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To think this is disgusting?

291 replies

planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:18

Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

OP posts:
slapmyarseandcallmemary · 20/09/2024 08:24

It's rank 🤮

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 20/09/2024 08:21

NewGreenDuck · 19/09/2024 18:22

Because people who swim in the swimming pool tend to have showers before and after using them.

Do you think so? I notice people standing under the shower for a short time in their swimming costume, not having a thorough intimate wash. But maybe this is different in different places and different types of pool. I mentioned it because the disgust some posters were expressing is so strong, and I would think that it would also apply sharing water in a public place.

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 20/09/2024 08:19

SwingTheMonkey · 19/09/2024 18:47

Do people use public swimming pools to bathe themselves?

Not to bathe themselves no, but surely these hazards will also apply in a public pool? Perhaps I'm missing something here.

HoppingPavlova · 20/09/2024 07:04

Where do you go swimming that there are either no showers, or no one uses them

I’m in Australia and that’s never been a thing anywhere I’ve gone swimming. Maybe some places have it but in the several decades I’ve gone to swimming pools I’ve never once seen it, or anyone taking a shower beforehand. Whether in a chlorinated swimming pool or ocean, I go in with my hair well coated with conditioner, protects it from the chlorine and salt. I always put a good layer of conditioner on my kids hair before they got in for swimming lessons and as adults, some still do it, some don’t when they swim recreationally. Swimming pools are heavily chlorinated to deal with people’s manky bodies, that’s the point, or they wouldn’t be chlorinated. Ditto with filtration to get rid of skin flakes and what not.

When my kids were little and did swim lessons, while not a frequent event, on the rare occasion there would be a chocolate log (keeping in mind babies from 6mths had classes and I guess swim nappies sometimes failed with poonamies, or toddlers in swimmers who are toilet training. All they did was get everyone to clear away from the area, got a net, done. If a log, that was the end of it, they said the pre-existing chlorine level was designed to take care of that. If a poonamie nappy blow out, the’s just add some (I’m guessing liquid chlorine?) to the spot, wait 5mins and then back to normal. None of this a big deal.

Zanatdy · 20/09/2024 05:54

Absolutely not, that’s grim.

MrsCatE · 20/09/2024 05:52

I would always shower before getting into the Pool and used a swim cap; obviously, the latter doesn't keep your hair dry but that's not the point - it's to stop your hair clogging up the inlets / outlets or shedding on others. Chlorine is activated by dirt and make-up - I used to see loads of people with full face of make up happily paddling away with hair untied let alone with a swim cap.

MrsCatE · 19/09/2024 22:06

I think it's disgusting. Even when I used to shower most days at the Gym I would turn off the water when I soaped / scrubbed up and then rinsed off.

ThanksHunPenneys · 19/09/2024 20:01

ThatsNotMyTeen · 19/09/2024 18:55

Where do you go swimming that there are either no showers, or no one uses them? :/

There are showers, people don't use them before getting in the pool.

Twiglets1 · 19/09/2024 19:24

ThanksHunPenneys · 19/09/2024 18:29

Not anywhere I've seen

It’s true there will always be some people who shower before using a public swimming pool or hot tub & some who don’t.

It’s not something that is monitored which must be a concern for people worried about stray pubes etc which seems to be a surprisingly large number of you.

ThatsNotMyTeen · 19/09/2024 18:55

ThanksHunPenneys · 19/09/2024 18:29

Not anywhere I've seen

Where do you go swimming that there are either no showers, or no one uses them? :/

DurhamDurham · 19/09/2024 18:50

I wouldn't have done it when my two were little as I wouldn't want to get in dirty water so wouldn't expect them to.
I wouldn't expect it of my granddaughter either. She gets a freshly drawn bath of lovely bubbly water whenever she likes at our house Grin

SwingTheMonkey · 19/09/2024 18:47

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 19/09/2024 17:19

I'm not sure what the logic is of swimming with a load of strangers if sharing bath water with family seems so repulsive? Swimming baths contain disinfectant so perhaps that makes them OK germ-wise but there will still be the odd public hair floating around, surely, not to mention those 'crumbs'.

Do people use public swimming pools to bathe themselves?

NewGreenDuck · 19/09/2024 18:30

They do where I live.

