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AIBU to be miffed that my ex didn’t tell me straight away that our son was off school today.

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Pinksparkles84 · 18/09/2024 20:14

Long story short, my ex had DS last night after school. We parallel parent and I left him due to narcissistic abuse. We agreed that I’d have DS 8 out of 14 nights a week and him 6 out of 14 nights a week. Whenever he has DS he plinks him in front of an iPad for 10 hours and feeds him domino’s pizza. Ex has been very difficult about a number of things and we’re not really on speaking terms.

He text me at 8:45 this morning to say that DS was poorly and he was off school. I assumed that he’d be with ex at home. Ex then text back to say he had taken our son to work because he couldn’t get the day off and my MIL collected our son and took him back home. I’ve been quite busy today but have been feeling uneasy about it. Surely if DS was unwell he should have told me first and seen if I could have helped. I guess his thinking was that it was his day with DS and so he had to make his own arrangements but as a mother it would have been nice to have been told first thing in the morning so I could check in on him. I did work today but my boss has said I can WFH if needed and they’re very flexible with childcare. AIBU to be a bit miffed.

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MartinCrieffsLemon · 18/09/2024 20:27

Exactly as you said - it's his time to have DS so it's up to him to arrange child care

Sirzy · 18/09/2024 20:25

I think this is one of those cases with the other parent can’t do right for doing wrong. The counter argument could easily have been “AIBU to think my ex should arrange childcare when our son is sick on his days”

junebirthdaygirl · 18/09/2024 20:22

I would just leave it as he came up with a plan and at least gm was there to mind him. He sounds like it would just drain your energy to discuss it with him so l wouldn't bother

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