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To think this is disgusting?

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planAplanB · 19/09/2024 09:18

Adult male takes a shower over the bath with the plug in. Gets out and tops the water up to make a bath for the children.

Aibu - yes you're being unreasonable as this saves water.

No - it's disgusting to have your children bathing in their dad's shower water.

Nb: at least four public hairs were spotted floating around in the water.

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TempersFuggit · 24/09/2024 20:53

budlea64 · 22/09/2024 08:52

It's disgusting.
He should let the kids bath first then use the water himself if money is tight and it's about the cost of heating it.

Exactly- smallest/weakest goes first. TBH though a wash at the sink would be preferable to thrice used bath with pubes.

Whenwillitgetwarm · 22/09/2024 09:10

It’s gross, however, there are two exceptions for me:

  1. The family is extremely poor and literally cannot afford to run more than one bath.
2.The boiler broke just after the dads bath was filled.
budlea64 · 22/09/2024 08:52

It's disgusting.
He should let the kids bath first then use the water himself if money is tight and it's about the cost of heating it.

Childfreecatlady · 21/09/2024 14:03

Absolutely disgusting.

cuckooooooo · 21/09/2024 10:39

Madrigal12 · 21/09/2024 10:25

....and yet people aspire to garden hot-tubs and invite friends too !

Yeah but you're not washing your bum crack and genitals and expecting people to wash their face in your pubes after. You aren't usually naked in hot tubs with friends unless it's a specific type of party.

StolenChanel · 21/09/2024 10:33

Madrigal12 · 21/09/2024 10:25

....and yet people aspire to garden hot-tubs and invite friends too !

Except you’re not scrubbing off the dirt in a hot tub, and likely will shower before and after using it, especially if sharing with others!

CatsnCoffeeetal · 21/09/2024 10:31

Why don’t the kids go in first?

Madrigal12 · 21/09/2024 10:25

....and yet people aspire to garden hot-tubs and invite friends too !

SwingTheMonkey · 21/09/2024 10:16

DoreenonTill8 · 20/09/2024 22:37

There's obviously much much deeper issues going on, and you have taken agin shower man, op...

Eh?

swampygirl · 21/09/2024 03:00

OMG. NOOO!
That's one way of passing on unwanted germs, not to mention pubes and crusty bits 😨 and to do that to children is down right wrong. They play in the bath, they swallow water. That thought makes me cringe. 🤑

DoreenonTill8 · 20/09/2024 22:37

There's obviously much much deeper issues going on, and you have taken agin shower man, op...

Iloveburgerswaymorethanishould · 20/09/2024 22:31

It’s a “shower bath” in our house and our son loves the one on one time with his dad after work! Dad showers with little one in the bath, then he pops the plug in once he’s cleaner and it’s his turn. No mummy allowed. They listen to music and dance etc and gross as that may be to
some, it’s lovely to sit and listen to!!!

  • from another room, with a very large glass of wine, some cheese cubes and 10 mins to myself!!!! 😂😂😂
Clarabell77 · 20/09/2024 21:41

VickyPollard25 · 20/09/2024 21:32

I’m with you. How disgusting! We have fresh, separate baths and I rinse the bath out in between. I think this man is revolting expecting his children to bath in his dirty water.

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I agree.

Also, all these people bathing with their kids, WTF is that about.

VickyPollard25 · 20/09/2024 21:32

MonsteraMama · 19/09/2024 09:26

Oh god not this again. I remember the sharing bathwater thread where I learned how many people are comfortable jumping into their significant other's human soup, and now we've got kids bathing in their dad's pube broth.

Yes it's gross. I'm constantly baffled by this website. 90% of the time people are tremendous germaphobes who are absolutely ridiculous about cleanliness, except when it comes to wallowing in someone else's dirty lukewarm bathwater, then it's party time. Madness.

I’m with you. How disgusting! We have fresh, separate baths and I rinse the bath out in between. I think this man is revolting expecting his children to bath in his dirty water.

AlexaSetATimer · 20/09/2024 20:36

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 19/09/2024 17:19

I'm not sure what the logic is of swimming with a load of strangers if sharing bath water with family seems so repulsive? Swimming baths contain disinfectant so perhaps that makes them OK germ-wise but there will still be the odd public hair floating around, surely, not to mention those 'crumbs'.

But you shower afterwards to wash off chemicals and anything else?

Not at all the same as sitting in pubey bath water (with no rinsing off in shower after).

Havinganamechange · 20/09/2024 20:26

Vile just bloody vile

Mummydrama · 20/09/2024 20:10

I was going to write yucks. But thinking about it it's not much different from me bathing with my child, I don't usually scrub myself properly and end up having a shower after but when she tells me to get it I do and we play before I scrub her. Personally I wouldn't shower and let them use the water maybe the other way round

Toptops · 20/09/2024 19:47

It's fine!
Get over yourself!

Bogeyes · 20/09/2024 19:39

So the children bathe in his arse and cock water.. a big NO

BooBooDoodle · 20/09/2024 19:39

My DH will often run a bath for himself, a hot one, have a soak and a wash and get out, he’s never more than 10 minutes. Our youngest DS usually gets in afterwards unless DH has shaved and a fresh one is drawn or he gets a shower. Older DS usually showers. I have my own baths and always shaving so don’t share my bath water and wouldn’t share theirs. Unless the person going in first is absolutely filthy then I don’t see how this is an issue. The male folk of the house don’t mind. I prefer showers to baths anyway as sitting in my own shavings whilst my conditioner is working can be minging.

Beautifulweeds · 20/09/2024 19:11

The days of looking forward to going in after a parent because it was deeper water in the bath! Soap, hot water, towel scrub, pretty clean after. Our ypung DC will often go in bath after me, DH only has showers.

Yourcatisnotsorry · 20/09/2024 18:35

I bath with my kids, but that seems ok because it’s shared water, someone else’s already used water seems gross even if I’d happily get in the bath with them 😂

Clarabell77 · 20/09/2024 18:34

Sorry but I think it’s disgusting. I know people did it years ago but no need for it now.

SwingTheMonkey · 20/09/2024 12:18

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 20/09/2024 08:19

Not to bathe themselves no, but surely these hazards will also apply in a public pool? Perhaps I'm missing something here.

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Yes, I think you are. People use a bath to clean themselves (not me, personally - yuck) but people swim for fitness and enjoyment and most shower off, with soap and clean water, the things that everyone knows swimming pools contain but would rather not think about.

AhBiscuits · 20/09/2024 11:19

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 19/09/2024 17:19

I'm not sure what the logic is of swimming with a load of strangers if sharing bath water with family seems so repulsive? Swimming baths contain disinfectant so perhaps that makes them OK germ-wise but there will still be the odd public hair floating around, surely, not to mention those 'crumbs'.

You don't swim to get clean. You wash after swimming.

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