite just the girls and a few more from her nursery. It would be in a hall, entertainer can do maximum of 20 children. I am hoping the teacher will slip invites into the girls bags.

Her birthday is on the last weekend of the Oct half term. Am I being silly to hold it that weekend. Will most people be away, I would prefer to have the party on her actual birthday as it falls on the Saturday before going back to school. But i'm worried that very few people will turn up. I don't mind if it's just 10-12 children that turn up. I just want my DD to have a nice party as it's the first I'm throwing and have no experience.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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mamaaa2bee · 19/09/2024 11:03

givemushypeasachance · 19/09/2024 10:59

Just throwing out there - at 4/5 do you feel there's already a boy/girl split? The 4yo who's just started reception that I know, his best friends were two girls.

I think usually reception age it's either the entire class or if a smaller event then kids you know they get on with. Not just splitting the class by gender.

This is the biggest debate in my head. I can't really afford to host 38 kids plus some may bring along siblings, the entertainer will only allow up to 20 children. DD does play with both girls and boys, I just thought the fairest way to do it with the least upset would be to just invite the girls. It is a princess party, but i'm still umming and aahing about just inviting girls or whole class.

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ilovesooty · 19/09/2024 11:03

craigth162 · 19/09/2024 10:57

Some schools wont allow invites to be handed out/put in bags if not everyone invited

I don't see why schools have to facilitate party arrangements at all.

If you have the numbers of the parents can you just contact the parents of the children you plan to invite?

givemushypeasachance · 19/09/2024 10:59

Just throwing out there - at 4/5 do you feel there's already a boy/girl split? The 4yo who's just started reception that I know, his best friends were two girls.

I think usually reception age it's either the entire class or if a smaller event then kids you know they get on with. Not just splitting the class by gender.

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mamaaa2bee · 19/09/2024 10:58

craigth162 · 19/09/2024 10:57

Some schools wont allow invites to be handed out/put in bags if not everyone invited

Good point i'll have to check with the teacher or email office about their protocols

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craigth162 · 19/09/2024 10:57

Some schools wont allow invites to be handed out/put in bags if not everyone invited

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mamaaa2bee · 19/09/2024 10:57

I think I may just stick to doing it that weekend then in the hope half of the children invited turn up. Im just worried about RSVP as i've read on here alot of posters saying they've struggled to get people to RSVP

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Ohshitiveturnedintomymother · 19/09/2024 10:55

mamaaa2bee · 19/09/2024 10:54

I'd feel quite embarrassed about putting it on the class whatsapp as not everyone is being invited and its just the girls. The half term is only a week long so i'm just not sure what to do.

So sorry, I thought I’d read the op but missed it wouldn’t be the whole class. Def don’t put in on the group if not everyone!
that will teach me to read properly

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mamaaa2bee · 19/09/2024 10:54

I'd feel quite embarrassed about putting it on the class whatsapp as not everyone is being invited and its just the girls. The half term is only a week long so i'm just not sure what to do.

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Sartre · 19/09/2024 10:53

Parties in the holidays are pretty common, two of my DC are going to one on the same day in the next half term. I don’t mind them at all, sometimes have had to reject them if we’ve had other plans so expect some of them to do that.

Ohshitiveturnedintomymother · 19/09/2024 10:49

Do you have a class WhatsApp? Sound it out on there. That’s what I do before booking anywhere to make sure the majority can come

SJM1988 · 19/09/2024 10:47

Not half term but we had party invites for over the summer holidays (2 the weekend before they went back to school and one mid august). They were well attended but not sure how many people they originally invited.

Last weekend I'd assume most people would be back ready to start school on the monday. We usually go away the start of half herms.