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To go to a rave on my own?

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Ihearttheprodigy · 18/09/2024 22:13

I've called it a rave as its literally going to be a rave - its the Prodigy!! The support acts are brill on their own merit. It's a very late finish.

On my own. I'm middle aged. A mother of teenagers. I have a very professional corporate job. But I bloody love the Prodge. Every time they play this venue I've been to at least one of the nights and dragged a reluctant friend along. I have such a good time it genuinely lifts my mood for a very long time before and after.

I was ridiculously excited, and felt really confident about going on my own but now I'm feeling a bit sad and pathetic ☹️

Will I look a state? Aibu to just re-sell my ticket? 😔

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Gymmum82 · 20/09/2024 21:58

I’ve been to loads of gigs on my own. Also been to creamfields on my own. I’m in my 40’s. Just go you’ll have a blast

SocksAndTheCity · 20/09/2024 21:56

I'm going too! I saw them last year at Ally Pally and the year before at Brixton (where I'll be this time round in December) and Lord knows how many times before that - the first time was in 1992, I think.

I don't think I've ever not gone on my own? It's not like you can chat, is it?

ThereIsAlwaysWine · 20/09/2024 21:54

Thank you for this thread! It's my 50th birthday tomorrow and I just treated myself to a ticket to see The Prodigy in December! Buzzing!

Fupoffyagrasshole · 20/09/2024 19:15

Sorry what your husband thinks you can’t get yourself home after a night out? Wtf

i go out all night regularly with 2 small kids at home - at least once a month to various clubs/raves etc

I always was able to get myself home before I had a husband and am still perfectly capable

I never understand how settling down means you came still have parts of your old life - surely your the same person!

do you not go out ever to anything?

Puppypower83 · 20/09/2024 19:10

I was thinking the same this morning OP and chickened out - I assume they're sold out now 😭

HornyHornersPinger · 20/09/2024 19:05

I actually am going raving on 2nd November and I'm 44. It's a day rave, a big reunion that's gonna be full of us middle aged ravers probably loads with adult kids, I'm taking my daughter 😅

WinterFrog · 19/09/2024 15:35

Ihearttheprodigy · 19/09/2024 13:58

I told him earlier I was thinking of going on my own, just to test the water.

Apparently it will be too unsafe🙄. So I said well I'm going to get a ticket, does he want to come and protect me? He said no. I said no problem ill get just the one, I'll be fine don't worry everyone's cool at their gigs, and he said ill chicken out when it comes to paying.

😬

I can't wait!!! 🤩

Actually mine had a bit of a panic about me getting back to the car park safely late at night, but I said a) it's where everyone parks for that venue and b) he can drop me off and pick me up if he's that worried. Turns out he isn't that worried 😂

OldTinHat · 19/09/2024 14:11

I saw the Prodigy at the IOW festival in June. They were the highlight of my weekend, they're bloody incredible. When you're leaping about like a loon, no one will know or care if you're flying solo or are part of a group. Go, go!!!!!

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Ihearttheprodigy · 19/09/2024 13:58

I told him earlier I was thinking of going on my own, just to test the water.

Apparently it will be too unsafe🙄. So I said well I'm going to get a ticket, does he want to come and protect me? He said no. I said no problem ill get just the one, I'll be fine don't worry everyone's cool at their gigs, and he said ill chicken out when it comes to paying.

😬

I can't wait!!! 🤩

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TofuTart · 19/09/2024 13:44

Ihearttheprodigy · 19/09/2024 07:15

Other thing is.....I haven't told DP yet. And he will not be happy 😩

I asked him if he would go with me but he said no, its not for him. Even when I said it meant I prob couldn't go and I'd owe him big time and begged.

So I thought sod it, I'll go on my own.

He's going to be pretty pissed off I think. That I'm ok going on my own. That he'll think it's too dangerous. That it will mean I won't be home till about 2.30am (will get a taxi though).

