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To think this is disgusting?

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planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:18

Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

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Curiossir · 19/09/2024 11:22

Cripes. I used to share a house with 3 lads. We would fight over who would have to take the fourth bath in the same water. Still alive!

sunsetsandboardwalks · 19/09/2024 11:21

I would - husband and I always share the same bath water it's just a case of who gets in first as to who has the second hand water.

Well, at least you'd practise what you preach.

But I suspect a lot of people saying it's fine wouldn't be so happy to be the ones getting in dirty, pube-filled bath water!

Twiglets1 · 19/09/2024 11:17

sunsetsandboardwalks · 19/09/2024 11:06

Yep - except most adults wouldn't do that because it's grim - but apparently it's okay for their kids to bathe in filthy water Confused

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I would - husband and I always share the same bath water it's just a case of who gets in first as to who has the second hand water.

Twiglets1 · 19/09/2024 11:16

You're being unreasonable as it saves water. As long as the kids don't mind it's not an issue.

Maia77 · 19/09/2024 11:09

Disgusting and unhygienic.

Mountainpika · 19/09/2024 11:09

Presumably public hair is that which can be seen on the head.

InSearchOfMartin · 19/09/2024 11:06

planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:18

Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

It's mucky. It might have been acceptable in 1976 but not now.

sunsetsandboardwalks · 19/09/2024 11:06

Sepoctnov · 19/09/2024 10:53

Yuck...disgusting and pretty selfish to make the kids wash in diluted dirty water. Just yuck.

Surely if you want to save water it should be the other way round. Kids first and then adults use the kids water.

Yep - except most adults wouldn't do that because it's grim - but apparently it's okay for their kids to bathe in filthy water Confused

EasternStandard · 19/09/2024 11:04

planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:37

Well, the 8 year old refused to get in when he saw the pubic hairs.

Do look after your dc, you're right it's gross.

Give them fresh water and tell him to forget about doing this

CautiousLurker · 19/09/2024 11:03

Personally find this a bit yuck. Appreciate the water saving aspect, but you only need a few inches of water in a kids bath anyway and the impact of saving a few gallons is minimal. Just seems a bit tight… as well as unnecessarily gross in this day and age.

DadJoke · 19/09/2024 11:03

BlueGrackle · 19/09/2024 11:01

How much money/ water are you actually saving doing this ?
If your partner is taking long showers, it seems a bit mean to make your kids then wash in his dirty water. If it’s just a quick wash, again why top up presumably a small amount of dirty water with clean water to save pennies.

About 30p a bath.

BlueGrackle · 19/09/2024 11:01

How much money/ water are you actually saving doing this ?
If your partner is taking long showers, it seems a bit mean to make your kids then wash in his dirty water. If it’s just a quick wash, again why top up presumably a small amount of dirty water with clean water to save pennies.

KarmenPQZ · 19/09/2024 10:57

We don’t have this set up at home but frequently on holiday after spending too long in the evening in a cooling swimming pool or sea all clamour to get in the shower first and I will normally push in and shower myself with the plug in and the kids bathing. But we’ve spent all day in the pool so surely other than sand / suncream / chlorine are relatively clean. Does this count is grim? Gets us all warmer and ready for dinner quickest! Although my partner refuses and boots the kids out for his shower.

I probably would do it at home to be fair to save water / time. It just seems efficient. I do also bail the bath water out after the kids are done to water the garden in summer. Including veggie plants that we eat. No doubt people will be horrified about that!

Just4thisthreadtoday · 19/09/2024 10:57

I wouldn't do it because I don't need to be that frugal with bath water, but if I needed to be more frugal with bath water I might, I don't see it as any worse than when the kids get in the bath with their parents!

a few pubes, really, so what? It's only hair.

inamarina · 19/09/2024 10:57

MonsteraMama · 19/09/2024 09:26

Oh god not this again. I remember the sharing bathwater thread where I learned how many people are comfortable jumping into their significant other's human soup, and now we've got kids bathing in their dad's pube broth.

Yes it's gross. I'm constantly baffled by this website. 90% of the time people are tremendous germaphobes who are absolutely ridiculous about cleanliness, except when it comes to wallowing in someone else's dirty lukewarm bathwater, then it's party time. Madness.

Ha, I agree! Bit surprised by the first couple of responses.

Coruscations · 19/09/2024 10:56

YABU.

Worriedmummy2400 · 19/09/2024 10:55

Gross.

Sepoctnov · 19/09/2024 10:53

Yuck...disgusting and pretty selfish to make the kids wash in diluted dirty water. Just yuck.

Surely if you want to save water it should be the other way round. Kids first and then adults use the kids water.

Dutchesss · 19/09/2024 10:50

I certainly wouldn't want to get in it.

Can the adult male at least spend a couple of minutes allowing the most filthy water to wash away before putting in the plug if saving water is a big issue?

It would be better the other way round really. Children have less sweat/skin/hair being washed off so should go first.

Sartre · 19/09/2024 10:47

I wouldn’t personally do it but when I shower, it tends to be after a run or work out so the water wouldn’t be very nice for DC to bathe in… My youngest DC share a bath still so that saves on a bit of water and older DC shower rather than bath now.

susiedaisy1912 · 19/09/2024 10:47

I think it's gross.

desparateidiot · 19/09/2024 10:46

Is he hairy and does he wee in the shower 😬

DadJoke · 19/09/2024 10:44

I don’t think there is anything dangerous about it, but it gives me the irrational icks.

if it’s of interest, I took a tangent and found that it will save you 30p a bath times 365 baths a year is about £100 a year.

NewGreenDuck · 19/09/2024 10:43

It's revolting! Bad enough sitting in your own filth, even worse when it's another person's.

MintyNew · 19/09/2024 10:41

Oh so disgusting op. Truly revolting as much as sharing bath water. Yes people did it in the past and thankfully we have moved on from then. A 2 min shower costs not that much and you can get properly clean.

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