To be fuming at kids recording my child at school.

I think this is one of those "there's a big difference between primary and secondary" moments.

No one will be able to watch her all day every day. Most staff wont know her or that she needs an extra eye looking out for her. If she's laid down on the field, staff may not have realised she was there.

You have to decide if she can deal with secondary, or needs more support elsewhere. You couldn't have for seen the exact events of today but now you know to talk to her about what to do if she is in pain. Talk to her about returning to the medical room / reception. Explain that the floor isn't appropriate due to the potential germs and it will attract attention (whether she likes it or not).

I worked in a school.

A member of staff would man the first aid room if a students was sent ill from a lesson.

It was in a rota and the (first aid trained) admin staff did it.
If they'd rung your husband and he had told them to out her on the bus as normal then the staff at my school would have sent her out to the bus stop if public bus or playground where the buses come in if school bus.

They wouldn't have helped her get on the bus as your husband had said put her in the bus as normal.

Sounds like she wasn't well enough to go in the bus really.

The school will punish the students who filmed her if they can find them, but bus queues at the end of secondary are busy crowded places with a lot of students moving. There will only have been a few teachers supervising and it's easy to miss something like this as the focus of the teachers is on making sure everyone gets on the right bus.

If a secondary school rings to pick up a student they are generally very ill. It's very unusual.

Last year two girls from my daughter's year secretly recorded my daughter and another girl which caused my daughter to become hugely isolated from her friends. The teachers were aware but did absolutely nothing to the girls who made the recording. In fact, they didn't even inform me. 😣

Perhaps the field staff were unaware that your DD was in pain.
I feel it’s unfair to place blame on them if they didn’t know she needed an extra eye kept on her.
Reception staff should have made field staff aware DD may have needed extra help.

She was lying down in a field crying? Is she ok? That sounds so extreme

If you don't have any missed calls, check your number is right on their system.

(And yes, sometimes parents miss calls... thats why there is also voicemail!)

But you didn’t answer your phone and your DH said to put her on the bus as normal? That aside I would be pissed off about the filming too. It shouldn’t hard to track them down if they’re on the same bus

Your dd should not have been lying down on the field.
Staff will have been busy supervising and getting students on a bus.
If they had seen her in distress they would have helped her.
If she was in such agony your dh should have collected her.
The children should not have filmed her.
She will need to look at photos so they can identify the other kids.

My school had CCTV all over, I never consented to it.

I would say I was more filmed at school under its strict big brother watchful eye than anywhere else.

It's not the OPs fault, why are people focusing on that? Not everyone can have their phone on them at all times at work (DP and I are included in that) and most people don't have a random spare adult without a job and with a car who can just 'be on call'. School are in loco parentis. In loads of parts of the country it would take 90 minutes to get out of the office and to school, including in London. DD has asd and we're not giving up work on the off chance she might have a stomach ache one random Wednesday.

The issue is with the behaviour of other girls. Yes I would be raising it with the school and get them to deal with it. And I would also be asking them why they left her alone. Those are both reasonable things to do.

@memebuster I guess the fact it's a female name says as much . I didn't ever consider this before in all honesty.

OP, insert another word there - I appreciate you may feel you'll be seen as difficult ( I used the K word to try reference that. I think you will get what I mean)

The truth is that you aren't being difficult or over reacting. The impact SM and phones is and will continue to have is really underestimated by alot of us. I know it's also difficult to try not be ' that parent ' especially when our kids are ND. The school should be on this. I wouldn't mention safeguarding to them, it'll probably rub them the wrong way and I don't believe it would necessarily be seen that way.

I do think they will do something about this so hope they respond soon and hope your daughter is double ok aside from this.

I'm sure the school will take it very seriously, the fact a y7 was writhing around on the field in pain and then the videoing! There are ways and means of finding out who did it if it was shared, someone will tell on them. IME a whole y11 assembly would be called, a letter to parents etc. Your poor daughter, I'm so sorry no one was there with her. Xx

please don't use the term Karen. it's mysogynistic.

Sending love to your daughter xx unfortunately at secondary school there will be nasty children who will do things like this for their own selfish entertainment. I would take it up with the school because if there was a y7 lying on the floor crying in pain then surely a member of staff would be next to them and therefore the nasty girls wouldn't have dared film her? So where were the staff? Why was she left lying on the ground in tears?

Why could your H have not contacted you?

I understand your frustration and that's your dd is undoubtedly upset. School may have cctv.

Handing in 1200 phones every day is a stupid idea.

Hope she’s feeling better

It all sounds unpleasant, your poor daughter

but your husband said- if I read right- for her to get the bus as usual, so that’s what they did.

probably good idea to have a third local contact for you emergency’s is neither you not husband are able to get to school in less than 90mijutes