ThanksHunPenneys · 19/09/2024 18:29

NewGreenDuck · 19/09/2024 18:22

Because people who swim in the swimming pool tend to have showers before and after using them.

Not anywhere I've seen

NewGreenDuck · 19/09/2024 18:22

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 19/09/2024 17:19

I'm not sure what the logic is of swimming with a load of strangers if sharing bath water with family seems so repulsive? Swimming baths contain disinfectant so perhaps that makes them OK germ-wise but there will still be the odd public hair floating around, surely, not to mention those 'crumbs'.

Because people who swim in the swimming pool tend to have showers before and after using them.

TempersFuggit · 19/09/2024 17:56

Sepoctnov · 19/09/2024 14:53

Why wouldn't you do it the other way round with fresh water for your DC and top up hot water as you go? Why oh why would anyone want DC to bathe in 3rd hand water with adult bum sweat, shit and piss residue? Just disgusting😩

Yes, I would do it that way too Sepoctnov, but to be honest I'd probably just have a shower

TempersFuggit · 19/09/2024 17:53

DH and I share bathwater, but that's our choice, I certainly wouldn't bathe my kids in dirty water - yuk

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 19/09/2024 17:19

I'm not sure what the logic is of swimming with a load of strangers if sharing bath water with family seems so repulsive? Swimming baths contain disinfectant so perhaps that makes them OK germ-wise but there will still be the odd public hair floating around, surely, not to mention those 'crumbs'.

ChocolateTurtle · 19/09/2024 17:09

YANBU it is disgusting

Just4thisthreadtoday · 19/09/2024 17:02

NewGreenDuck · 19/09/2024 12:56

You could actually get several showers from the amount of water used for 1 bath. I demonstrated that to my husband years ago.

@NewGreenDuck

thats true, but irrelevant.

bringincrazyback · 19/09/2024 16:51

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 19/09/2024 16:23

I think it might have been before central heating combi boilers were standard. The older boilers and Immersion heaters were quite expensive and took an hour to heat up, so if the bath was drained the next person had to wait, and if you were all going out that was difficult. Oh the arguments me and DSIS used to have over whos turn it was and who had left the 'mersh" on. 🤣

Yep, this! And I seem to remember the tank would start cooling back down if you didn't pick the exact optimum moment to have your bath (certainly in our house, anyway - no idea if that's normal). Having a bath was quite the production!

I remember people being advised to bathe sparingly/have shallow baths/share bathwater in the drought of 1976 (I was 8). It probably would have felt more grim if I'd been used to daily baths, but that was frowned on in our house (skint parents, bath just once or twice a week and a daily stand-up wash in between was deemed sufficient). It does seem scuzzy looking back, but felt normal at the time.

Liv999 · 19/09/2024 16:48

Ya thats disgusting

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 19/09/2024 16:23

Chenecinquantecinq · 19/09/2024 14:00

Ha me neither not even our own one! I’m trying to assess from this thread how normal it was to share bath water in 60’s/70’s. I thought it was pretty standard but seemingly not. Was it a class thing? My parents were working class but self made and we had money and they sent me to Independent School but we still shared the bath water. Fascinating.

I think it might have been before central heating combi boilers were standard. The older boilers and Immersion heaters were quite expensive and took an hour to heat up, so if the bath was drained the next person had to wait, and if you were all going out that was difficult. Oh the arguments me and DSIS used to have over whos turn it was and who had left the 'mersh" on. 🤣

stopthepigeonstopthepigeon · 19/09/2024 15:47

Are they trying to save on heating costs? I could do without the pubes but it’s probably not the end of the world unless the dad is especially grubby.

Frozenberries · 19/09/2024 15:43

Sepoctnov · 19/09/2024 14:53

Why wouldn't you do it the other way round with fresh water for your DC and top up hot water as you go? Why oh why would anyone want DC to bathe in 3rd hand water with adult bum sweat, shit and piss residue? Just disgusting😩

It really is. As much as people insist they are clean, there is inevitably going to be bits of sweat, bits of dead skin and hair discarded after each use. There’s bound to be because we all sweat and we all shed skin and hair.

why you’d stick your kid in water 2 adults have just washed themselves in that water is beyond me. I don’t think it’ll make anyone ill but it doesn’t make it not gross.