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To ask how long can you all keep it tight before you need a blow out?

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Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 22:44

Only because after a whole Sumer of keeping it tight and responsible and the return to school stuff I am ready to drop the plough and cut loose. It feels like long enough.

An I unreasonable to say there is a limit on how long you can be good and work hard before you go mad?

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RamonaRamirez · 20/09/2024 21:29

@Coatsoff42 you should go to a nice metal gig

No, seriously, do that. I’ll come too

it’s therapeutic

WinterFrog · 20/09/2024 20:59

Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 20:27

I had a lovely holiday that was very active with the kids, not so much cut loose as discuss eating fruit and vegetables and apply sunscreen.

I don’t think a hen night will cut it, I want to absolutely scream at the stars and dance in ecstasy and spin in circles until I fall over. Like just completely go off. Shout awful swear words. That sort of thing.

Hen parties are super judgey and documented.

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I definitely think you need to dance around a fire or something!

Notmollybutdolly · 20/09/2024 20:53

I get it!! I get out my nut every 6 months or so and dance and smoke and be wild and talk to every single person in the club and make up weird stories about myself xxx

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Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 20:27

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 20/09/2024 19:36

It’s all work and then a very photogenic holiday with massive expectations.

I get the work bit - but your holidays shouldn't all be like that. Obviously if you have young children you can't completely relax when you're away with them - but why the massive expectations?

Have you got friends where you can have a weekend away - a mini hen-night type thing without the wedding? Or just have a few cocktails and go clubbing ?

I had a lovely holiday that was very active with the kids, not so much cut loose as discuss eating fruit and vegetables and apply sunscreen.

I don’t think a hen night will cut it, I want to absolutely scream at the stars and dance in ecstasy and spin in circles until I fall over. Like just completely go off. Shout awful swear words. That sort of thing.

Hen parties are super judgey and documented.

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Coatsoff42 · 20/09/2024 20:22

Itabsolutelyispossible · 20/09/2024 19:19

Try Genki.

I might google this but I am slightly nervous.

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ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 20/09/2024 19:36

It’s all work and then a very photogenic holiday with massive expectations.

I get the work bit - but your holidays shouldn't all be like that. Obviously if you have young children you can't completely relax when you're away with them - but why the massive expectations?

Have you got friends where you can have a weekend away - a mini hen-night type thing without the wedding? Or just have a few cocktails and go clubbing ?

unsync · 20/09/2024 19:27

Judging by some of the threads here, I suspect some people cut loose on here. Not quite what you mean though, you want to get shit faced, cry havoc and let slip the dogs of war - that kind of thing?

WinterFrog · 20/09/2024 19:27

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

You need this thread!
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5168614-to-go-to-a-rave-on-my-own?page=1

To go to a rave on my own? | Mumsnet

I've called it a rave as its literally going to be a rave - its the Prodigy!! The support acts are brill on their own merit. It's a very late finish....

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5168614-to-go-to-a-rave-on-my-own?page=1

Itabsolutelyispossible · 20/09/2024 19:19

Try Genki.

Beautifulweeds · 20/09/2024 19:18

Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 00:19

@Lifeomars yes but does everyone else feel like breaking out, or is everyone else content is probably the question.

Oh yes! Not as much now but when I was younger I needed to get out and have some real fun with my friends.

Beautifulweeds · 20/09/2024 19:16

Just get yourself out then? Arrange a night out, meet up and go for it! X

mamaandbabas · 20/09/2024 18:15

I felt like this last week, a fantastic lunch and drinks with my big sis put me out of my misery.... Get out there do what you need to do to get ur mojo back

StolenChanel · 20/09/2024 09:47

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

This is what bottomless brunches and day parties are for!

StolenChanel · 20/09/2024 09:46

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 23:51

@Demonhunter
im going to start my own cult but call it a book club. Get to another town and cause havoc every now and then. Dress up like mermaids or mountaineers or pirates. Sing and shout and cry and dance.

how can I find anyone to join, I think everyone is happy with the grind? I was wondering if generally people are happy with their status quo. People seem very calm.

This sounds like a cult I could get on board with.

MrsBobtonTrent · 20/09/2024 09:45

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

There are loads of daytime nightclubs about now. Some of them tour about so google your area. I haven't been to one, but am intrigued to try it if I can find a date/location that works.

CanYouHearThatNoise · 20/09/2024 07:44

Eh????

RuggedHairyTortoise · 20/09/2024 07:43

Re the poem- we live in a tourist area and recently there was a group of older women all wearing purple and red hats at our local wine bar drinking margaritas (loudly!). I saw them the next day prowling the town as well. I immediately knew it was because of the poem and they had clearly formed a club and thought how wonderful it was. Just googled.....

britishredhatters2.weebly.com/

Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 20/09/2024 01:49

I want to go out dancing. But I can't because society has decided I'm too old. My friends are all boring farts too so if we go for a meal they are yawning at 10pm. I wish there was an early night club for over 40s where it's acceptable to turn up alone just to dance. And plays contemporary chart stuff too.

Montydone · 20/09/2024 01:35

Coatsoff42 · 18/09/2024 22:44

Only because after a whole Sumer of keeping it tight and responsible and the return to school stuff I am ready to drop the plough and cut loose. It feels like long enough.

An I unreasonable to say there is a limit on how long you can be good and work hard before you go mad?

Has there been a time in your life when you have really let loose? I held it all together during my teens but in my 20s lived in another country and really rebelled over a good couple of years. I look back in horror and shame now sometimes, but I also wonder how I’d feel now had I not let it all out then!

blueshoes · 19/09/2024 20:56

Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 13:18

@PandaWorld
Im not saying my life is unfair, it’s fine. But from time to time I want to go crazy
and feel really alive and free.

I understand the need to feel alive and free from time to time but I don't really share the need to go crazy to achieve that.

Some leisure time to myself will be very welcome. I can cut loose inside my own head. It is liberating.

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Coatsoff42 · 19/09/2024 19:02

Phineyj · 19/09/2024 16:15

www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk/poem/warning/

Can't believe no-one's linked to this poem yet!

That is such a good poem! Thank you

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SoMentallyDrained · 19/09/2024 18:18

Now that I understand what you mean, I fully agree with you OP.

And kind of want to meet you for the big night out 😁

Blackgoeswitheverything · 19/09/2024 16:40

IM with it all except shaving my head.

Phineyj · 19/09/2024 16:15

www.scottishpoetrylibrary.org.uk/poem/warning/

Can't believe no-one's linked to this poem yet!

keepforgetting1 · 19/09/2024 14:11

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