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To ask how long can you all keep it tight before you need a blow out?

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Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 22:44

Only because after a whole Sumer of keeping it tight and responsible and the return to school stuff I am ready to drop the plough and cut loose. It feels like long enough.

An I unreasonable to say there is a limit on how long you can be good and work hard before you go mad?

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 19/09/2024 00:53

@Phlegminem thats sounds fantastic. Good for you!

BoreOffAboutYerChickensEmma · 19/09/2024 00:47

Grab a tambourine, strap some bells to your ankles and go Morris Dancing. A few hey nonny nos, and a green grow the rushes o and that should do it. Slap your partners stick and go dance your heart out

GiddyRobin · 19/09/2024 00:41

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:28

Basically peasants in the olden days worked hard, then had a tonne of religious holidays to dress up and cut loose, but we have nothing. It’s all very sanitised. It’s all work and then a very photogenic holiday with massive expectations.

I think wonder if there is a time limit before other people feel like shaking it off, the grind.

Well, it's Mabon on the 22nd so you're in luck unless you can hang on until Samhain. Get your floaty dress and druid cloak on, and wassail around a bit. No slaughtering goats though. That's just messy. Dig up some spuds and there's your harvest feast.

Phlegminem · 19/09/2024 00:37

YANBU I was at breaking point last week and needed to do something, shout into the void in the middle of field, shave off all my hair idk I had to do something!

My something ended up getting completely drunk, sticking on headphones and having a silent disco by myself on the local beach. It was so therapeutic and I knew that if anyone saw me dancing away by myself they would think I was crazy but in that moment I just did not care. Might sound crazy but I'd put it up there as one of my top ten moments in my life, I can't explain how free I felt looking out at the sea under the stars, with good music and just letting myself go.

blueshoes · 19/09/2024 00:36

I am going to drop my plough in a few years.

It is called retirement 😁

BlackShuck3 · 19/09/2024 00:32

Dropping the plough sounds a bit 'revolutionary manifesto' to me; shake off the yoke of oppression, etc.
To your point OP, I'm too lazy for any of that wild stuff these days.

AllTipAndNoIceberg · 19/09/2024 00:30

Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:13

What came to mind was shake off the shackles but i feel that is 100% inappropriate. How can you describe dropping your responsibilities? Shaking off the burdens of life? Climb out of the furrow? Something like that.

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I really like the way you express yourself OP! Some pps are responding with a lack of imagination.

Could definitely do with dropping the plough for a bit myself.

Franjipanl8r · 19/09/2024 00:28

This is what karaoke’s for.

(Dropping the plough sounds like a code word for going to the loo).

maddening · 19/09/2024 00:25

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:07

Ah, I’ve been going to bed early and doing work and house work for too long and wonder if everyone else feels like going out and going crazy after a while. Maybe I should grow up and everyone else keeps plugging away happily.
I feel like I need to go AWOL for an evening after a while.
i was wondering if people are happy working and caring ad infinitum or if they get to a point where they need to shake it off, then carry on.
i feel lt, i wish we had the nutso religious ceremonies they had in the Middle Ages where you could really let go of the everyday worries.

I think it is finding a balance, this is normal I think, everyone needs to habe breaks and let their hair down once in a while - getting the right balance helps imo

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Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:21

@Katielovesteatime
lets go! Life is short!

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Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:19

@Lifeomars yes but does everyone else feel like breaking out, or is everyone else content is probably the question.

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Testingthetimes · 19/09/2024 00:17

I’m with you OP. Cut me loose!!

i hear you

Lifeomars · 19/09/2024 00:16

What do you mean? all a bit garbled and strange. Do you mean feeling restricted by routine and wanting to break free

Katielovesteatime · 19/09/2024 00:15

OP I’ll join your cult! 😁

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Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:13

blueshoes · 19/09/2024 00:07

'drop the Plough'?

Where did that expression come from.

What came to mind was shake off the shackles but i feel that is 100% inappropriate. How can you describe dropping your responsibilities? Shaking off the burdens of life? Climb out of the furrow? Something like that.

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LBFseBrom · 19/09/2024 00:12

You need a break, Coatsoff. Did you not go away for a summer holiday this year? Plan a long weekend somewhere peaceful where you can relax and please yourself.

ilovesooty · 19/09/2024 00:08

MummaMummaJumma · 18/09/2024 23:12

You’re not the only one, OP. I love my monthly night out with the girls, just getting dressed up and not looking like I’ve been dragged through a bush is great! Even if for only one night.

Let loose. Let go of the tightness my luv 😝🕺🥂😎

Sounds like Sybil Fawlty.

blueshoes · 19/09/2024 00:08

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:51

@Demonhunter
im going to start my own cult but call it a book club. Get to another town and cause havoc every now and then. Dress up like mermaids or mountaineers or pirates. Sing and shout and cry and dance.

how can I find anyone to join, I think everyone is happy with the grind? I was wondering if generally people are happy with their status quo. People seem very calm.

Sounds like a Hen Night.

Is a friend getting married soon? Maybe you can help plan it.

blueshoes · 19/09/2024 00:07

'drop the Plough'?

Where did that expression come from.

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Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:05

@Glamorous24
yes, unsanitised!! That’s what I want. A night less sanitary lol!

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Josette77 · 19/09/2024 00:02

I'm dressing up as a fairy and joining you.

Demonhunter · 18/09/2024 23:55

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:51

@Demonhunter
im going to start my own cult but call it a book club. Get to another town and cause havoc every now and then. Dress up like mermaids or mountaineers or pirates. Sing and shout and cry and dance.

how can I find anyone to join, I think everyone is happy with the grind? I was wondering if generally people are happy with their status quo. People seem very calm.

Most people are calm to the outside, not so much on the safety of their own bubble. It's easier to be calmer when advising others and speaking about other peoples lives, not so much with your own. Most people I think have an element of madness about them, just manifests in different ways.

Glamorous24 · 18/09/2024 23:51

I totally get it OP - I’m fully with you.

im the same after doing all the expected “good” mum time over the school holidays and family holidays that are all about the kids and sanitised

I’m also ready to let rip and have a crazy night out!

luckily I’ve got a night away with friends planned very soon.

i don’t need to very often, but about 2 to 3 nights per year is right for me!

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Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:51

@Demonhunter
im going to start my own cult but call it a book club. Get to another town and cause havoc every now and then. Dress up like mermaids or mountaineers or pirates. Sing and shout and cry and dance.

how can I find anyone to join, I think everyone is happy with the grind? I was wondering if generally people are happy with their status quo. People seem very calm.

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Davros · 18/09/2024 23:47

Wait til your my age (64). It's all pubs, gigs and kitchen discos 🕺