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My DS accidentally hurt his friend

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PGBland · 18/09/2024 16:50

I was taken to one side after school today as my DS has accidentally hurt another child (they are friends) apparently they were play fighting (not ideal anyway!) and he just caught this boy wrong.

I know who the boy is, and I don’t think his mum likes me very much anyway. So I’m pretty anxious about this incident now, if she was more approachable I wouldn’t feel so bad, but I do feel quite intimated by her.

The teacher told me that my DS was really honest and came to tell her what he’d done straight away. So wasn’t trying to hide it or pretend he hadn’t done it.

What do you think my next steps should be? I’m going to be worrying about this for days now! (I have ADHD and quite severe RSD so I’m panicking).

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Newsenmum · 18/09/2024 16:58

How badly was he hurt? I’d probably say oh hi I hope xxxx is ok. If it’s minor stuff like pushing and pulling I’d leave it .

msmatcha · 18/09/2024 16:57

I would approach the mum and just say you're sorry DS accidentally hurt her DS. Tell her he was a bit sad about it as they are friends and you just wanted to check he was ok. Do not be overly apologetic or anything, it's no big deal, just a little accidental injury. But nice to say something I think.

NewYearNewMeMamma · 18/09/2024 16:56

Honestly, I'd not even worry. Children are children and it's been dealt with and your child came clean. It happened in school so leave it at that.

Pippa12 · 18/09/2024 16:55

Children play fight and occasionally get hurt. He didn’t deny it and (assume) he apologised. How hurt is the other child- bruised etc or broken arm? If it’s just a minor injury the other mum would look a fool to kick off over this.

Try not to worry.

Mabelface · 18/09/2024 16:54

You don't need to do anything. School has dealt with it and it's done and dusted.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 18/09/2024 16:52

I wouldn't give it any further thought. My son either gets injured or someone else does every second day - if it wasn't intentional it is no big deal.