Might just tell him I'm off for a night out with work 🤣

🥲
So he doesn't want to go but doesn't want you to go either just because he isn't?!
Oh screw that.
I go out by myself and DH doesn't mind, which is the way it should be!
Go on your own anyway, please don't miss out on stuff just because there's no-one else you know wanting to go.
Life's too short

WinterFrog · 19/09/2024 07:23

Have a great time! I'm going to a gig on my own next month and can't wait ( not a rave but a band that's a bit marmite, and I want to soak up the music without worrying about my companions being bored) I am having my second yoof in my 50s as I didn't do it properly the first time round.

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Ihearttheprodigy · 19/09/2024 07:15

Other thing is.....I haven't told DP yet. And he will not be happy 😩

I asked him if he would go with me but he said no, its not for him. Even when I said it meant I prob couldn't go and I'd owe him big time and begged.

So I thought sod it, I'll go on my own.

He's going to be pretty pissed off I think. That I'm ok going on my own. That he'll think it's too dangerous. That it will mean I won't be home till about 2.30am (will get a taxi though).

Might just tell him I'm off for a night out with work 🤣

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Ihearttheprodigy · 19/09/2024 06:36

Awww love your mum for that 😍

You're all right I don't know why I was wobbling about it, every Prodigy gig I've been to the crowd is amazing. All look out for each other. Last year I got chatting to a couple of yoofs at the bar who were lovely (although eyebrow raised when one of them mentioned Voodoo People "wasnt one of their best tunes" 😮) then when it actually started there was a Grandad and his mates next to us 🤣 pretty sure they were on something too 😬

I can't wait!!

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NoraLuka · 19/09/2024 06:36

I clicked on this thread thinking it was going to be a music in a field type rave - those happen in my area and I’d love to go, but nobody else wants to and I’ve never been brave enough to go on my own. I don’t think it would be a good idea to be fair!

Prodigy? Go, I hope you have the best time!

Stickortwister · 19/09/2024 06:31

I posted a similar thing a few years ago!
I ended up going to see prodigy on my own and it was a great night.
The worst bit was that the sweaty men in the crowd were not fit young ones with six packs any more but middle aged ones with massive guts swinging around., but as my body shape has changed a bit over the years I tried to not let it bother me and ended up nearer to the back where I could dance in peace.
Definitely do it!

Salledebain · 19/09/2024 06:27

My 66 year old mother went to a drum & bass rave on her own last month and had, in her words, the “best, most exhilarating night of her life!” 😂

Raves are great because most of the people there are there for the music & not appearances like a regular club night. There’s rarely any trouble and from my experience, there’s always a large age range in attendance which is lovely to see.

You’ll have an amazing time! Even if you are surrounded by those pesky youths with their iPhones, perms, and man bags (🙄🙄🙄)

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Ihearttheprodigy · 19/09/2024 06:09

Sorry I nodded off 🤣 the irony

And in my attempt at trying to keep it a bit vague I've been rumbled, was trying to make it sound like it could be Brixton but as a pp says they're not on sale yet. It's Manchester and got it in the presale (although I have seen them every time theyve been in Manc, just not at Mayfield venue) so if anyone from work reading yes hi, it is me, yes I was having a major wobble after all my bravado yesterday 😞

Thanks for the encouragement. Woken up a bit more positive!!

I absolutely intend on getting at the front 😃

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Theyhadalovelytime · 18/09/2024 23:16

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To be fair I was a 90's raver and if we'd had phones back then I'd have been recording the drop too 😎

Heelworkhero · 18/09/2024 23:08

How did you buy a ticket? The site says they’re not on sale until Friday!

TofuTart · 18/09/2024 23:07

The only reason I voted you ARE being unreasonable is because of your self doubt!
Get out there and enjoy yourself, woman 😁
(Mother of teenagers here too who loves going out by herself places!)

TeaAndTattoos · 18/09/2024 23:02

I don’t even like the prodigy but even I think you should bloody go I went to a Boyzone concert on my own it was the best month ever and I would do it again. You know you’re going to have to a brilliant night so just go.

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Theyhadalovelytime · 18/09/2024 22:58

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Omg don't be so ageist! I've been to loads of gigs where I'm near the front, the young people are always lovely. Jeez 🙄

LittleMy77 · 18/09/2024 22:53

Do it! I’ve been to 3 daytime clubbing festival / events recently by myself as no one else was free. Had an excellent time and didn’t regret it for a minute!

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