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To go to an interview for a job I can't take

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Amoregelato · 19/09/2024 06:52

I applied for a job a few weeks ago and have been offered an interview. The job is a Stepdown, I'm massively over qualified and it's not really what I want. However, it is at a place that I'd really like to get into and was considering it as a foot in the door.

I have subsequently also been offered a part-time side hustle in something which I love which interferes with the hours of this job which means I couldn't take it if I did that so I don't have an intention of taking it. WIBU to go to the interview anyway? I have a lot to offer this organisation and was hoping that they might consider me for an alternative post.

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SallyPatch · 24/09/2024 02:19

This entirely depends on the organisation, if it's maybe a family run business or one where they value that kind of thing then yeah...

But I've just finished a recruitment drive for a large organisation, with no end of troubles, and to be honest this would just piss me off, you'd have wasted my time, your own, and everyone else's, and if anything I think it would just damage your name with the company. So much more goes into recruitment than on the surface, and this would be a massive NO for me!

LlamaLoopy · 23/09/2024 20:59

You are likely to do more harm than good!
you can’t say at interview you aren’t really interested
if they offer it and you turn it down as it’s ‘below’ you you could put their nose out of joint for wasting there time

wait until they have a role at the level you want and reapply

mushypaperstraws · 23/09/2024 17:59

You'd be way better off emailing to apologise you're declining the interview, because of the reasons you've stated, but that you love the company and hope to be considered for other roles in the future.

If I were a hiring manager it would make me remember you for future things, and I wouldn't be pissed off that you wasted my time scoring an interview. Everyone wins!

Hereforaglance · 23/09/2024 17:56

You are taking a spot away from someone who may need or actually want the job
You are very full of self imporrance i would not waste the company time and do the decent thing and give someone else a chance

Doone22 · 23/09/2024 17:32

Withdraw but tell them how interested you are if something else comes up?

MrsPositivity1 · 23/09/2024 13:17

Don't waste your or their time

Welshmonster · 23/09/2024 13:13

Just go and see what happens. Recruitment can take ages, you might not get offered the job. If you do then see if there is wriggle room on the hours.

Hoppinggreen · 23/09/2024 12:10

I always say that you can make a decision about whether you want a job or not when you get offered it
Of course if there is absolutely NO WAY you would take it then cancel but if there is even a small chance then go

Swiftie1878 · 23/09/2024 12:07

Amoregelato · 19/09/2024 06:52

I applied for a job a few weeks ago and have been offered an interview. The job is a Stepdown, I'm massively over qualified and it's not really what I want. However, it is at a place that I'd really like to get into and was considering it as a foot in the door.

I have subsequently also been offered a part-time side hustle in something which I love which interferes with the hours of this job which means I couldn't take it if I did that so I don't have an intention of taking it. WIBU to go to the interview anyway? I have a lot to offer this organisation and was hoping that they might consider me for an alternative post.

No, that’s just wasting everyone’s time, effort and money.

Contact them to withdraw from the interview, but tell them what you’ve just told us! How much you’d like to work for them, and you hope they’ll bear you in mind if other roles come up.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 19/09/2024 10:46

Amoregelato · 19/09/2024 10:42

Thanks for the feedback. I'm going to email and let them know the situation. I will speak to them and make them aware that I can't accept those hours but that I would still be interested of that was negotiable and/or there was an alternative.

Perfect.

Amoregelato · 19/09/2024 10:42

Thanks for the feedback. I'm going to email and let them know the situation. I will speak to them and make them aware that I can't accept those hours but that I would still be interested of that was negotiable and/or there was an alternative.

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sofasofa42 · 19/09/2024 10:35

Don't turn down a job you haven't been offered. Go, it could be really eye opening and potentially another role could arise that isn't advertised but more suited to you .

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redskydarknight · 19/09/2024 10:05

How do you answer the "what made you decide to apply for this job?" question?

Because you either lie and wax lyrical about how amazing the position is.
Or you tell the truth that you don't want it but are looking for something else.

I would find neither impressive, as an interviewer.

luckylavender · 19/09/2024 10:04

DontBiteTheCat · 19/09/2024 07:37

Yes I would go.

If it’s the company you want to work for, and you impress them, you may be considered for alternative roles.

You may also go for the interview and love it so much that you give up the side hustle. You really don’t know until you get a feel for the place.

That's what I think

Ivehearditbothways · 19/09/2024 10:02

It sort of sounds like you think you’re utterly amazing and when you tell them you can’t take the job, you think they’ll create a new post for you.

I mean… it sometimes happens but do you know if they actually have capacity to hire you elsewhere in the organisation? Have you any contacts there? Because the most likely outcome is that they see you as a time waster.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 19/09/2024 09:48

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 19/09/2024 09:25

I'm going to go contrary to what everyone else has said.

