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To think this is disgusting?

291 replies

planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:18

Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

OP posts:
idnhxun · 19/09/2024 09:38

If you really want to save water, just wipe down. It'll be more hygienic than this!

DillDanding · 19/09/2024 09:38

It’s fine. Not really sure what the point of it is, but it’s fine.

Original poster
planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:37

Well, the 8 year old refused to get in when he saw the pubic hairs.

OP posts:
StolenChanel · 19/09/2024 09:37

YANBU 🤢

pilates · 19/09/2024 09:36

YANBU

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planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:36

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 19/09/2024 09:35

If everyone is so worried about saving water, shower everyone with a time limit.

Using bath water after kids isn't any less disgusting IMO.

Kids sitting in dad's water from his shower is way more gross than an adult sitting in the kids bath water.

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Pippa12 · 19/09/2024 09:36

Turned my stomach that. We are hardly short of water in the UK after this bloody summer so unless he’s seriously on the breadline that’s absolutely gross.

K0OLA1D · 19/09/2024 09:36

planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:33

This is totally different to sharing bath water!
We share bath water in this household but the rule is that the adult goes last, after the kids.

What about sharing with the kids though? As in, at the same time.

FoxtrotOscarKindaDay · 19/09/2024 09:35

If everyone is so worried about saving water, shower everyone with a time limit.

Using bath water after kids isn't any less disgusting IMO.

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planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:35

Pipecleanerrevival · 19/09/2024 09:20

Depends how dirty he is. It’s like kids taking a bath together. It does save water and it’s also kind of gross. I imagine lots of families do this.

You've not read the OP properly.

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RhubarbAndFlustered · 19/09/2024 09:34

"We all used to share bathwater growing up!"

Hmm.. Yeah. Not really a good argument for it for me. There were lots of things we did back in the olden days that we know is gross and nasty that we don't do anymore.

My DSis has a BF who is as tight as a ducks arse and sis, him and the two kids had a bathing order with one bath full of water to be used for all 4.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 19/09/2024 09:33

That’s incredibly disgusting. If he’s so worried he can bath in the kids water after they’ve used it.

Original poster
planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:33

This is totally different to sharing bath water!
We share bath water in this household but the rule is that the adult goes last, after the kids.

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Pocketfullofdogtreats · 19/09/2024 09:33

YABU. It sounds fine.

Prisonpillow · 19/09/2024 09:32

Absolutely fine and pretty common I’d have thought.

EngineEngineNumber9 · 19/09/2024 09:32

I wouldn’t even do this with my own shower water. Ugh ugh ugh.

idnhxun · 19/09/2024 09:31

I actually shower before i take a bath. And wash the bath before kid takes a bath

OverthinkingOlive · 19/09/2024 09:30

Using someone else's bath water is absolutely revolting, no matter the relation. Vile.

OriginalUsername2 · 19/09/2024 09:29

Gross. My mum made me get in after my brother and it felt slimey every time.

idnhxun · 19/09/2024 09:29

How do you know mummy’s not a huge sweaty woman? Lol

Yeah you're right i can't think of a scenario where this is not gross. Another kid would be ok

AgainandagainandagainSS · 19/09/2024 09:29

We are showers all the way in our house. Find the whole notion of baths grim, and not relaxing. And drags out a wash! Haha

Flossyts · 19/09/2024 09:28

My kids regularly interrupt my bath time and jump in. Surely that’s the same- the water looks clean to me? Guess it would be different if he has a particularly manual/dirty job 🤷‍♀️

K0OLA1D · 19/09/2024 09:28

idnhxun · 19/09/2024 09:28

Actually not even mommy, she gets periods etc! Seriously what's the point of bathing them then

Not all mummy's

SoupDragon · 19/09/2024 09:28

idnhxun · 19/09/2024 09:26

Maybe ok if mommy did it, but a huge sweaty man... no way

Do women not sweat/shed public hair/other secretions then?

Spenditlikebeckham · 19/09/2024 09:28

Don't dc swallow bath water though?
Poo crumbs..
Just saying
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