I have a friend who is much older than me. We met at work and just gelled. We have been close friends for about 6 years now.
I mention her age because she is of that generation where they don’t mince their words. However…I went over on Monday to do her a favour, take her to an appointment. When I arrived she told me she didn’t like my outfit.
I didn’t say anything at the time but found myself justifying what I was wearing (for context it was just leggings and a matching top as I had been out walking the dog and running errands). Later on I thought this isn’t the first time she’s commented on my appearance. It bothered me a lot. I just don’t see the need in saying something which is going to bring someone down? Especially a friend who is doing you a favour?
I text her that evening and told her she had made me feel quite down and I didn’t appreciate her commenting on my appearance. I’m sure I don’t always “like” what my friends are wearing but I don’t feel the need to point it out as it is only going to bring them down? They’re entitled to wear whatever they like.
But now I find myself myself feeling bad for saying something to her. She did apologise but made out I was being over sensitive and she was just making a joke? Which I don’t agree with at all.
So AIBU??