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To think that DH is in the wrong here?

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1014intheAM · 19/09/2024 10:21

We have a 6 year old, who does swimming & football (one is a weekday evening the other a weekday morning).

He does reading club on day after school & then is in afterschool club Mon-Thurs.

He has said he would like to try another sport (specifically) & DH has said no more clubs.

It's just laziness on DH's part in my opinion. I do 90% of the club taking already, sort out homework, reading, spellings etc.

DH is a good dad generally but it seems like he doesn't value education for our 6 year old (weird as he has a teen from a previous relationship & always made time to sit and read/encouraged clubs etc - for context they didn't stick at any and they don't do any now). I honestly think it's laziness. He's head in phone work mode all the time.

Our 6 year old lacks confidence to try new things and so him saying he wants to try something is huge (I think). Trouble is we both work full time (though DH is self employed and not 'bound' by working hours like I am working hybrid) so whilst I could mostly make it work it would need support from DH on the odd occasion I can't.

Our 6 year old also doesn't love school and so I'm really keen to help him find something he's passionate about!

So I guess the the question is - WIBU:

Me, 6 year old does enough and kids can't do every club they ask for
DH, 6 year old should be encouraged to try new things and we should make it work

OP posts:
1014intheAM · 19/09/2024 10:28

@BarbaraHoward yeah ideally I'd like to drop one after school club and replace with the sport hes expressed interest in as the after school club is just babysitting really, snacks, drawing, films etc.

OP posts:
DadJoke · 19/09/2024 10:28

It’s hard to tell from the post if it is a lazy DH, but could you drop another less favoured activity to take this one up?

BarbaraHoward · 19/09/2024 10:25

It does sound like he's doing quite a bit already, does he have much time to just chill? We both work FT and eldest is 6 with a few hobbies, I wouldn't want to add much more to her calendar.

rubyslippers · 19/09/2024 10:23

Why has he said no? Is it cost?
if a child has expressed an interest in something it’s good to encourage it