Where I work (large public sector arm's length body) we keep applicant's records on file for 6 months in a "talent pool" and do go back to unsuccessful candidates if an opportunity comes up in that time. If they interviewed at that grade, and passed the "bar" but were beaten by someone better, they may not even need to interview again.

Also, as part of a large recruitment campaign, we have interviewed candidates for Role A, but offered them Role B. Role B may not even have existed at the time of interview, but with big campaigns there is a lot of internal movement.

We also go back to previous candidates sometimes. But not if we become aware that they have knowingly wasted our time!

If the OP goes for the interview, gets offered the job and then declines, it's very unlikely that they will be willing to consider her next time. Especially if it becomes obvious that she never had any intention of taking the job in the first place.

Jc2001 · 19/09/2024 09:40

Amoregelato · 19/09/2024 06:52

I applied for a job a few weeks ago and have been offered an interview. The job is a Stepdown, I'm massively over qualified and it's not really what I want. However, it is at a place that I'd really like to get into and was considering it as a foot in the door.

I have subsequently also been offered a part-time side hustle in something which I love which interferes with the hours of this job which means I couldn't take it if I did that so I don't have an intention of taking it. WIBU to go to the interview anyway? I have a lot to offer this organisation and was hoping that they might consider me for an alternative post.

How would you answer the question "if we were to offer you the position, would you take it?".

IbizaToTheNorfolkBroads · 19/09/2024 09:25

I'm going to go contrary to what everyone else has said.

Where I work (large public sector arm's length body) we keep applicant's records on file for 6 months in a "talent pool" and do go back to unsuccessful candidates if an opportunity comes up in that time. If they interviewed at that grade, and passed the "bar" but were beaten by someone better, they may not even need to interview again.

Also, as part of a large recruitment campaign, we have interviewed candidates for Role A, but offered them Role B. Role B may not even have existed at the time of interview, but with big campaigns there is a lot of internal movement.

SleepPrettyDarling · 19/09/2024 08:59

I’d go for the interview. You will be better informed afterwards whether it offers opportunity for promotion and growth. I’m sure they will ask why you are interested if it’s apparent that it would be a step down. Most people are seeking interviews for multiple roles simultaneously anyway. Are you currently working full time, and what would you do with your remaining hours if doing the dude hustle?

HoppingPavlova · 19/09/2024 08:59

Nope, I wouldn’t consider you for anything else if you known knowingly wasted my time.

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 19/09/2024 08:56

If someone wasted my time attending an interview for a job that that had no intention of accepting, I absolutely wouldn't be considering offering them an alternative role...I'd be noting that they're a time waster with no respect for other people.

It would be much better to contact them prior to the interview to explain that circumstances have changed, you're no longer able to consider the role because of xyz, but you're still really interested in working for them and will look out for alternative roles with them that might suit your circumstances and skill set. If they have something available, they might point you towards it.

faroutnow · 19/09/2024 08:53

I'd see you as a time waster and I'd be pretty pissed off with you.

Ariela · 19/09/2024 08:50

Could you do the job if offered shorter hours to tie on with working around the side hustle? In which case go, and negotiate hours if offered the job.

Ladyritacircumference · 19/09/2024 08:17

MimiSunshine · 19/09/2024 07:51

I would pull out on this basis alone:
The job is a Stepdown, I'm massively over qualified and it's not really what I want. However, it is at a place that I'd really like to get into and was considering it as a foot in the door.

I’ve very rarely seen this actually work. What happens in reality is 1 of 2 scenarios.

scenario 1
you find the job a breeze and take on extra responsibility, usually at the level you would prefer to work at and are qualified for. In part because you can and enjoy actually doing it and mainly because the company know a good thing when they see it.

then usually the way to progress is either waiting for the person to leave (or retire for companies with a lot of lifers) who is in the role you really should be in.

scenario 2
or if there is no such current role, then wait for the company to create one, apply for it and hope an external candidate hasn’t also been watching and waiting for it and the company to go with them as they bring ‘fresh ideas from outside the business’.

in reality though as you’re effectively doing two jobs for the price of one in scenario 2 is reality then why would the company do that?

if you then choose to leave, you’ve detailed your career and it’s hard to get it back on track.

so I’d pull out and say you’ve been offered an opportunity to go self employed and it clashes with the hours of this role but you’d love to keep in touch for the future.

Or scenario 3 - they hire you for the more junior role and you are constantly overlooked for promotion or other roles… because they have a highly qualified person happily doing the more junior role. You will probably also end up taking on more responsibilities that are beyond the scope of the junior role, to demonstrate that you are capable and striving. You will be an absolute bargain for the company. Why would they ever want things to change. They will have bought your expensive at very little cost.